ZA Dater Posted January 17, 2016 Share Posted January 17, 2016 OLD: tick tried that. Meetup: tried that Friends help: tried that At what point do you decide its just simpler to pay for somebody to come to dinner with you, pay them to come to events with you. Rather sadly I think I have arrived at that point where the above is looking like a last ditch option to try and bring some feeling of actually having someone. Of course one should never consider this but after yet more disappointment I am just wondering if the above wouldn't be a band aid solution full of large negatives and the only positive being I wouldn't be on my own all the time. Link to post Share on other sites
joystickd Posted January 17, 2016 Share Posted January 17, 2016 OLD: tick tried that. Meetup: tried that Friends help: tried that At what point do you decide its just simpler to pay for somebody to come to dinner with you, pay them to come to events with you. Rather sadly I think I have arrived at that point where the above is looking like a last ditch option to try and bring some feeling of actually having someone. Of course one should never consider this but after yet more disappointment I am just wondering if the above wouldn't be a band aid solution full of large negatives and the only positive being I wouldn't be on my own all the time. How about you just work in you and when that happens the dates will come? There is a fundamental reason why you can't get dates and it starts with you. Link to post Share on other sites
ScienceGal Posted January 17, 2016 Share Posted January 17, 2016 Are you looking to date or make friends? I've had little luck with OLD, but have made friends through meetup. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ZA Dater Posted January 17, 2016 Author Share Posted January 17, 2016 How about you just work in you and when that happens the dates will come? There is a fundamental reason why you can't get dates and it starts with you. I cant change the things which are apparently wrong with me. Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted January 17, 2016 Share Posted January 17, 2016 I cant change the things which are apparently wrong with me. Clothes can be changed. Wild crazy hair then go with a crew cut. Hit the gym and get toned. If already toned add some more. Read books on holding conversations, social good manners. Join clubs that have you doing activities that attract women. Running, biking, cooking, volley ball. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ZA Dater Posted January 17, 2016 Author Share Posted January 17, 2016 Clothes can be changed. Wild crazy hair then go with a crew cut. Hit the gym and get toned. If already toned add some more. Read books on holding conversations, social good manners. Join clubs that have you doing activities that attract women. Running, biking, cooking, volley ball. Been there done that. I frankly cant be bothered anymore chasing a unicorn. I do enough of the things I enjoy and they don't attract women. Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted January 17, 2016 Share Posted January 17, 2016 Been there done that. I frankly cant be bothered anymore chasing a unicorn. I do enough of the things I enjoy and they don't attract women. See an IC. There has to be something that you are not aware of. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ZA Dater Posted January 17, 2016 Author Share Posted January 17, 2016 See an IC. There has to be something that you are not aware of. I know exactly what it is, something which cannot be changed unfortunately. Its a fundamental personality flaw. Link to post Share on other sites
StBreton Posted January 17, 2016 Share Posted January 17, 2016 I know exactly what it is, something which cannot be changed unfortunately. Its a fundamental personality flaw. Which personality flaw? In answer to your question...I'd say go ahead and pay to have a date. You get the benefit of interacting with a woman which will help you. Practice till it's second nature. Be careful ...and don't let the person know where you live or your last name ...and meet the person at a restaurant. Get feedback from your date ...ask her how you can improve. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 let us see your dating profile or at least a few pics and what would be on your profile. I'm pretty blunt, so maybe I can help steer you in the right direction. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ZA Dater Posted January 18, 2016 Author Share Posted January 18, 2016 Which personality flaw? In answer to your question...I'd say go ahead and pay to have a date. You get the benefit of interacting with a woman which will help you. Practice till it's second nature. Be careful ...and don't let the person know where you live or your last name ...and meet the person at a restaurant. Get feedback from your date ...ask her how you can improve. That would be my entire personality because according to some there is absolutely nothing nice about me at all. I don't look good, I don't come across well, I don't send the right messages, I have the wrong body language. I don't look attractive. No, really if I going the pay date route its just going to be purely business so I don't feel like an absolute looser who never has a date. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ZA Dater Posted January 18, 2016 Author Share Posted January 18, 2016 let us see your dating profile or at least a few pics and what would be on your profile. I'm pretty blunt, so maybe I can help steer you in the right direction. Thanks for the very kind offer, I don't really feel inclined to post pictures, the lack of interest I get pretty much tells me what I need to know in terms of physical appearance "you need to bulk up", again why if I am happy with the way I look. As for OLD, am off all the sites I was on barring Tinder. Link to post Share on other sites
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