Ranchero44 Posted January 22, 2016 Share Posted January 22, 2016 The man I love cheated on me while I was out-of-town a couple of months ago. He slept with someone else. It was a one-time deal. I love him deeply, and gave it my all to try to rebuild the relationship. Although I was shot through with betrayal, I really believed I could forgive a one-time mistake. I discovered this morning that he recently added the woman he cheated on me with to his Facebook friends. I thought he was supposed to be trying to re-earn and rebuild trust, not adding her on Facebook. I'm devastated and feel like a fool. I have completely ended the relationship, blocking him on Facebook and on my phone. Onward and upward. I hope I'm not overreacting. Thanks. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
JS84 Posted January 22, 2016 Share Posted January 22, 2016 You're not overreacting at all. Good decision on your part. Sorry you had to go through the betrayal though. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
moebius Posted January 22, 2016 Share Posted January 22, 2016 Obviously he wasn't trying to regain your trust. Your reaction is normal and healthy. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted January 22, 2016 Share Posted January 22, 2016 Damn right, this is a total red flag to any reconciliation. Do not pass go, do not collect £200. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ranchero44 Posted January 22, 2016 Author Share Posted January 22, 2016 Damn right, this is a total red flag to any reconciliation. Do not pass go, do not collect £200. Hahahahaha! Love the Monopoly reference! Thank you for bringing a smile to my face and a morning chuckle during a very rough time. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RySant Posted January 22, 2016 Share Posted January 22, 2016 Hahahahaha! Love the Monopoly reference! Thank you for bringing a smile to my face and a morning chuckle during a very rough time. You deserve to laugh because you just did what a LOT of people have no courage to do so. Leaving a WRONG partner. Sometimes, deluding yourself of "Love" will cloud your better judgement. I am so happy you didn't let your love do that to you. I respect you, woman. Salute to the highest! #Proud 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ranchero44 Posted January 22, 2016 Author Share Posted January 22, 2016 You deserve to laugh because you just did what a LOT of people have no courage to do so. Leaving a WRONG partner. Sometimes, deluding yourself of "Love" will cloud your better judgement. I am so happy you didn't let your love do that to you. I respect you, woman. Salute to the highest! #Proud Thank you so much! I have been really doubting my decision--like I haven't been "fair" to him, like I've overreacted, etc, etc. I've needed a lot of encouragement and reinforcement that I'm NOT crazy--that adding this woman he betrayed me with as a Facebook friend is totally and completely inappropriate, and disrespectful as hell. Thanks for the encouragement! Link to post Share on other sites
RySant Posted January 22, 2016 Share Posted January 22, 2016 Thank you so much! I have been really doubting my decision--like I haven't been "fair" to him, like I've overreacted, etc, etc. I've needed a lot of encouragement and reinforcement that I'm NOT crazy--that adding this woman he betrayed me with as a Facebook friend is totally and completely inappropriate, and disrespectful as hell. Thanks for the encouragement! Save that love for someone who will value it Someone deserves it WAYYY better than your cheating ex 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Space Ritual Posted January 22, 2016 Share Posted January 22, 2016 The man I love cheated on me while I was out-of-town a couple of months ago. He slept with someone else. It was a one-time deal. I love him deeply, and gave it my all to try to rebuild the relationship. Although I was shot through with betrayal, I really believed I could forgive a one-time mistake. I discovered this morning that he recently added the woman he cheated on me with to his Facebook friends. I thought he was supposed to be trying to re-earn and rebuild trust, not adding her on Facebook. I'm devastated and feel like a fool. I have completely ended the relationship, blocking him on Facebook and on my phone. Onward and upward. I hope I'm not overreacting. Thanks. Good for you Ranchero44!!! I bet if felt pretty liberating to actually undertake action without mulling over it. I just wish so many others that come here would be as decisive as you were. Congratulations are in order. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BuddyX Posted January 23, 2016 Share Posted January 23, 2016 You did good. If he friended her on Social Media with all the world to see, just imagine what he does when no ones looking. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ranchero44 Posted January 23, 2016 Author Share Posted January 23, 2016 Good for you Ranchero44!!! I bet if felt pretty liberating to actually undertake action without mulling over it. I just wish so many others that come here would be as decisive as you were. Congratulations are in order. Thank you so much! It did feel really liberating. I felt as if a small piece of my dignity had been restored. It was a really good lesson in how losing our own self-respect and dignity is NEVER worth keeping a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ranchero44 Posted January 23, 2016 Author Share Posted January 23, 2016 You did good. If he friended her on Social Media with all the world to see, just imagine what he does when no ones looking. Great point. *Stomach turns* Ugh. I don't even wanna think about it . . . 1 Link to post Share on other sites
minimariah Posted January 24, 2016 Share Posted January 24, 2016 GOOD JOB on dumping & blocking him! what an a**hole. keep moving forward and healing, wishing you the best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
seeingthisguy Posted February 3, 2016 Share Posted February 3, 2016 The man I love cheated on me while I was out-of-town a couple of months ago. He slept with someone else. It was a one-time deal. I love him deeply, and gave it my all to try to rebuild the relationship. Although I was shot through with betrayal, I really believed I could forgive a one-time mistake. I discovered this morning that he recently added the woman he cheated on me with to his Facebook friends. I thought he was supposed to be trying to re-earn and rebuild trust, not adding her on Facebook. I'm devastated and feel like a fool. I have completely ended the relationship, blocking him on Facebook and on my phone. Onward and upward. I hope I'm not overreacting. Thanks. This guy sounds like a total tool bag. Leave him in the shed. Lol. Link to post Share on other sites
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