Dailyjane Posted January 25, 2016 Share Posted January 25, 2016 I've been working with this person for about 6 months now and we've got so close to each other already. We are both in relationships and I don't know if it's just me or he feels the same way. He gets super close to me at times and even touches my arms or hands randomly. Smiles all big at me when he comes into work or I'll catch him staring at me and obviously I do the same. But we have yet to say anything he says how nice I look or some stuff like that. Maybe he's just friendly or what? I have no idea what's going on he talks about his girlfriend but mostly about their problems. I'm very confused. I don't want to continue having this feeling. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted January 25, 2016 Share Posted January 25, 2016 How does he treat other women on the job? Similar? Different? Link to post Share on other sites
privategal Posted January 25, 2016 Share Posted January 25, 2016 (edited) This isn't a good idea for either of you. Do some reading up on dating a coworker. Now you've both started something and your analyzing so much now. Id just say, try and get your thoughts together and your head straight. Its a tough economy, jobs are harder to come by. Its not play time and high school where you go to have fun, and meet friends, you are paid to care about your work and be professional. Id put alot more focus on work, stay busy, be polite, dial back flirting and just put it in your mind he is a casual work friend, but you have your social life and friends outside the office. Think of him and treat him as a colleague and show your professional side and that you're there to do a good job and treat all colleagues the same. If I was your big sister Id say "knock it off" ha ha. Not trying to lecture, just help you. Edited January 25, 2016 by privategal Link to post Share on other sites
Carpe Diem Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 I'm with privategal; go to work, be professional, do your job and collect your pay. Thousands of people, probably tens of thousands, lose their jobs every year because they couldn't manage these simple things. I currently work with a guy who spends an inordinate amount of time on his phone and Facebook. It's all over our workplace, including comments from coworkers who are on Facebook with him, that he often posts NUMEROUS times a day, while he's supposed to be working. This guy makes $100 000 a year and if he's fired, because of the nature of our work, it will be almost impossible for him to get another job in the same field. It just blows my mind what an idiot he is. Years of university, a secure well paying job and still he can't find it within himself, to go to work, do his job and be professional. Don't be this guy, people talking behind your back, risking your job and reputation etc. etc. Nothing good will come of this. If you have any doubt, go read the Other Man/Woman forum posts. Marriage is a long haul. Familiarity, kids, mortgage, bills, work, cooking, cleaning, the daily grind, etc. etc. all take their toll. The possibility to bring in excitement, sexual tension, pleasure, a break from the monotony, is tempting and wonderful to fantasize about. Keep it at that. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 I've been working with this person for about 6 months now and we've got so close to each other already. We are both in relationships . It's a toss-up which idea is worse - dating a co-worker, edging towards cheating on your relationship or being the OW to someone else's infidelity. Choose "none of the above"... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
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