expensive_labels Posted January 16, 2016 Share Posted January 16, 2016 Well I've been noticing my girl liking this particular guys' facebook post and picturess ALOT... I wouldn't say all, but about from 70-75% of what he post.. Not to sound like a homosexual but he's no Chris Brown or whatever , just a regular dude with some muscles...But thats neither here nor there.... Anyways, I've been noticing that she's liking ALOT of the stuff he's posting on his facebook..Never seen her comment on it, but if he uploads a new pic it's definitely a good chance she's going to like it, or if he post a status or somethign on FaceBook its a 7/10 she'll like it... MY question is, is if your girlfriend is constantly liking another man's pic or post at a noticeable rate, what would you think ? Oh not to mention, one day I checked her INSTAGRAM comments- from some of her older pictures from about 57 weeks ago when we were broken up...And guess who I stumble across? .......The GUY...It's the same dude from FB...He starts the comment off with that 2 eyed emoji (the one that's making like a shocked look).... -Then she replies back with a kiss and a heart. -Then he says "how you been" . -She responds "Good and you" .... -He responds " Ok could be better, u left me to rot in NY" ((oh yeah just to let you guys know..My girl goes to Penn state)).... -But yea then my girl replies " Lol, u wanna talk about this through text or keep commenting under this pic?" -He replies " ok text me i have the same #". Then she replies "ok the 347-322 number? "... I know this post might seem jumbled or coherent, but I need advice-opinions and answers ! These comments were from 57 weeks ago when me and my GF had been broken up and weren't talking at the time -but now were back together !...And I can't help but notice the fact that she's liking a good amount of his stuff on FaceBook... Could they possibly have had sex? Does she like him more than me? Would she cheat on me with him at this point....? I know that no ones perfect and I genuinely think my girl is a good person/girlfriend for the most part . BUT things DO happen !! But this is bothering me. She's a good sweet ambitious girl ,but that's neither here nor there- and says nothing about her capability of infidelity....Any advice thoughts opinions?? P.S Me and her have gotten back together about 3 times in past 2 years.. Link to post Share on other sites
Space Ritual Posted January 16, 2016 Share Posted January 16, 2016 P.S Me and her have gotten back together about 3 times in past 2 years.. That pretty much says it all, E.L. Back and forth back and forth. One or the other of you are likely to not have been celibate while you were broken up. But again, if they hooked up while you were broken up, then it is what it is. So she keeps in contact with him on FB. Maybe they have a FWB arrangement, maybe not. So all you have is a thread from a year ago, her liking his pics and and a GF you have been broken up with multiple times in the last couple of years. You cannot control anyone but yourself, so ask her about this dude. Based on how she answers, it should be pretty clear afterwards on how to proceed. If her answers are satisfactory, so be it. If her answers aren't then break up with her again and move forward. But don't assume anything, ask her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author expensive_labels Posted January 16, 2016 Author Share Posted January 16, 2016 That pretty much says it all, E.L. Back and forth back and forth. One or the other of you are likely to not have been celibate while you were broken up. But again, if they hooked up while you were broken up, then it is what it is. So she keeps in contact with him on FB. Maybe they have a FWB arrangement, maybe not. So all you have is a thread from a year ago, her liking his pics and and a GF you have been broken up with multiple times in the last couple of years. You cannot control anyone but yourself, so ask her about this dude. Based on how she answers, it should be pretty clear afterwards on how to proceed. If her answers are satisfactory, so be it. If her answers aren't then break up with her again and move forward. But don't assume anything, ask her. Honestly I'm too scared to ask , because she has NO idea that I can see that she's liking all of this guys stuff. She might think I'm a pervert. FWB? Sheesh that's not good at all. But Idk. Just kind of have a gut feeling. Link to post Share on other sites
Space Ritual Posted January 16, 2016 Share Posted January 16, 2016 Well, the question is how much longer do you want to be suspicious and not find out. Gut feelings are very hard to deny. Rarely has my gut feeling been wrong about something that pertained to me in a relationship. So I understand how you feel. But, consider that if you feel you are better off not knowing then don't pursue it any further. I'd want to know right away and I would not hesitate to ask her if I was in your position. But do not let fear stop you from finding out what type of person you are dating. You would do yourself a great disservice and you could be denying someone that would be happy to be in a relationship with you just that... So think about how much longer you will be able to keep that knot in your stomach at bay. Is this guy making public posts on FB or something or does she just not have her activity very private? You don't have to give up your source. If it's FB people have little actual knowledge about what other people who are mutual friends can actually see. It always surprises me how much of other people's activity I don't care about at all comes up on my feeds and I am not a regular Social Media user by any means. People are pretty lax as far as leaving an online trail as its the last thing they really think about. I'd still ask her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author expensive_labels Posted January 17, 2016 Author Share Posted January 17, 2016 Well, the question is how much longer do you want to be suspicious and not find out. Gut feelings are very hard to deny. Rarely has my gut feeling been wrong about something that pertained to me in a relationship. So I understand how you feel. But, consider that if you feel you are better off not knowing then don't pursue it any further. I'd want to know right away and I would not hesitate to ask her if I was in your position. But do not let fear stop you from finding out what type of person you are dating. You would do yourself a great disservice and you could be denying someone that would be happy to be in a relationship with you just that... So think about how much longer you will be able to keep that knot in your stomach at bay. Is this guy making public posts on FB or something or does she just not have her activity very private? You don't have to give up your source. If it's FB people have little actual knowledge about what other people who are mutual friends can actually see. It always surprises me how much of other people's activity I don't care about at all comes up on my feeds and I am not a regular Social Media user by any means. People are pretty lax as far as leaving an online trail as its the last thing they really think about. I'd still ask her. It might sound crazy but I look through her male friends FB pages and spy. And just so happen she seems to like everything this particular guy post. Wouldn't that make you suspicious ? I know it isn't a sure indicator ! But if a girl likes most or all my post I feel like she's somewhat interested in me or atleast interested in what I'm doing and basically I'll have a valid shot at striking up good convo with her. But the way it is I have no connection to this dude at all - so me bringing up this dude its really going to seem weird and stalker-ish. I don't know - I wouldn't doubt that they text. Ughhhhhh man relationships and feelings and just so frustrating. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted January 17, 2016 Share Posted January 17, 2016 It is impossible to say if she's sleeping with this guy; we can't answer that because there's just not enough information. It's clear she likes him on some level but it's anyone guess if he's just a friend or something more. Why have you broken up so many times? That alone is an indication the relationship isn't on solid ground, which should concern you. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 Honestly I'm too scared to ask , because she has NO idea that I can see that she's liking all of this guys stuff. She might think I'm a pervert. FWB? Sheesh that's not good at all. But Idk. Just kind of have a gut feeling. You're her boyfriend! Are you tell us that you two aren't facebook friends? Because if you are, then her liking someone's photo shows up in your general feed. Or when you go to her page, you can see that she's liked someone pic on her wall. How is that being pervy? Link to post Share on other sites
brothers343 Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 I'm gonna keep it real with you.....this relationship has more of a chance at failing then prevailing. Apperently she has an attraction towards the guy,plus she's in college. Do you really think that she is thinking about the future with you. She might say she is but..... you have btoken up 3 times, If you were married I would tell you to try and fix this but I would tell her to keep talking to that dude and to continue her flirting ways via facebook. She's playing the feild you are just not seeing it yet. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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