Woman Interfereing In My Relatonship

[CTRL C]

Maybe you know him. Lol

 

If anything, most likely someone who knows him or of him, if he trains with a big name. Would depend on his lineage.

 

Anyways... This woman is absolutely at fault for her crazy behavior. Obviously, as everyone is responsible for their own actions.

 

But do you not feel disrespected by his allowing it to happen? He could have told her to f*** off, but instead let you deal with her craziness. He could have blocked her, but allowed her to keep calling. There's a crazy woman disrespecting HIS GIRLFRIEND, shouldn't he do **something**?

 

Btw, a good idea for him would be to separate his social media accounts. For example on Facebook he can have a private account (friends/family only) and maintain a separate Public Figure account. That way he can control who has access to his personal stuff while still having a page for fans.

[ExpatInItaly]

Yeah well at least I'm not the one chasing down a man that doesn't want me. this woman is a homewrecker.

 

No, your boyfriend is.

 

She can't wreck a relationship without his consent. And he consented. So at some point, he did in fact want her. And used her, according to you. But he still had sex with her, repeatedly...and he drives drunk.

 

What a prize.

 

You spew vitriol at her. But for some reason, you are also trying to stay with a very low-quality man. One that most women with self-respect wouldn't want.

 

Don't you have other options?

[TMichaels]

You can enter Canada with a DUI. He's lying about that one too.

 

Yes, and no. They can refuse you entry because they have no tolerance for things like that but on the other hand, there are ways around it. For example, it helps if you only have one conviction or the DUI was a number of years ago. In such cases you can be deemed "rehabilitated" and worthy of being allowed in.

 

Best,

TMichaels

[TMichaels]

Check up on your info. You can't!

 

No, that's not correct. People with a criminal record can be granted permission to enter Canada.

 

However, it may be accurate to say YOUR BOYFRIEND cannot legally enter that country. Depends on what he did, how often he did it, and how long ago.

 

Best,

TMichaels

[stillafool]

He does show me off to everybody. No he cut her off and she is grieving. This is the type of woman that no man would give a second look to. She is very gruesome looking. He told everybody I'm his girlfriend. She lied to him for a year and a half she would help him with his business goals and it never happened.

 

Really? and yet your bf had an affair with her. Maybe she's the type he likes to have sex with and you're the type he likes to show off. Some men are like that. Anyway, it isn't up to you to make her leave you guys alone, it is up to him. Why hasn't he done that yet should be your question.

[getsmartie]

Yeah well at least I'm not the one chasing down a man that doesn't want me. this woman is a homewrecker.

 

A female personal trainer here so no jealousy about your overweight comment.

 

I think you need to step back and realize that this women is not a home wrecker. Your boyfriend is the man that is supposed to love and protect you and he didn't.....repeatedly!

 

You do not have a good man here, just my opinion and I'm sure most others that posted on your thread!

[TMichaels]

All I did was came on here for advice...

 

No, I think you came on here thinking that everyone would sympathize and be on your side about this little menage a trois you've got going on.

 

And, I don't think you're very happy with the responses you've received.

 

All I will say is, there's one common denominator in this drama triangle -- and that person is doing nothing except sitting back and watching the show.

 

Best of luck,

TMichaels

[LongIsland]

I'm not looking for sympathy from anybody. You're telling me if I have other options? No. Not where I live. See all the men here are dogs. They're married and cheat. Lots of single fathers too. They don't know how to commit here. This town is full of welfare cases too. I don't live in the Rocky part of town, but why go for that?

 

If she charged me, why is she trying to talk to me by posting jargon quotes? Doesn't make sense. She claims I'm dangerous but yet walked right into the karate studio and parked right beside me. She's going after UFC fighter Chris Weidman, and he's married with a family. Doesn't this mark homewrecker?

 

Am I the one that slept with a taken man? Just the things she post would classify her jealousy. Things such as "You don't have to be rich and beautiful to be loved"

 

She has nothing else to do with her life because she is pathetic. He told me he has no contact witth her, and made a big mistake. I was with him and knew him first. He also told me he shouldn't of did anything with her, and realized that she is a liar. He also asked me when I was there to go to couples counselling.

 

She is 45 years old and chasing a 35 year old man. What makes her think that he would stay with her? He told me he's not attracted to her at all. I know he's an idiot for cheating. I'm not taking his side. He's not playing me or her. He's told her from day 1 that he only wants to be friends.

 

Sorry I'm a model too. If a man I wanted, but could not have is dating a younger, prettier, girl and I was older and very overweight I would be jealous too.

 

Hey, I even once apologized to her in the summertime and after I did that I caught her still going after him. I've left, and he's has nothing to do with her. He is very angry at her for what she did to me.

 

Karma is hitting her big time. He's gone from her life and she is in severe depression. What goes around, comes around. All she talks about on social media is friends or posts quotes that are negative towards me. She's dumb, he's not even reading or looking at her page. She thinks he is.

 

People have even messaged me that are mutual and told me she is starting to go crazy. So all of you are saying I should accept a w***e? Wow, just wow. I'm telling you if one of my friends went through this I would hate the person that ruined their relationship too.

 

She is clearly obsessed with my man. Very. Obsessed cause I'm the girlfriend too. She needs to get a life and moved on.

[dreamingoftigers]

I always protect myself with sex. We already checked into this if you are going to USa you can enter with DUI. You cannot have any criminal record and enter Canada.

 

I've known people that have regularly done it.

[LongIsland]

Wrong again. When I crossed this passed summer a customs officer even confirmed this with me. It's probably because they haven't found out about their records. They will eventually

[justwhoiam]

You're telling me if I have other options? No. Not where I live. See all the men here are dogs. They're married and cheat. Lots of single fathers too. They don't know how to commit here. This town is full of welfare cases too. I don't live in the Rocky part of town, but why go for that?

Hmm, "your man" cheated on you and you still want him anyway. You have no problem with that at all. So what's the difference? You'd save yourself the hassle by not travelling that far...

 

If she charged me, why is she trying to talk to me by posting jargon quotes?

Why don't you stop looking at her posts? You sound paranoid, especially here:

"Just the things she post would classify her jealousy. Things such as 'You don't have to be rich and beautiful to be loved'"

Get a grip. Not everything is about you.

 

She's going after UFC fighter Chris Weidman, and he's married with a family. Doesn't this mark homewrecker?

I mark that as gossip and, again, it's none of your business.

 

He also told me he shouldn't of did anything with her, and realized that she is a liar.

Talk about the pot calling the kettle black...

Birds of a feather.

 

She is 45 years old and chasing a 35 year old man. What makes her think that he would stay with her?

This is becoming ridiculous, you know? My uncle married an older woman and they were together for 30+ years, until her death. She's always been overweight, he's always been in good shape and slender/athletic. You need to stop judging people the way you do. Because you end up sounding pathetic. You need to come to terms with the fact that:

1. he had sex with her;

2. he cheated on you;

3. you don't know anything about what went on between them other than what he decides to tell you (which might be true, or a partial truth, or a sugar-coated truth, or a blatant lie);

4. he willingly decided to use his body with her, used her body and let her use his body any way he pleased for a given length of time;

5. you'll never know the truth;

6. anything that happened in the past might happen again.

 

Those are the truths you need to focus on right now. Once you are able to come to terms with all that, you'll be in a good place to see the whole picture with different eyes, and understand what posters told you so far on here.

 

He told me he's not attracted to her at all.

Let's pretend that's true. It doesn't plead in his favor. It means you have a man f-ing anything that moves. You loathe any man in your area, to welcome this kind of man. Ask yourself a question or two on why you're willing to accept any s-it this guy feels like selling you, and you claim you're not taking his side, yet you keep defending him in all your posts.

 

He's not playing me or her. He's told her from day 1 that he only wants to be friends.

And what did he tell you? Did he stick to what he told you or we can safely say that what he said didn't match what he did? Wouldn't that prove that he can say whatever he wants and it's not necessarily true?

 

If a man I wanted, but could not have is dating a younger, prettier, girl and I was older and very overweight I would be jealous too.

You should be jealous about what he does behind your back or with other women regardless of how beautiful they are. But you're entitled to only feel jealous if he cheats on you with a pretty young girl, and not with an average older woman. To each their own.

 

I'm telling you if one of my friends went through this I would hate the person that ruined their relationship too.

If one of my friends went through this, I would strongly discourage any further contact with this man and any obsession with the woman.

[TMichaels]

My boyfriend lives in America and I live in Canada. So there is this very overweight, older woman that he met through an event... and she keeps interfering in my relationship.

 

 

So where does this woman live?

 

Best,

TMichaels

[dreamingoftigers]

Wrong again. When I crossed this passed summer a customs officer even confirmed this with me. It's probably because they haven't found out about their records. They will eventually

 

That doesn't make me "wrong."

 

It just makes my criminal friends smarter than your criminal friends.

 

Meanwhile, this guy, as much as he was "taken" couldn't possibly have wanted this gruesome woman...... Until he did.

 

She sounds like a nut too of course. A total nut.

 

But why oh why are you following her social media, and sending this guy, who had no issue cheating on you with Gruesome?

 

If you are that beautiful etc. Why aren't you getting out of this pit and finding yourself a guy that will respect you?

 

I mean do you just sleep with those "welfare recipient" type guys you look down on because "they are there"? Does that sound respectful at all to either a bf or the guy being used? No. Not at all. Some guys just like strange and the way she looks won't matter. The most blunt way I've heard it phrased is " a vagina has no face."

 

I have no doubt that she has taunted her. But I also have no doubt that she has not been discouraged to do so.

 

See, it's one thing to be disgusted with a whore, its another to enable it. He's totally enabled it, (in fact he brought the label home by sleeping with her, and I'm willing to bet others too).

 

BTW, regarding the men in your community, you must be back East. Much better luck out here, even with the economic recession. Our bust is better than the rest of the country's boom, usually. Perhaps consider moving.

 

I mean if you are around Windsor or Kingston etc. Or on the fringes of the GTA, OF COURSE the majority of decent guys with ambition got the heck out of there at least a decade ago.

 

Same with New Brunswick & Nova Scotia. They all came out here to make 100k+ a year. Which is totally fine for a young man.

 

Get yourself a good Newfie. They have decent family & work values. Stop trying to dig up trash across the border! Especially if you can't enter now!

 

(Not that American men are trash. Not great phrasing. American men are often great too. But not when they are trashy like OP's bf).

[dreamingoftigers]

Oh boy, unless FB posts mention you BY NAME, reading and responding them makes you look like a nut.

 

Someone posting how you don't have to be rich / beautiful or whatever to deserve love is GENERIC, regardless of your personal distaste for it.

 

It's not taunting YOU. And law enforcement will address that accordingly.

[stillafool]

I'm not looking for sympathy from anybody. You're telling me if I have other options? No. Not where I live. See all the men here are dogs. They're married and cheat. Lots of single fathers too. They don't know how to commit here. This town is full of welfare cases too. I don't live in the Rocky part of town, but why go for that?

 

Yes you have a choice, be alone! I would rather be single and alone than give my self to a bunch of cheaters, including your so called boyfriend.

 

 

 

Am I the one that slept with a taken man? Just the things she post would

classify her jealousy. Things such as "You don't have to be rich and

beautiful to be loved"

 

She isn't the only one who is jealous, so are you. That is why you've got this long thread going about a woman who your bf isn't interested in.

 

She has nothing else to do with her life because she is pathetic. He told me he has no contact witth her, and made a big mistake. I was with him and knew him first. He also told me he shouldn't of did anything with her, and realized that she is a liar.

 

So he met you first, was with you but decided to have sex with her. What does that tell you?

 

She is 45 years old and chasing a 35 year old man. What makes her think that he would stay with her? He told me he's not attracted to her at all. I know he's an idiot for cheating. I'm not taking his side. He's not playing me or her. He's told her from day 1 that he only wants to be friends.

 

There are lots of women married to men 10 years younger and more. Ask yourself why would he cheat on you with a woman he is not attracted to? Yeah, we both know that is a lie. He wouldn't be able to get an erection with her if he wasn't turned on.

 

Sorry I'm a model too. If a man I wanted, but could not have is dating a younger, prettier, girl and I was older and very overweight I would be jealous too.

 

I too, have been tall and thin my entire life and have modeled. I have had bfs cheat on me with thicker women because they wanted to feel more meat on the bone. Younger and thinner does not make you the most desirable or good in bed.

 

Hey, I even once apologized to her in the summertime and after I did that I caught her still going after him. I've left, and he's has nothing to do with her. He is very angry at her for what she did to me.

 

If he were so angry with her why didn't he or doesn't he make her stop. It is not up to you to make her stop, it is up to him.

 

Karma is hitting her big time. He's gone from her life and she is in severe depression. What goes around, comes around. All she talks about on social media is friends or posts quotes that are negative towards me. She's dumb, he's not even reading or looking at her page. She thinks he is.

 

You are obsessed with this woman. Why are you spying on social media and reading her posts? Get over it already.

 

People have even messaged me that are mutual and told me she is starting to go crazy. So all of you are saying I should accept a w***e? Wow, just wow. I'm telling you if one of my friends went through this I would hate the person that ruined their relationship too.

 

So you are not in a relationship with him because she ruined it?

 

She is clearly obsessed with my man. Very. Obsessed cause I'm the girlfriend too. She needs to get a life and moved on.

 

Maybe, but you are obsessed with her too. So you are admitting that she is a gf of is also.

Edited January 27, 2016 by stillafool

[dreamingoftigers]

Look, I'm a fattie.

 

No denying it.

 

There's certain points along my fattness where all of a sudden I seem to get a bunch of male attention out of nowhere.

 

Pretty much when I am still "grossly" overweight but not at "blimp" level.

 

Right now I am six months pregnant so my figure looks, well, really weird.

 

But truly, there's this sense of when guys are just trying to "get off" and they figure because I'm fat, that I have "no options" and will get with them easily.

 

It's funny actually. I became a Mormon and have been married for a decade. So of course I'm not interested. Plus my husband is so delectable to me.

 

But THEY DO CHASE. It's weird, I think of it like a "fat man after fried chicken."

 

It doesn't mean they want to marry me. Although whenni was younger and engaged in any way with the types of men they would often rush to get into a relationship/cohabitation/marriage and I would be like, "no, you knew what this was." Wow. I was kind of a jerk I guess.

 

But anyhow, there's no telling what he thought he could get for easy. And isn't that, in and of itself a pretty big issue? (Pun intended)

 

I mean who wants to be "Option 1 of 8?"

 

Your relationship shouldn't be an episode of Sister Wives. You should have his undivided attention. Not his attention when he's 'not using fat chicks.'

 

PS: Just FTR, I never (knowingly) got involved with a taken man. I find that repugnant.

[dreamingoftigers]

FTR again,

 

I'm not bothered by "Fattitude" as I call it. I understand people will often judge me because of my weight and appearance. It comes with a set of assumptions about my character too. (Like I MUST BE sitting around eating chips all day on the couch watching soap operas, LMAO).

 

The truth is, other than being flat- out exhausted with the pregnancy, I am a busy person. I'm always doing something. BUT what I didn't know is that for years I was struggling heavily with PCOS. I was only diagnosed last year.

 

Since eliminating most dairy, my weight has started to slowly drop naturally. But it wasn't a reflection of the effort I put into my life. As well, I have much more energy to do the things I want to now. But that won't stop people from making assumptions and comments. People judge by race, attractiveness, weight, clothing, the car you drive etc etc etc all of the time.

 

It just doesn't mean it's 100% accurate.

 

I am a little jealous of those who don't pack on extra and can maintain an attractive figure, but honestly, I'm not jealous of you. You seem to be struggling with seeing the bigger picture here and finding a guy that you respect that respects you in return. I never would have accepted all of this baggage from a boyfriend. So even though you have what would be considered "good currency" on the dating market, your selection for what you have is very poor. I wouldn't trade with you.

 

Have you read about boundaries before?

 

And out of curiosity, what's your FOO like?

[Lois_Griffin]

I can tell some are offended by my statement of her being overweight. Sorry even bigger girls told me she is nasty. Not just me. He used her. What can I say? That's what happens when you spread your legs. Heard through the grapevine she has a thing for real young men. She picks up homeless male youths, gives them a little cash, and gets whatever. Oh God, I'm getting sick thinking about how nasty she is. My man said he only likes thin women. She was just there. This happened when we first met. She is also very jealous that I can have kids and she is barren. My guy said on Facebook in the future he wants us to. It hurts her. Not my problem, and I don't actually care for what she did to me. Karma is REAL. That's why he's gone, and she is grieving.

Good lord. I'm not offended because you say she's fat. If she's fat, she's fat. Big deal.

 

 

I think most folks here are MORE in awe of your ability to continually delude yourself and blame your boyfriend's SH*T behavior on everyone BUT him.

 

 

He's a lying, cheating loser who screwed a 300 pound troll. That's a FACT. You're so busy directing all your jealousy and hatred towards HER while you continue to make excuses and rationalizations for your cheating so-called 'man' - and it's just making you look like a fool.

 

 

Who are you going to blame the next time Romeo screws another 300 pounder or some woman who looks like a wildebeest? Who are you going to blame the next time he does it because he's bored and 'because she was there?' You going to blame it all on the next woman, too?

 

 

Jesus.

[Cherryz]

Im not a big fan of LDR. How old are you guys?

Because you can easily be wasting your time while the other person

is having fun in his/her country with who ever that he can see and experience and touch everyday and really get to know.Which is what relationship is based on.

And why would you even be friends with this woman on FB? Beside you can make your profile private on FB. So why arent you doing that at any time?

And add her fake profiles? ANd read her twitters so you can react on them?

 

Sound like you was entertaining the drama yourself to.

ANd all i see in this is you doing most of the effort. Fly to him, try to keep this woman away and so on.

I dont read about your boyfriend doing same effort or more.

If he is not against this woman behavior, you are wasting your time and energy doing what ever you try to do to keep the "relationship".

 

This is about him and a woman. So first step should come from him to

put her in her place and cut her of.

But what i read is you again try to make him realize that he have to take action.

 

Being petite and beautiful is not enough. You need to have good self esteem too.

And see the reality for what it is.

This guy is your boyfriend but never took a flight to you.

And cheat on you with a crazy person.

And not team up with you from the start to stop this mess in a healthy way.

 

You can blame the whole world for your fights.

But when you gonna realize that your relationship is what you need to be worry about.

And first the person you with. Do he really want you and at least care for you?

If your relationship got a good foundation some things wouldnt be happen and easily like this.

ANd having a LDR you cant spent time and build a strong bound with the person.

ANd that makes cheating something more easy or tempted for someone that do LDR.

 

I dont think this guy even care for you. But maybe he stay hanging with you because you trying to hard!

Leave him work on your self esteem and move on.

And date in your country, where you can see, and experience the person and his real personality. and so on.

 

It sound like you fight like a soldier in world war 2, for smoke!

[Cherryz]

Good lord. I'm not offended because you say she's fat. If she's fat, she's fat. Big deal.

 

 

I think most folks here are MORE in awe of your ability to continually delude yourself and blame your boyfriend's SH*T behavior on everyone BUT him.

 

 

He's a lying, cheating loser who screwed a 300 pound troll. That's a FACT. You're so busy directing all your jealousy and hatred towards HER while you continue to make excuses and rationalizations for your cheating so-called 'man' - and it's just making you look like a fool.

 

 

Who are you going to blame the next time Romeo screws another 300 pounder or some woman who looks like a wildebeest? Who are you going to blame the next time he does it because he's bored and 'because she was there?' You going to blame it all on the next woman, too?

 

.

 

Exactly! !!!!!!!!!!

[Cherryz]

Ps: You say YOU are beautiful and all that but she is fat.....

 

But he is cheating with her and taking all this risk with her but not even move a finger for you.

Thats most tell you that looks is not everything!

[ExpatInItaly]

OP, the bottom line is she can't ruin your relationship if you and your boyfriend don't allow it. The problem is that you know, in your heart of hearts, that there is a major leak here.

 

If he can't come to visit you any time soon, and you can't visit him, I don't get the point of continuing this. Sounds like a miserable and unsatisfying "relationship." It also sounds like this is a very convenient out for him.

[Cherryz]

Your boyfriend loves drama , he is the one who should tell the ow to stay way and no you. Basically they continue to be friends or lovers and you are the one who interfere . It is not your role to tell that woman to stay away! If he is not interested in that woman he should block her long ago .

 

My question is why that man does not come to see you in Canada? He can visit you until your case straighten out in court.

 

Sorry you are in bad situation. Your bf is a player. Break up with him .

 

Exactly! and why isnt he also come to testify against that woman so you may win your case? Wake up for once topic starter. Get real!