Should I visit a shrink? I'm losing hope.

[JohnGoober]

I feel like I've been a failure from the past 4 plus years. I remember the day I lost my self confidence in my studies. I have anxiety, depression, chronic stress and I basically don't feel anything around me, I don't feel alive. Because of my these, I kind of limited myself talking to other people. I feel like a loser and I clearly know its because I think too much negatively, low self-esteem and the one thing for all my **** ups in life is Procrastination.

 

After I graduated in 2014, I haven't really done anything productive at all. I did a 4 month internship and that's it. I was told I'm socially a bit awkward, shy, not confident enough at work. It's not that I feel shy talking to them, I feel stressed most of the time and I feel like it's better to keep myself quiet. I also feel like I don't have anything interesting to talk or won't know how to talk freely with them. Being unproductive, not having a goal, procrastinating even the smallest tasks, drinking alcohol everyday from the past 3 months are the reasons for my current messed up life. I didn't understand what was happening to me. I desperately needed help but I didn't have the courage to share these with anyone. I want to come out of this life and be successful. I have lost a lot in my life because of my untreated depression... I don't even know if I'm depressed anymore. I don't feel sad anymore nor I feel alive. I don't have interest in anything anymore.

 

To add to this, an astrologer has said many bad things about my life.

 

I have decided to visit a shrink. I really want to change my life, I want to stop procrastinating, take better care about myself and gain social skills and confidence. I don't know how to start. I have stopped drinking alcohol and stopped smoking.

 

I'm wondering.. would visiting a shrink and getting therapy help me feel alive again? would I be able to be confident about myself?

 

Any advice or queries, please do ask.

[deckard11]

I've come to find our that therapy works for some and not for others. I guess you just need to try it out and see. I will say this, good therapy will cost you a lot of money. I went to therapy through a program at one of my old jobs because my issues were affecting my work. The other time I went through my health insurance which was a joke because I have state assisted insurance. Both therapists were a joke and only seemed to be doing this because they were getting paid either way. I sought out private therapy but the prices they changed were insane. Good luck to you.

[klim]

I visited psycheatrist two years ago after my girl-friend, Ola had shouted at me and said that "there is too much of me" (I'm from Poland, sorry for my grammar} SHe meant that had been fed up with me. I fell into deep depression. Wodka was of no help. I called my friend a therapist - my hands were shaking all over when I dialled - she adviced me to go to her friend, a psycheatrist. They put me in the day-time hospital Then with the help of drugs, gradually I came to myself. Now I believe no women would drive me off-balance!

Edited January 21, 2016 by klim