Blackkitten98 Posted January 20, 2016 Share Posted January 20, 2016 (edited) Hi I'm new to this site and I've read a lot and love the advice that's been given. So a little bit on my relationship we have been dating for a year and a half and he lived with me a year when I moved an hour and a half away till my parents kicked him out and he moved back where he is from cause he had no were to go , so we're on long distance. He left at the beginning of school year and things were great he was messaging me everyday, telling me he missed me etc. (he seems to come up every month to month in a half. And when he does he hangs out with his bestfriend more than me.)Anyways a few months go down the road and now he's bearly talking to me saying he's busy with work and such and he misses me but can't talk right now and loves me. He comes down and we get in an argument, because I feel like a booty call when he comes down. He says it's not like that he just wants time to hangout with his friend . I get tht my parents don't let me see him so much when he comes down because they hate him. So recently we have been fighting he doesent like what I wear doesent like that I do cheer or anything it seems like everything is a fight with him. He is always mad at me for everything and it's irratating. And we just had a bad blow out fight and I said if u don't want to be with me leave me for someone else and he says no yet he treats me like **** ? Yet at the end of the fight a day later he's like hey babe I miss u and such? Then me and my step mom were talking and said I should go threw his Facebook messages so of course my heart was racing and logged in not only to find he was talking to his ex of a few years ago about what's a good name for her baby she's having and just everyday stuff . I confronted him and saidI get Chris I get it im a piece of **** girlfriend and u hate me!! and u would rather have someone that's better ok I have had this god damn feeling that u have someone else and are talking to someone else I've cried all ****ing day about it I haven't eaten or anything if that's the case have at it and be with them who ever it is idk idc I'm just not good enough for u I get it ok I really do I'm nothing u want nor care about ok now I'm going to go cry my eyes out. (Which happened, I have really bad anger issues and depression) All he had to say was are you serious I'm not cheating on u why would u assume that? He wasent even mad and he said I need to calm the **** down cause if he had another girl he wouldn't talk to me and he got mad last night at a treating your girl right post that wasent even for him and took it like it was and hasent messaged me since and this all happened yesterday ! So idk what to do I love him to death and absolutely have no idea what to do honestly I'm so lost my minds not even on straight to figure out what to do. Please help me ! Edited January 20, 2016 by Blackkitten98 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 20, 2016 Share Posted January 20, 2016 Wow, first up you need to get on top of your anger issues. The way you spoke to him is not the way to deal with issues - it's the way to get someone to dump you. Just a bit more history before I talk about your boyfriend. Why did your parents throw him out and why do they hate him? Yes, it's relevant. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Blackkitten98 Posted January 20, 2016 Author Share Posted January 20, 2016 They don't like him because he stuck up for him self they told him to go get a job and he tried many times to but they said well u need to baby sit my kids today so half the time he couldent go put applications in then when I was at camp he asked my moms boyfriend to go to work with his friend and He said yes he had no plans and then when I got back Ray my moms be made a whole deal on u needed to watch my kids u left to go party and such starting a whole bunch and Ray put a list to pay 400 a month he needs to get a job and clean the whole house and such so Chris stuck up for him self to my mom and she totally understood and rays like I don't need your bs in the house and he got kicked out that day. And Ray has been messaging Chris saying I'm trying to get with other guys and all this bs. Link to post Share on other sites
moys Posted January 21, 2016 Share Posted January 21, 2016 He doesn't have the balls to break up with you. This is what my ex did during our long distance relationship. All of the sudden he needed "a break", then told me his parents didn't like me, then he would call less frequently and claim to be busy, then the last time he visited he tried to pick fights with me. He would criticize my friends, my hometown (which he lived in for 5 years before we became long distance), my mother, etc. Then he broke up with me by going NC, forever. You need to give yourself some space and evaluate whether you want to be in a relationship with someone who is making you feel so ****ty. Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted January 21, 2016 Share Posted January 21, 2016 As soon as I read your first post, I thought you must be 15. After a few minutes, I thought you might be 16. Then, looking at your screen name, I guess you probably are 15 going 16. Is that right? Your tone looks like a bit over the top.......... but if you're a teenager, it can sort of make sense. Just a few more questions: 1. How old is your boyfriend? 2. Doesn't he have a family? 3. Is he studying? Or studying and trying to work at the same time? Or? Your demands seem reasonable, but not so if he's a teenager too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Blackkitten98 Posted January 23, 2016 Author Share Posted January 23, 2016 Acually I'm 17 going 18 He's also same age Yea but his family is messed up and he got kicked out cause his mom dident want to take care of him that's why hemmovedin with me And he has a job Link to post Share on other sites
LongIsland Posted January 24, 2016 Share Posted January 24, 2016 This guy is not the one for you. It's not often people around your age are lifemates Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted January 24, 2016 Share Posted January 24, 2016 Acually I'm 17 going 18 He's also same age Then you must be aware you can't be too demanding. His social life can't be neglected for time spent with a girlfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
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