BigB Posted June 6, 2005 Share Posted June 6, 2005 See this other topic for reference. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t64069/ So Marshbear suggested asking the guys: How do I go about getting a girlfriend? not get laid (although that would be nice ), Girlfriend. Now I know I can't control who I met and when, and I can't just go shopping for a girl and pick out the one I like.. but I can do things differently in order to meet more girls, stay out of the friend zone, be more attractive, desirable, whatever.. So, more social activities? Take some College classes? Join a club? Read some books? Buy a leather jacket and a Corvette? Throw it at me.. Link to post Share on other sites
chaos70 Posted June 6, 2005 Share Posted June 6, 2005 Man, I had a boss who had a "finders fee" for anyone who we would fix him up with that went past 3 dates. I would say find a social activity that includes the chicks. Get a dog and take it to the park. Dogs are a babe magnet, even when I was married...I had women coming up to see my beagle and then flirting despite seeing my ring. Hell, that happened yesterday as I took my dog to the lake for a walk. I had two hot girls to just coo over my dog (not in place right now to date nor atleast trust the fairer sex with impending D). But the best way I discovered in college, was to go with a pack of women friends when they went out. *warning* Make SURE you aren't viewed as the "gay" friend. Anyways, I rarely drank...so I was the DD. And being the only male they "knew" and after a couple of brews...they'd want to dance...and that would catch the eyes of the other women outside of this group. I also discovered it helped to wait until you notice a nice prospect go to the bar for her own refill...and you go up and order just a coke because you are the DD. It helps eliminate the gay aurora. But even when I was single and travelling on business...I found that simply picking out a hot chick in a club and asking her to dance does the trick. Sure you can get shot down, but hell, it beats not taking the chance. Bottomline (I'm sure I'm going to get flamed), the babes like confidence. You don't have to look like a million dollars but if you feel like you are...you'll be surprised at some of the reponses. Link to post Share on other sites
Marshbear Posted June 6, 2005 Share Posted June 6, 2005 go to a ball game. There are many, many gals there and rather than watch the game just hang out around the concourse area ( consession areas ) and approach the ones you like. Women do this all the time. They don't go to watch the games. If you notice how many times they get up to go to the bathroom or get something to eat they don't have time to see a game. It is good practice for you BigB and you will never see them again ( unless yuo want to ). Get flirty with them and get some numbers. Can't hurt.., Peace... Link to post Share on other sites
NTB Posted June 6, 2005 Share Posted June 6, 2005 dude get one of your bros to go hang with you and go out and meet the ladies but when i say wingman i don't mean like let him go up to a girl and talk you up unless you want to do that..........i think hanging out with a buddy makes you more relaxed and well sometimes you need that pal of yours to push you and be like "go for it" no matter what. put yourself out there Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted June 6, 2005 Share Posted June 6, 2005 from a chick's perspective: look in places where you are interested. As in, if you're a heavy reader, strike up a conversation about good reading material with a cute girl while at the local barnes & noble or library. You like to ride? Get in with the local riding club, where I'm sure you'll meet folks who are either single girls or who know someone they can introduce you to. Et cetera, et cetera. The best part about doing this is that you've automatically got something in common with her if you meet her while doing something you like. bonus: seriously consider taking a cooking class. We dig guys who like to cook ... Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted June 6, 2005 Share Posted June 6, 2005 When you find someone you're interested in don't be shy about letting her know... Ask for her number, let her know you'd like to take her out.. be bold. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BigB Posted June 8, 2005 Author Share Posted June 8, 2005 Thanks for the replies to far everyone. hmm.. for some reason I thought some of the drama would carry over from my other thread.. I like the ball game idea, that's a good one. I'm thinking about signing up for some college classes, I think I could apply the same approach to the library, lunch room, and all the outdoor hang-out area's on campus. I think the local college offers a vegetarian cooking class (I'm a vegetarian) might be fun, and might be some girls in the class. the wing man idea is a good one to.. I hate bars though, not sure where else that would work... hmm.... *strokes 3 day chin stubble* Link to post Share on other sites
NTB Posted June 8, 2005 Share Posted June 8, 2005 doesn't have to be just at the bar or a club it can be anywhere at that ball park or just hanging out like i said it is more about the support a bro can give you.....he can give you that push you need to go talk to the ladies Link to post Share on other sites
leeroy1985 Posted June 8, 2005 Share Posted June 8, 2005 The best way i get the girls is let your friends do the work!!! It works like this.... when your better looking friend (we all have one) has got himself a girl shes garaunteed to have some friends! Just go out with your mate and his bird and her mates and be yourself and sooner than you think one of her mates will like you! Thats what i did because i was p*ssed off with trying and getting knocked back all the time. Ive been with my current gf for a couple of weeks and she was my friends gfs mate! Link to post Share on other sites
UltimateZen Posted June 8, 2005 Share Posted June 8, 2005 Well, your original post mentioned how to get a girlfriend. First, get this thought out of your head. When you are going out to the many places other people mentioned in this thread, your face is probably screaming desperation. So get the GF thing out your mind. You need to start thinking of just getting out to meet more people. Men, women whatever. The more people you meet, the more connections you will get. Chances are your personality will speak for yourself and word will get around; soon your new acquantences will build you up to some females; and then next thing you know you will be getting numbers left and right. The package is important as well. Humor is very important with the ladies, if you can make the ladies laugh (and not with lines) genuinely, then you are in like Flynn. When you are meeting these people confidence is the key. Also, when going to a club, bar, whatever watch the guy players. Even start up a conversation with them and analyze their mannerisms. How are they standing? How are the approaching the ladies? But as I mentioned, your thread asked how to get a girlfriend. The bottom line is that you will not find a girlfriend if you are actively seeking one. Get out and meet people, the GF will come. Link to post Share on other sites
BrotherAaron Posted June 8, 2005 Share Posted June 8, 2005 BigB you can do it! The biggest step is expanding your social circle. Introduce yourself to people any oppurtunity you get. Make a goal to make 50 friends in the next month. When your at the store, and somebody's looking at the same type of products as you, make a comment about it. It's amazing how, sometimes, all you have to do is break the ice with a simple observation, you get talking, and you find out that you have so much in common with somebody. Before you know it, you feel like you've known the person forever - this stranger who you could have ignored and walked away. Don't focus on meeting girls, just go out and be the social creature that you're meant to be. We all crave human interaction. It's important that you feel comfortable approaching everyone - I mean, if you're nervous to strike up a conversation with an old lady, or some guy, then how would you expect to be confortable talking to a cute girl? Merin is a girl who definitely knows what's going on. When you do meet an attractive girl, make your intentions clear - be bold. Avoid kissing her ass. Too many guys these days think that they have to bow before women and jump through all kinds of hoops to get to "the prize", and it turns into a circus act of guys spending money and doing favor after favor only to get popped with "lets just be friends". Remember - she should be impressing you just as much as you're impressing her. But all this talk is meaningless, really, because nobody can tell you how to get a girlfriend. People have been getting together since the beginning of humanity. It's a natural thing, and overanalysing it just ruins the fun. Focus on the social aspect of your life - cast a wide friendship net - and things will progress from there. As long as you remember that the most important thing, when you do meet a girl, is to go for it. You wont get far waiting for a girlfriend to fall out of the sky and into your lap. You've got to put yourself on the line somehow. Link to post Share on other sites
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