misspond Posted January 22, 2016 Share Posted January 22, 2016 Having recently extricated myself from a relationship of five months I'm back here posting instead of just reading and pondering the meaning of it all. He was a lovely man; thoughtful, kind, geeky, but ultimately not for me as he had dreams of us living together with his son and my two children and that was definitely not on my, "to do" list along with other qualities and needs that I found less than appealing as time went on which led me to end the relationship and I guess all I can do now is reflect on what I've learned. Which would seem to be that I don't want a relationship with someone who needs to be "looked after", or only able to function by making their partner feel sorry for them. That I am happy in my own company, have great friends, awesome kids and loving family and that I've probably been on my own for long enough now that anyone who crosses my romantic path had better be on the same wavelength or it ain't happening (no matter how good the sex is). 2 Link to post Share on other sites
True Gent Posted January 23, 2016 Share Posted January 23, 2016 It's really good that you know what you want and won't just settle into a relationship because it's convenient. Many people fall into that trap, so you are well past that point of your learning curve. I know what you mean about after spending enough time on your own that unless poetential romantic partners are on the same wavelength it is a no go. That is is a very strong and healthy place to be in, in your mind. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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