Dating and Healthy Relationships: 8 Tips to Meet the True Love of your Life

[KathBabe]

You now know what the red flags to keep bad men or women at a distance. The next question is: what now? What if you want a great relationship, but your true love is nowhere in sight? Ask yourself then one after the other the following eight questions:

 

1. Are you requiring it realistic?

 

The perfect partner ... He / she is loving, caring, honest, handsome, romantic, independent, has great friends, do not smoke, does not drink, is at least 1 meter 85 and toned, or no more than 1 meter 74 and slim, at least five years younger etc. Have you ever noticed that your list of requirements does not meet the (nice) partners you've had in the past? Of course you best what to expect from your partner. Of course, it can also been seen. And of course you should not settle for the first man or woman that comes your way. But your prince or princess will appear earlier if you soften your demands.

 

2. What are the 'must have' features of your date?

 

Going on from point number one above, it is useful to know what you really think is important in a relationship. Think especially about things such as comfort, fun, friendship, be kind to each other, good communication (over: 'What's for dinner tonight? "), Deep intimacy (beyond sex) much time for each other (with a workaholic that difficult) or true passion, lot of freedom and space for yourself. Create a top-five and keep it in mind. If you know what you want you are more likely to recognize the right man or woman that suits you. That throws you trashy requirements like "He should not wear white socks" or "She must have her long blond 'overboard.

 

3. What are you doing to meet the one?

 

Alone at home on the couch you met anyone. Try to create more social contact moments. Then think beyond the local pub, parties or Tinder. Where are you happy? Why have you not been there yet? What can you do in the coming period all to get to know more cool people? Just ask your friends and acquaintances if they know of any nice single or have great ideas to meet more people. Through the grapevine you can gain very nice spontaneous contacts! Anyway you do not directly with him or marry her, so keep it playful and airy!

 

 

 

4. How many great men and women are there in your opinion?

 

"I am almost never in love." "All the good women are busy." "The men where I fall are all married." What say you all to yourself? And how positive these thoughts of yours are? If you believe that there are few nice available men or women, then you will certainly not often encounter them. For should mister or miss perfect long walk, you would immediately think that is occupied. What a missed opportunity! For this you do not quite know. The more you think there are plenty of nice men or women, including you, the more you will see and recognize them.

 

5. How do you stand open for a relationship?

 

Maybe you think you're open to a relationship. But is this really true? Or paste your wounds closed with the idea that you like to meet a new love? Maybe you still have the belief that your ex is the love of your life, making a new love does not stand a chance. Or maybe you think that every man / woman you eventually will cheat so you keep appropriate dates at a distance. Have you cleaned up old baggage? Baggage in the form of ex'en and negative beliefs?

 

6. How much time and chances do you give a date?

 

How fast have you formed your opinion about your date? Within a second (not a good thing, exit it!), Or do you give your date a little more time and space to show how charming, loving and caring he / she is? Look (especially if you're aiming for a relationship for a long time) beyond your nose. Be open-minded. Try yourself another man to stand in front at the first glance not so perfect date, especially if you are used to fall on the wrong gender before.

 

7. How do you think a date or should feel a relationship?

 

People who fall into the wrong men or women find a quiet date without strong emotions often boring. Boring is a subjective opinion. Boring can also mean reliable, honest, loving and a longer-term successful, fine relationship. If you have a date without feeling directly fireworks and passion, do not write the date down immediately. If you feel comfortable and at ease, if you can laugh without that you immediately want to tear the clothes of his or her world view appropriated, it could be just a very positive signal!

 

8. How glad and happy are you?

 

Happy people smile more, are more open, more rays and act like magnets. Ask yourself honestly how happy are you as a single? Or are you looking for a partner to make you happy? Complementing your life, because you are actually deep inside you feel lonely and unhappy? A partner can be a lot of love, joy and happiness entail, but no need to be happy. You're not in an intermediate stage of your life! Enjoy your life and be especially happy with who you are, what you do and what you have!

 

Mentally fit singles are happy with who they are, what they do and what they have. Strive for a relationship is fine, but also without a partner, you can be perfectly happy! Be proactive, not obsessive. Nothing is as unattractive as a desperate man or woman who is looking for a relationship.