Bufo Posted January 17, 2016 Share Posted January 17, 2016 (edited) Need some info from the BTDT crowd. Wife of nearly 30 years is retiring soon. I've been out of work due to health issue for about 3 years now and have settled into a routine of treatment 3 days per week and a couple days of light house work. Anyway my question is what does my future holds for me. I know it's not days and nights filled with sex due to my health and it's not full of spontaneous travel due to my treatment schedule. Any and all stories about your experiences are welcomed. Edited January 17, 2016 by Bufo Damn iPhone got it wrong with autocorrect Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted January 17, 2016 Share Posted January 17, 2016 I have no stories to tell, but one of my coworkers retired in early 2015. During his last days, he would tell me how his wife was VERY concerned about what he would do with his time and how him always being around would effect their life and relationship. I thought that was funny. I think what retirees are supposed to do is go on vacations and travel and stuff. Retirement is supposed to be like an extended vacation. You're supposed to do all the things you never had time for before, pick up new hobbies, watch grandkids, and eat breakfast often at Denny's. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Montsan Posted January 17, 2016 Share Posted January 17, 2016 Both my wife and I are retired. I took a hobby of mine and turned it into an Internet business. It keeps me busy. My wife does all the things she never had time for - gardening, cooking really good meals. We also like to go off on three or four day little vacations to interesting places within driving distances. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ShatteredLady Posted January 17, 2016 Share Posted January 17, 2016 I suffer from a degenerative spine condition. The best advise I can give you is...STOP thinking about the 'normal' things that you can't do. Focus on what you can do & how you can do YOUR version of the things you'd like to do. I'll never be able to climb a mountain (not that I particularly want to!) but I can take a little 'nature walk' around a lake with my family. I don't know what your condition is. Is your treatment schedule at all flexible? Find new hobbies that work for BOTH of you. I know this advise sounds trite & obvious but I've known too many relationships turn into the wasteland because of chronic illness. If you really focus on it you will find that there are a lot of things that you can enjoy together. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
loveboid Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 I went through a spell of looking up little old married couples to find the secret of their success. Most of them spent time together doing whatever. Playing cards was common. They said doing something as a couple kept them connected. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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