theworst Posted January 21, 2016 Share Posted January 21, 2016 I feel so so so sad then angry then sad again. I was cheated on by my partner of 4 years in October we decided to work things out. November I took the morning after pill and I guess I took it too late because it didn't work I got pregnant. I feel like I'm on a roller coaster one minute it's going to be okay then it isn't. I am so lost. We have a couples therapist but it doesn't stop the constant ups and downs of being hormonal and being hurt. It's not like I want anyone to give me an answer I know I need to figure it out but I am just so sad. Some days I can handle it just fine but today has been the worst. Link to post Share on other sites
Space Ritual Posted January 21, 2016 Share Posted January 21, 2016 Sorry to hear of your conundrum. sounds from your post that you are going this alone for the most part, which totally sucks. I'm very sorry if that is the case. Most important, and this goes without saying is YOUR Health above all. What exactly is your partner willing to do? Couple's therapy is all fine and good, but it won't really have much of an impact unless your partner is committed to making amends of some sort. Has he gone no contact with the person he cheated with? Written a No contact message that you approved of? Give you access to any social media passwords and is he going to be transparent? I am not a big fan of couples therapy as many of the counselors have no background in dealing with infidelity, and in your case if you don't think the counselor is helping get anther one ASAP. It is bad enough to be cheated on when you are not pregnant, but being in the situation you are in, it is imperative that he makes a decision to either be all in or make arrangements on his part to be a co parent. This is drama you do not need. As you get closer to the birth, can you count on him to be there for you? Have you even thought of any of this yet? I know your head must be swimming but please consider some of these things. Others will be along in short order I'm sure that can probably answer some of your questions If you can provide any more information maybe we will be able to help you more. Link to post Share on other sites
Keke1 Posted January 21, 2016 Share Posted January 21, 2016 It's okay. Vent here if it helps. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted January 21, 2016 Share Posted January 21, 2016 Maybe you need to see a different therapist on your own. One that has more experience in dealing with grief, and anxiety, because those are the things that you are feeling. A couples therapist only works on fixing the dynamics of the relationship by encouraging communication, so seeing a different therapist might be your answer. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted January 21, 2016 Share Posted January 21, 2016 Early termination is an option to consider. Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted January 27, 2016 Share Posted January 27, 2016 Do you feel capable of raising a child on your own? Link to post Share on other sites
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