RySant Posted January 17, 2016 Share Posted January 17, 2016 I dont agree with you:) honey:cool: Are you saying that you want OP to have that affair? Link to post Share on other sites
gettingstronger Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 First, stop referring to her as the OW- she is not your OW- you are getting ahead of yourself in this fantasy- Next, yes- court your wife- I know when my husbands affair was exposed one of the things that really stung was that he spent time texting, etc... I would have loved some of that attention- in retrospect he says if he had put that effort in to us it probably would have paid off in a more positive way- Good luck! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Clavel Posted January 19, 2016 Share Posted January 19, 2016 I know I'm being juvenile and need to let this be, but it's just killing me. I feel a need to talk to her whenever possible. I need help! I have stated fantasizing about getting divorced and running off with her more than once and know I need to let this go, but I just can't. I need help and don't want to wreck my marriage and hurt my kids. then don't! i'm going to say to you what i said to my husband, the day he found out that i knew, "as your friend of 20 years, i'm telling you, this will NOT end well" your kids will be living without you. they will not live with you again. they will have a scar on their hearts, forever. Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Clavel Posted January 19, 2016 Share Posted January 19, 2016 i dont agree with you, i would though advice you () to follow your heart and not even listen to your own advice (if im making myself clear:)) have simply heard of too many sad stories of people taking the wrong course following others advice, and living a life without love, but again one can argue if your not mature enough to walk your own way maybe love wasnt yours to be at the time:confused: i though would like to think that that isnt the case:love:i agree. and i told my ex the same thing. every one deserves to find the love of their life, their soulmate. however, it would be nice if they inform the person they are married to that even tho they married them, they are not the love of their life. i suggest they do this before gettin it in, if you catch my drift. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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