NopeNah Posted December 28, 2016 Share Posted December 28, 2016 This is a good thread for people to read. The poster has ignored every bit of advice for coming up to 3/4 years i think? Imagine the fun and new experiences he'd have had if he'd accepted it was over, been strong and not let this person in his life anymore. Every time it came to make the decision he's chosen the easiest one. Which ends the short term pain. Whatever you do after a break up, that pain is coming. However long you choose to drag it out depends on how strong you can be in NC. We have so little time on this planet. Do not waste a day on someone who does not truly care about you. Yep!! THIS!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
umirano Posted December 28, 2016 Share Posted December 28, 2016 Are you really surprised that an ex shows up around Christmas / NYE? She was probably not crazy successful in dating and is looking for a quick fix now. Link to post Share on other sites
hoegaandit Posted December 28, 2016 Share Posted December 28, 2016 Marky - I have read through this whole thread. You need to look at yourself, at why you continue with this failed relationship and don't move on. For starters, if anyone is in an LDR they should move heaven and earth to live together if they want to make things work as a real relationship. I met my current partner online and we got together in my country after a year. When you only have an LDR or live together for a short time the relationship can be idealized. Since living with my partner for some years I have slowly got to find things about her which make me wonder about the relationship, which I would probably never have known had we not lived together for years. Honestly you are just self sabotaging yourself by having any contact with your ex. Please move on for your sake! PS Good for you for looking after your old dog. Link to post Share on other sites
Author marky00 Posted December 28, 2016 Author Share Posted December 28, 2016 (edited) Guys, settle down all. The mods for some reason merged my new thread without my consent or for good reason. My new thread just said "Ex contacted me after 5 months". In my opinion this should not have been merged because that was like 6 months ago and there has been zero contact during that time. I was only seeking advise as how to handle the unexpected contact, nothing more. As for me not getting on with my life, not true, I just spent a month travelling around in Africa. Has it been hard to move on? Absolutely. But the ex left me no choice right. I just wanted to see what you guys thought of the contact. My gut feeling also suggests she just wants to know that I still care given that I cared for her deeply for a very long time. She doesn't deserve to know what I feel anymore and since it was a text, I could have change my number so if she has something more important to say, she can send an email or w/e. Until then, its business as usual. I'm just surprised very much by the contact because she got what she wanted (and pretty sure she went back to my replacement) and then sends a message like this. Shouldn't she be sipping champagne with the new guy and be thanking the stars I gave her what she wanted? P.S. Blanco, your post pretty much describes where my head space is too. Edited December 28, 2016 by marky00 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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