My husband left me without any prior notice and I want out of this marriage!

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I'm sooooooooo very frustrated! My husband and I met when we were 18. There was this spark (okay, physical attraction), however, nothing developed besides being each other's dance partner. We went our separate ways and married other people.

 

 

Years after our divorces, we found ourselves in the same place at the same time. I believe in fate and thought he came into my life at the right time. Because....I was in love with a man who said, "Its not that I dont want to be with you...its just that sometimes I want to be by myself." Of course, that meant other women.

 

 

Well, to get my mind off the wrong thing, my future husband and I began to court. It was wonderful. He can be such a sweet man who is loved by many. I would have been stupid not to marry him. Right? WRONG!

 

 

After dating for about 2 years, we married in August of last year and separated in April of this year. Quickly, after we married, I found that this man is not a communicator or a family man and has poor credit. He likes to keep things to himself. I knew this about him beforehand, however, he promised this would not be a problem. He started to exclude me from his outside activities with his friends and family. When I asked to do things with him, he would agree to it until the day came and then it was a problem. When I try to talk to him, he responds with disinterest.

 

 

Well, after months of being alone, I started to do things with my friends. Two weeks prior to my friend's birthday, I noticed that my husband was coming and going without any word. He would get off work and not come home until 10:30pm to 1:30am without telling me a thing. I brought it to his attention and his response was "I dont know what I will be doing from one minute to the next, so I cant give you details of what I am going to do". My husband is very stubborn so I accepted things as the way they were. I felt so disconnected and unwanted. Not only was he not coming home, but he was not being a part of my daily life and vice versus.

 

 

In April, while out celebrating my friend's birthday, I met this gentleman. He seemed to be a good listener and appeared to be interested in talking with me. I was not interested in meeting anyone but I sure liked the attention. So he gave me his phone number and I shared my story with him. Because I wanted it a man's point of view, I called him that later that day before I destroyed his number. The problem here is that I was catch by my husband talking with this gentleman on my cell phone.

 

 

Of course, my husband accused me of messing around on him. I did not admit to this so, out of his frustration (I guess), he moved out of our home one week after the phone call. It happened on a Friday. He came home about 2 hours after he got off work. He went directly to the bedroom closet and pulled out a dress shirt and pants. I asked if he was going somewhere. He stated that he was going to step out for a minute. That was the last day he lived in our home.

 

 

I had no idea where he went or if he was coming back. He did not call me for about a week. At that time, he wanted to come by to get some clothes to attend a funeral in his home town. I kept my distance in order to give him so space. What I noticed when he left is that he took that majority of the clothes with him. I realized then that this man was not returning but was not man enough to tell me.

 

 

There are things that need to be done around the house. Recently, I began asking him to do them. He graciously agrees, however, never shows up to do anything. So, I either do them myself or hire someone.

 

 

I want out of this unhealthy relationship. I am a Christian and took my vows to heart. I pride myself on making sound decisions but this was clearly a huge mistake. I have asked GOD to forgive me which I know he will. I am in a valley at this time, but I am staying strong through GOD.

 

 

After six weeks of his departure, I asked my husband if he wants a divorce. He responded that he did not say anything about a divorce, but if that is what I want then go ahead. I am not about to pay for a divorce because he chosed to leave this marriage. I believe this dysfunctional marriage will continue forever unless I do something about it. I wonder if I can get it annuled?

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Talk to your pastor and to an attorney. The bonds of matrimony are not supposed to be slave shackles or tether you to a cement block. Many Christians get divorced. I'm sorry you are going through this. Good Luck.