We've broken up 8 times, what have i become??

[Mikemanchak]

Me and my girlfriend were together for close to a year and a half and i have never been happier in my life a few months ago i broke up with her, kinda out of the blue, my reason was i will be headed off to college and i dident think we'd be together so rather than wait until graduation and that summer to go through the heartache i decided that it would be better if we just broke it off then, since then weve broken up and gotten back together almost 8 times and everytime is the same i break up with her then we get back to gether for a month then break up for a month, i feel awsome when we get right back together then sure enough almost exacatly the same time ,everytime, i sorta freak out like shes gunna interfere with my future or something, and when we first break up i feel releaved then sure enough about a month later i feel soo horrable that i cant live without her. We were so happy a few months ago and now everythings just so confusing, were on our 8th break-up and im feeling like crap again, i just want to be with her to make everything better but on the other hand ive kinda felt like this before, now i dont know what to do,ive tryed moving on but and time i even think about being with someone eles or her being with someone other than me i get sick to my stomach,Please if anyone has any advice let me know, it will be greatly appreciated..

[em88]

i just broke up with my bf 5 days ago. after haveing some time to think, ive realized that we may have used breaking up as a way to get out of conflict and arguments instead of takling about it and realizing what needed to be fixed in the relationship. we had broken up a few times before, but it never lasted more than 24 hrs. i think that maybe we used this as a way out instead of confronting problems. possibly. im not sure myself.

 

if this is in fact the case, i hope that we can work things out, only if he is willing to. im not saying i know what breaking up 8 times means for you two, but it could be the same thing as my and my exbf--not knowing how to really communicate and be honest and work at changing and fixing things. but again, i may be wrong about my own relationship. im as confused as you. sorry if i wasnt much help.

[Mikemanchak]

ive never really thought of the whole situation quite like that. I just don’t know how to approach her about it, how to make it seem real, not just another excuse.