drgnflybethany Posted June 6, 2005 Share Posted June 6, 2005 [font=arial][/font][color=blue][/color] This is my first post... and, unfortunately, it will be lengthy one, so I apologize in advance: I broke up with my husband in November, and the divorce was final in March. During that period of time, I met a man that was a total jerk. My whole life, I've lived with the philosophy that the worst thing anyone can say is, "no." Carpe Diem and all that. My Mom instilled that in me, oddly enough. With the guy that was a jerk.. I lived by that philosophy, and thought that signs I saw were of his interest, which turned out to be completely bogus. (Stay with me here, it is critical that you understand the above sentences...) So, around the time I discovered that Mr. X was a jerk, another man entered my life.. from all outward appearances, he is a very sweet, caring guy. The problem? He's totally hot - easily the most gorgeous guy that has ever spoken to me before. Throughout my life, I haven't exactly been pursued, or at least, to my knowledge been pursued. I met Mr. Hot in a coffee house I go to on a regular basis - and I had seen him around in the few months, but as it happened, I went in one Saturday to discover there were no tables, and the only chair I could find was sitting opposite him. I asked if I could sit down - and he said yes.. then, he went to ask me about the stickers on my laptop. I went to Ohio (from Texas) to work on the Presidential campaign - while there, I stuck two stickers on my laptop - one, I amalgamated into "Stitches for Kerry/Edwards..." the other was the anti-W. He was polite when he said I could sit down - and I did - and about five minutes passed, then he asked me what did "Stitches for Kerry/Edwards" mean. I tried to explain about Lilo and Stitch (being in the upper 20's, I still find Stitch hilarious and love the little blue dude to death...) but he said he had never heard of Stitch... and I honestly thought, "what a tragic life he's led..." His friend came by and he left. That was a Saturday - the following Monday was an officer meeting of the local Young Democrats club, of which I am the VP of communications. Before the meeting, I was hanging out at the coffee shop and he honestly came over to me to tell me, that he'd been meaning to tell me, "he had worked for Bush..." I blew it off thinking he had worked on the campaign, by telling him that it wasn't uncommon around here. He seemed taken aback. Found out in a later conversation that he actually worked in the White House... for this President (still having a hard time with that one...) I've let him come up and talk to me - which he does everytime we're in the coffee house together... The coffee house, once my refuge from the outside world - where I focused on taking care of the Young Democrat website and my own personal website, has now become a place to run into Mr. Hot - and my focus has obviously been thrown off course because of it. And then, I believe I blew it, twice... once when he asked what my plans for the weekend were... and I totally didn't see it coming and thought this was just conversation.. and blew it off by saying, painting, cleaning, and working on the YD site...which wasn't a total blow off - more like a truth telling.. believe me if he'd have said, would you like to go for lunch, I would have been thrilled to give up my plans... and then, a little bit later that day he offered whatever help I needed with the web site... that's when I had an inkling that maybe he had feelings for me.. because a Republican offering to help with a Democratic web site just doesn't happen every day. So.. I told myself I wouldn't blow it again, but did so, when he asked on Sunday if he would see me on Monday - and I said, I didn't know b/c work was totally busy.. which was honestly the truth... Me and the truth... He disappeared for about a week and a half.. but in all fairness, he knew I had a friend coming in from Australia... He showed up again this past Wednesday - and asked me if he would see me on Thursday, and I said, yeah.. probably (so, I didn't blow it again)... Saw him Thursday and today.. What blows my mind about today - he made a comment - forgive me, but the exact words leave me, something to the tune of, "you're making me think about becoming a Democrat." I needed help - that he previously offered regarding the website, and that's what I wanted to talk to him about. Here are my issues: Mr. X - really hurt me, let alone my divorce... I am avoiding being the one (for probably the first time in my life) to make all the moves... Mr. Hot - took me a month to learn his name, he hasn't asked for any contact information - except today, he did get my email address... and I'm not entirely sure that was in reference to the website - but hasn't used it yet.. Mr. Hot is totally hot.. Gorgeous blue eyes that stare straight into mine.. I keep asking myself what he could possibly see in me.. I don't know what he wants from these conversations... I have two friends - both of whom hated Mr. X (just by what I told them about him) who don't want me to give up on Mr. Hot. I'm afraid that I'm setting myself up for another hurt, and I don't think I have it in me to take that again so very soon. I don't want to read into this... I don't want to misread the body language or do what I did w/ Mr. X - and for that reason, Carpe Diem has exited my vocabularly - and things are taken twice as long as they normally would. So anyone that can give me any clarity - especially that whole thinking about becoming a democrat thing - please let me know... Link to post Share on other sites
Sami43 Posted June 6, 2005 Share Posted June 6, 2005 Wow...... Mr. Hot does sound very hot. Can't resist those blue eyed guys!! Anyway, I took the "you are making me think about being a democrat" line to mean that he is very impressed with you and I think he would like to get to know you better. Because of your past hurt, I would let him do all the work, and I would stay completely neutral until you are sure where he is coming from. Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 6, 2005 Share Posted June 6, 2005 Interesting story! Some random reactions: He sounds sweet. But all of us have a type and you have just finished with 2 that were bad for you. It would be worth reflecting how you got into these and why (or if) this is likely to be different. Bipartisan relationships often have way more chemistry than a couple with exactly the same political views. The challenge of the different and all that. Trust me on this The Democrat comment may just be a joke. I doubt he would change his politics that quickly. In fact, I would be suspicious if he did... unless this has been something he had been considering already, and you're just the final straw. Link to post Share on other sites
Author drgnflybethany Posted June 7, 2005 Author Share Posted June 7, 2005 Thanks, RR... I would have honestly been disappointed if he had just stopped being a Republican so quickly... so, I didn't think it was anything other than either A - a line... or B - a flirt. The fight's what I love... the last two - well, the ex-husband, never fought - not that kind of intellectual stimulation - and he ran as far away from a fight as possible... The other guy - we were never in a "relationship." And what I was attracted to, was the belief that what I saw was emotional maturity. That I met head on the realization that he was not emotionally mature, was a step in the right direction - and believe me, I met it head on... and let it go.. As for Mr. Hot.... well, my immediate comment to, "you're making me think about becoming a Democrat," was that wasn't my intention at all. I want the fight... I feel so alive in those arguments... I know there's a lot of interest in a fight - a political fight - that garners a lot of chemistry. I just wish I could believe in love tonight... Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 7, 2005 Share Posted June 7, 2005 Originally posted by drgnflybethany I just wish I could believe in love tonight... ?? Link to post Share on other sites
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