Anyone ever feel left out?

[sportygirl89]

I sometimes feel left out. I could be suggesting ideas or things to do I totally get just ignored. I feel like everyone else regardless of location gets heard and listened to. How do you get heard if you have been in this situation?

[LivingWaterPlease]

I sometimes feel left out. I could be suggesting ideas or things to do I totally get just ignored. I feel like everyone else regardless of location gets heard and listened to. How do you get heard if you have been in this situation?

 

 

Hi sportygirl89! Yes, I've felt left out before. Imo, most people have felt left out and continue to feel left out from time to time.

 

Is the left out feeling you get experienced at work mostly, or just in general?

 

Growing up, especially teen aged years I can recall feeling no one really thought my ideas were that great, especially creative ones.

 

I now have a great career in a creative field and have figured out the reason why my ideas met with a "duh" look so often as a younger person is because others didn't have the creative vision I have so when I expressed an idea instead of getting support a lot of times I just got blank looks or even no one listened at all. However, a lot of those same people are "listening" now since I have been successful with many creative pursuits.

 

The same may happen for you.

 

The way I coped is to just go my own way, do my own thing and look for ways to express my ideas on my own.

 

Also, this may seem unrelated but it's not. I often post about it on here but it relates to everything about my life. And that is my relationship with Jesus Christ. It is very strong through Bible study and prayer and I get so much support in my relationship from Him. He is, in fact, the reason i have such a great career as it's a very hard field to compete in and He has opened doors for me I never could have opened myself.

 

He also really kicks in to send me creative ideas so I feel that's a real advantage I have that some don't, too.

 

If ever I do feel bad about anything at all, I work it out with Him in prayer. He really supports me with all of my feelings, and in all other aspects of my life. He is always there for me and never ignores me. He's the antidote to the rejection the world sometimes foists on all of us.

[deckard11]

I sometimes feel left out. I could be suggesting ideas or things to do I totally get just ignored. I feel like everyone else regardless of location gets heard and listened to. How do you get heard if you have been in this situation?

 

Feel the same. I just gave up. Obviously no one cares.

[basil67]

I feel left out in some crowds. So I prioritise hanging out with those who include me.

[truthtripper]

I prioritise hanging out with those who include me.

If I am constantly being left out/bullied by certain people, I've given up trying to fit in or be heard. I'd rather spend quality time on my own or with people who do appreciate me.

[magnolialove]

I often find myself feeling this way in group situations because I am shy and quiet and don't have tons of confidence. What has helped me is actively seeking out like-minded people, who often tend to have similar personalities to me. I joined a hiking group and met some really relaxed friends who were totally open and listen to whatever I say. Even if you face the left-out feeling at work or in other places you can't really escape, if you find a good group on your own, it can give you more confidence and make the other times much more bearable. I recommend checking Meetup.com. It's tough at first, but it has been worth it for me. Good luck

[sportygirl89]

I often find myself feeling this way in group situations because I am shy and quiet and don't have tons of confidence. What has helped me is actively seeking out like-minded people, who often tend to have similar personalities to me. I joined a hiking group and met some really relaxed friends who were totally open and listen to whatever I say. Even if you face the left-out feeling at work or in other places you can't really escape, if you find a good group on your own, it can give you more confidence and make the other times much more bearable. I recommend checking Meetup.com. It's tough at first, but it has been worth it for me. Good luck

 

I was feeling like I fit in at school then I could tell the group was replacing me with more outgoing people. Today the main person in that group gave every one else (well 75% of my program) presents from Christmas. I felt like that was a little distasteful knowing I had once been in that group. I would have been like to my friends hey you want them come see me after class so I don't hurt other people's feelings. But I forget a lot of people do not have compassion.