nakamuru Posted January 14, 2016 Share Posted January 14, 2016 I'm a korean guy who has a friend who is a korean girl. I obviously have a crush on her but I'm more just connected that we have similar circumstances. I only met here twice but we text everyday (some of them are really long). I initiate most of it but I think she doesn't mind and she still mirrors my messages. I feel i'm trying to get close to here so i can spend more time with her but then i realize i just want to be friends cause relationships can get ugly etc.. So we are just kind of friends and not crossing any boundaries.. So my question is 1. If she gets a boyfriend (which I think she is kind of venturing out to meet people and motive is to find a bf), how should I handle it? I still have desire towards her but i have more of a i don't want to break up friendship and want this to last long. (seems people come and go in my life so im more about this friendship then anything else). But if she gets a boyfriend and spends lot of time with him and does all those cutsey stuff, I'll probally be kind of jealous and devasted little too.. So yeah expecting the worst case scenario.. so should i just kind of distant myself .. and i too hunt for a gf? (which is harder cause gals have more people lined up ) Guess that's one reason guy and girl can't be friends sometimes. But yeah she did mention she wants to go places in future and such but had few cancelled situations (not cause she had someone else but cold feet of getting too close to me or something).. I hope it doesn't get complicated.. thanks for reading Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 14, 2016 Share Posted January 14, 2016 Well, it is hard to keep a friendship with someone if you're jealous because then you're frequently miserable. If you are friends and that's all you plan on being with her, then she gets to talk about her dates with you and you have to suck it up and be mature. And yes, definitely, you should start trying to date others, although it was unclear whether you wanted a romantic relationship exactly. But you should not focus on her. Unless you're willing to risk dating and breaking up, she shouldn't be number one in your life, nor you number one in hers. Good luck. Also, you need to be prepared to be left out a lot more because most guys wouldn't want her being too close to someone else, plus if she starts dating, she will simply be too busy. Link to post Share on other sites
privategal Posted January 15, 2016 Share Posted January 15, 2016 Just ask her out already. It doesn't make sense for a grown man to be afraid to try an honest relationship because it can get messy? Thats just immature thinking. So don't let it get messy. Do your best to care for each other and support each other. There is no use to collect yet another friend. When you have a crush and are already apprehensive of if she gets a boyfriend then ask her out properly on a date. Don't beat around the bush its not like you have been close friends for years. If your a wimp and dont take your chance you miss out as her boyfriend might not allow guy friends and she will write you off and be busy with him. Your both single and they say date someone who would also be your best friend. Be a gentleman and ask her out. Link to post Share on other sites
pro100pk2 Posted January 17, 2016 Share Posted January 17, 2016 friendship between a girl and a guy does not exist sooner or later one of them will fall in love with another and here are the problems or a pair of lovers Link to post Share on other sites
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