GF goes to college out of state. What are chances of cheating ?

[expensive_labels]

Me and this girl have been on and off for about 2 and a half years. We first met 2 years ago during summer time just before she left to go to Penn State for her freshman year. It was cool , I never tried to persuade her not to pursue hear dream, because I'm not that type of person.

 

So yeah, we've been on an off for 2 years - when she goes away the communication is still pretty solid. But I try to give her space. We've spoke about it a few times openly and she did admit to having a threesome while away at school- the three some consisting of my gf , her bestfriend and her best friend boyfriend.

 

I'm not even going to lie, this kind of shocked me when she told me this, definitely threw me off guard. But my response was "damn you and your bestfriend must really have a great friendship/understanding if you're giving her BF threesomes". (We were broken up at this time so I didn't stress it much ).

 

But yeah, I'm not one to judge a person off their sexual prowess, because I think my GF is ultimately a good person at the end of the day. But that's not the point ! She took me back multiple times - if she did cheat I never knew about it and if she does , she does a good job of hiding it

 

Now to close this piece- I must say she treats me well , gives me attention but that doesn't mean she doesn't cheat. But one thing I must say my girl is a really a freak , she lives sex - which is great for me. But when I met her she always had this kinda' freaky way about her. NOT TO MENTION she has

-Both breasts pierced

-Belly button pierced

-Vagina piercing (This really threw me off)

 

My questions to you guys is ,

1) Do you think she'll cheat , because I know she loves sex !

2) Would you trust a girlfriend that has VAGINA PIERCING..

3) What's are the chances/percentages that you think a girl would cheat while away at college?

 

I know she's having fun because I've seen her friends Instagram and seen my girl doing lots of those college drinking games - drinking pics, party pics etc - which is fine but still it's kinda' sketchy. I know she drinks and smokes. So I don't know guys - what do you think ?

[lolablue17]

Hi. I think that all of the "signs" you've mentioned here are worthless. She can be a saint, and still cheating on you while away. You cannot predict those things. Yes, the fact that she loves sex so much means she might need it while away, but why don't you ask her how does she going to deal with it?

 

I'm not a favor of LDR because I think it's a recipe for troubles, including cheating, breakups, and general misery.

[expensive_labels]

Would you trust a girl that has both breast pierced and vagina?

[emi]

Well she isnt the girl for you.

I can sense that the fact she drinks, smoke, has alot piercing bother you alot. I imagine you to be a decent kind of guy who doesnt out partying every week.

For me, i dont drink,smoke, get myself a piercing/tatoo because i dont like it. Lucky for me my boyfriend is the same. He got no drinking problem, doesnt smoke, and doesnt have tatoo or piercing

If he were to smoke, i would never be in relationship with him because i hate smoking. I cant breath near people who do.

If its bother you, then dont do it. You dont have to.

About her sexuality , maybe it can makes her cheating chance become higher but unless you have solid proof, everything is in your head.

Go do some investigation or try to get some self confidence.

For your question , i dont like people who got tatoo or piercing in general but i dont think i can judge anyone base on it

[justwhoiam]

Me and this girl have been on and off for about 2 and a half years.

Were the breakups just because of distance or more due to other reasons, like personalities issues or incompatibility?

 

she did admit to having a threesome while away at school

Althought that happened during one of your breakups, she obviously made it clear to you. That what she's like: take it or leave it.

 

I'm not one to judge a person off their sexual prowess

Fine, but if that's your reasoning, it needs to continue later on, should you want a steady relationship with her. Possible ongoing breakups included.

 

if she did cheat I never knew about it and if she does , she does a good job of hiding it

Why is that so important to you? I mean, knowing if she has sex with other people? You clearly stated that you won't judge her based on that. I think you need to review your point of view here. Maybe due to your background, you want to be politically correct at all costs, trying to deny your own judgment, needs or instincts? I guess you need a solid bond with your girlfriend, and that is hardly possible with a girl who lets others in so easily. I'm not saying it can't happen, just more difficult and generally less viable.

 

1) Do you think she'll cheat , because I know she loves sex !

Quite likely.

2) Would you trust a girlfriend that has VAGINA PIERCING..

If I were a man, I'd probably stay clear. Even using a condom, if she has anything, you'd be at risk. The more so, if she has multiple partners and is prone to one-night stands. It's just a matter of choice to me, she wouldn't be my kind of partner.

3) What's are the chances/percentages that you think a girl would cheat while away at college?

53% overall.

 

I've seen [...] my girl doing lots of those college drinking games - drinking pics, party pics etc - which is fine

Then you need to be fine with any possible consequence coming from that.

[RySant]

1) Do you think she'll cheat , because I know she loves sex !

 

If given the opportunity and if the guy is hot, them most probably.

 

2) Would you trust a girlfriend that has VAGINA PIERCING..

 

You are obviously looking for a modest woman. If you are looking for a woman with high morals like, for example, Mother Teresa, do you expect her to have vagina piercing? :rolleyes:

 

3) What's are the chances/percentages that you think a girl would cheat while away at college?

 

Again, if she had an opportunity, 101%

[expensive_labels]

If given the opportunity and if the guy is hot, them most probably.

 

 

 

You are obviously looking for a modest woman. If you are looking for a woman with high morals like, for example, Mother Teresa, do you expect her to have vagina piercing? :rolleyes:

 

 

 

Again, if she had an opportunity, 101%

 

Damn...101 percent ?? Wow. Have you been cheated on ? Are you speaking from experience.

[ExpatInItaly]

I think you should end it. There's obviously not a lot of trust here and you don't seem comfortable with many of her choices and decisions.

 

Also, if you've previously broken up, the relationship isn't exactly very solid to begin with.

 

Did you previously post a thread about your girlfriend liking some guy's FB/IG posts?

[pteromom]

I find it VERY odd that you don't want to judge her for her threesome while you were broken up for a bit, but you have no problem basing your opinion about what type of person is on what type of piercings she has.

 

People have piercings because they like to feel alternative and cool, or they like the way the piercings feel. They don't get them as a symbol of being untrustworthy. :D

 

Since you are able to get back together with her after her being with someone else, I would just go ahead and break it off with her. Let her be free, and you be free too. Keep in contact with her, but let her do her own thing.

 

Then if she gets through college and you are available, and you two want to make a real go of it, that's great.

 

If you don't want to break up with her, then you have to just trust her until you have reason not to (a piercing doesn't count). There is no way to figure the "chances" of cheating, because it is very individual. Some people would never cheat no matter what, and others would cheat at every opportunity. You have a better idea of what kind of person she is than we do.

[VeveCakes]

I have a clit piercing, and I am a very sexual person - but I am also the most loyal. So yes, on that alone I would trust someone lol or better not have a reason not to trust them.

[2much4]

It really doesn't matter if she cheats or not.

You don't trust her. You judge her based on her piercings and feel suspicious about her sexuallity and freaky ways.

 

Save yourself the anxiety, break up and find a girl you respect and appreciate as she is.

 

This is assuming you're not suspicious with all your girlfriends. If you do have recuring trust issues, I'd suggest you adress those before you dump her.

[sensewriter]

Long distance with such a sexual young girl who's going to a big uni just isn't gonna happen. Forget about it.

[Aika]

Would you trust a girl that has both breast pierced and vagina?

What does that have to do with being trust worthy??

[RecentChange]

No way in hell I would save myself for a LD boyfriend while I was in college - few places offer as many opportunities for sex than college!

 

So yeah I would say the odds of cheating are high. she sounds like the sort that enjoys causal sex, and well there is lots to be had while off to school.

 

What's the long term plan with you two?

 

I did meet my BF, who shortly after became a long distance BF while I was in school, but we got together 2-4 times a month to hump like monkeys, and was LD for just 6 months.... I couldn't imagine making abstinence a long term thing while in college!