anyone with a post nuptial agreement after your spouses affair?

[afoolto no end]

Have any of you replaced your marriage vow with any other kind of agreement, post nup?

 

Words don't really mean much after an affair.......just wondered, everyone has different ways of feeling more secure........

 

If not would it make any difference if you did?

[big dog]

I don't think I've ever heard of anything like that.

[carhill]

I've seen post-nuptials to augment vows but not replace them, both in healthy marriages and those affected by infidelity. I recall a LS'er did this and did divorce and the post-nup did control during the divorce. Been awhile, probably six-seven years ago though. Pretty rare, IME.

 

As an example in a healthy M, a post-nuptial could address a large separate property injection which the spouses wanted a clear agreement on. No reflection on their vows, rather recognizing they have a legal partnership and issues to address in it.

[flowergirl14]

Why not? At least in the event of future infidelity you could be finacially better off. Go for it!

[Popsicle]

If your wife has cheated on you, you can't be afraid of her. She should be afraid of you.

[preraph]

I know there are agreements sometimes made to not talk about the other person post-divorce. It seems to be mainly celebs you hear about doing that, but in that circle it is common. In fact, many celebs make even a one-night stand sign a gag agreement beforehand. Whoever requests it basically pays extra to get it. So I wouldn't do it if there was domestic violence involved, but if I'd already told all my friends he was a cheating tool, I'd have no trouble talking about it no more for a hefty increase in settlement, but that's me. It's naive to assume the person hasn't already told everyone.

[MuddyFootprints]

Why bother? Just divorce.

[PegNosePete]

If you want to do this you should speak to a lawyer and ask how legally binding they are. In the UK for example, they can carry weight in the event of divorce but are not as watertight as people think they are. If circumstances have changed then they can be contested, also needs will over-ride them. For example if your wife needs the family house to support the children then she will get it, no matter what the pre/post-nup says. If your wife becomes disabled then the *-nup will probably be discarded. If you win the lottery then she'll have a claim on your winnings (unless you can convince her to sign another one after winning - but even then it's not 100%).

 

So yeah, it can carry significant weight in court, but it's not 100%.

[TaraMaiden2]

In the matter of a divorce, you can - and indeed, should - both sign an agreement that all finances dealt with or encountered by both parties, (after the divorce and/or dissolution has taken place, and all existing financial matters have been dealt with), should not be affected by the ex-partner, and that no liability is held either to their advantage or disadvantage.

 

This means that if 5 days after you divorce, your auntie Flo' dies and leaves you 10 grand, your ex can't touch it. Similarly though, should your ex win the National Lottery to the tune of half a million, you don't get a look-in, either.