Wife to Vegas, Girls Weekend, Clubbing?

[oldshirt]

What are these other women like? Are they sane, sober, responsible, married women that respect their husbands and respect the sanctity of their marriages and will spend most of the trip obcessing about food and going out to eat and hitting the shops and going to shows and making occasional forays to the casino floor?

 

 

Or are they single, slutty women on the prowl and are irresponsible and prone to indulging in drunken, irresponsible behavior?

 

 

Are they recently divorced and embittered and have an ax to grind against men and the institution of marriage and are looking forward to going out to get their ego stroked by twirking up against strange men to get a rise out of them.

 

 

Are they desperate for attention and ego strokes where they will pick up total strangers to take back to their room for the momentary excitement of having some strange man desiring them?

 

 

And are these women so into clubbing and picking up men and think so little of marriage that they will encourage and support your wife in committing adultery and encourage her to get it on with strange men in a club?

 

 

or even if they have no overt encouragement for your wife to outright cheat, are they so self-absorbed and irresponsible that they will be too busy picking up strange men that they will abandon or won't look after your wife if she drinks too much and is becoming vulnerable and in danger?

[oldshirt]

I agree with Miss Bee above and a number of the other posters that have said if you wife is this loose and irresponsible and if these other women are loose and slutty and this is all just a means to get away and hit the clubs like a bunch of single 21 year olds and score some d!ck - then you have bigger problems on your hands already.

 

 

Yes, she is going to have opportunity to hook up with strange men while out clubbing it up and dirty dancing in Vegas.

 

 

But she has the same opportunities when she goes to the corner grocery store to pick up some milk and a loaf of bread.

 

 

If she becomes irresponsible and loose and slutty with other men when she drinks, then that is something that should have been addressed a long time ago.

 

 

If you really think she is this irresponsible and naïve and vulnerable or if she is this disrespectful to you and your marriage that you think she will be behaving in an irresponsible manner and will be this disregarding of her marriage - then as the other posters have suggested, have a serious face to face, sit down discussion with her on safe and appropriate behavior and state clearly your expectations for appropriate behavior and clearly state your boundaries.

 

 

If she then comes home pregnant or with STDs or comes home and reports a sexual assault or you have to catch a flight to Vegas to go bail her out of jail, then there will be appropriate repercussions for her behavior.

[oldshirt]

What are these other women like? Are they sane, sober, responsible, married women that respect their husbands and respect the sanctity of their marriages and will spend most of the trip obcessing about food and going out to eat and hitting the shops and going to shows and making occasional forays to the casino floor?

 

 

Or are they single, slutty women on the prowl and are irresponsible and prone to indulging in drunken, irresponsible behavior?

 

 

Are they recently divorced and embittered and have an ax to grind against men and the institution of marriage and are looking forward to going out to get their ego stroked by twirking up against strange men to get a rise out of them.

 

 

Are they desperate for attention and ego strokes where they will pick up total strangers to take back to their room for the momentary excitement of having some strange man desiring them?

 

 

And are these women so into clubbing and picking up men and think so little of marriage that they will encourage and support your wife in committing adultery and encourage her to get it on with strange men in a club?

 

 

or even if they have no overt encouragement for your wife to outright cheat, are they so self-absorbed and irresponsible that they will be too busy picking up strange men that they will abandon or won't look after your wife if she drinks too much and is becoming vulnerable and in danger?

 

 

 

In regards to the mentality and responsibility of the other women going are this - if these are loose, slutty women who have little regard for the sanctity of marriage whether they are single or are going through a break up and have little regard for marriage and they have histories of drunken, slutty, irresponsible behavior and they are going to get out of town so they can get their slut on, then that is not an appropriate venue for married woman to be accompanying them.

 

 

If it is other happily, healthily married women who respect their husbands and their marriages and have never displayed any irresponsible, disrespectful or inappropriate behavior for a married woman and they are all sober and responsible enough to watch each other's backs and keep each other from getting vulnerable to predatorial behavior of perverted men, then your letting your own insecurities and your projection of your own desires for extramarital activity get the best of you.

 

 

But where I am really going with this is that the mentality and maturity and responsibility of the other women really does matter.

 

 

I had to deal with this one time early in our marriage. My wife had a couple single friends that were irresponsible and prone to slutty, drunken behavior when they were out drinking and clubbing and they were going as a group on a singles cruise and a couple of people canceled and so they invited my wife.

 

 

All my wife heard was the word "cruise" and she was all excited and wanted to go. When I brought up the appropriateness of a married women going on a singles cruise with a group of slutty, loose, drunken, irresponsible women she initially got defensive because she wasn't going with the intention or goal of cheating or hooking up with dudes.

 

 

And while even though I did trust her in general, I simply did not want my wife in an environment where getting drunk and hooking up with strangers was part and parcel of environment.

 

 

I told her that assuming she wasn't picking up dudes and bringing them back to the room (they had a shared cabin) I didn't want my wife laying in bed trying to sleep while the bed was shaking from her friend getting the lumber layed to her by some strange, drunk, horny guy.

 

 

and I asked her to think about how much fun she'd really have being on a boat with some drunk, slutty women picking up dudes all the time.

 

 

Her options were to either pick up dudes and party it up with them and face the repercussions of divorce when she got home. Or wander around the boat trying to entertain herself while everyone else was fcking.

 

 

After some thoughtful deliberation she opted to decline the invitation.

Edited January 16, 2016 by oldshirt