PrettyEmily77 Posted February 28, 2016 Share Posted February 28, 2016 Heightism, unlike racism or sexism, is perfectly acceptable in our society and is even encouraged. As a fellow short man, here's my advice: - Expect to be rejected based on your height alone. If you get rejected and are not sure why, it's most likely because of your height. - You will need to go to great lengths to attract women. - You will have more difficulty in life in general, but it will not be acknowledged that you are being discriminated against. - You better damn well have a charming personality and money. - You will either need to settle or go to a third world country. Western culture truly hates short men. So we have our work cut out for us.. Not so sure about that. Bf is 5'8 and before I met him, he was married to a woman taller than he was for 16 years - pretty sure they didn't divorce because of his height... Also, all my exes are 5'10 or under - all were charming (no idea why anyone would purposefully choose to be with a charmless person anyway...) but not all had money. Western culture truly hates anything and anyone at any given time - shorter guys aren't the only 'victims' here so while it sucks, it's not a life threatening condition. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted February 28, 2016 Share Posted February 28, 2016 I'm 5'6" and have a strong preference for men around my height. I find it a more intimate experience, I love walking and I love walking with the length of my body/arm touching the man I'm with. It feels very close. I like having a quiet conversation and not needing to keep looking up. It also works well in bed. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Rejected Rosebud Posted February 28, 2016 Share Posted February 28, 2016 My guy is 5'8". I know that's not really SHORT short, but he's not tall. He has NEVER cared about it one bit. I've known him since high school. I can vouch for it. I know you guys hate when people say that confidence is super important, but here I go saying it again! I understand that people feel bad about the way they look all the time - but it seems like most of you guys have NO clue about how unattractive it is to be fixated on how tall (or not) you are, and to be blaming all your problems on it. Of course being a tall handsome man is the greatest just like being a beautiful girl with a knockout figure is! But most of us have to work with what we've got! And if we do it with grace and confidence, and refrain from focussing on what we don't have (and how much better everybody who DOES, has it) it becomes a much less major force in our lives. Link to post Share on other sites
AceCutty Posted February 29, 2016 Share Posted February 29, 2016 It sucks being at such a huge disadvantage. I'm very limited in my options due to this issue. Link to post Share on other sites
Delcore Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 It is rare.. very rare to see a couple in which the female is significantly/visibly taller then the male. And, if the couple eventually decide to marry each other, what are the feelings that they have to live with for the rest of their life. Saying this because I'm a 5 ft 6 male who may potentially land himself in a relationship with a girl 2-3 in taller than myself. Link to post Share on other sites
Rejected Rosebud Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 The female and the male?? Is this a zoology class? What it's like is just like any other relationship - depends on the people and what they bring to it. If one or the other of them is hung up on their respective heights, there will probably be problems. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 I'm relatively tall for a woman and I've tended to date men who are my height or shorter. So to me, it's perfectly normal. I can't imagine having feelings about it one way or another. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
losangelena Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 It is rare.. very rare to see a couple in which the female is significantly/visibly taller then the male. And, if the couple eventually decide to marry each other, what are the feelings that they have to live with for the rest of their life. Saying this because I'm a 5 ft 6 male who may potentially land himself in a relationship with a girl 2-3 in taller than myself. I was a little bit taller than my ex. I don't think two or three inches is a huge height difference. I think there are women out there who don't mind, and you need to concentrate on finding and dating those women. I fail to see the issue here. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Delcore Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 I fail to see the issue here. With all honesty, there's no issue. I'm merely just curious and want to view opinions from other people that have been in my shoes, that's all. Link to post Share on other sites
TXGuy Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 I don't think it is a big deal unless you make it a big deal. Quite a few years, I dated a woman 4 inches taller than me. I didn't even think about for several months until I went to a formal work event where she wore heels. I still didn't think much of it, but a few co-workers mentioned it and a couple of my work buddies kidded me about it. But, since it didn't occur to me to react negatively, it was a non-issue. Similar situation a few years ago (she was 4" taller). We went out four or five times. It didn't work out, but as far as I know, it didn't have anything to do with her height. Link to post Share on other sites
Arieswoman Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 15 Famous Couples With Taller Women [PHOTOS] ? - Socialite Life Socialite Life Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 men silently respect you for landing a taller girl. It's not something that would bother me the slightest. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
mike_89 Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 men silently respect you for landing a taller girl. I don't know any men that respect other men for not being able to get a girl that's smaller than them. Maybe it's a cultural thing but where I live it's desirable to have a girlfriend/wife that is smaller and having one that is taller is often ridiculed (for being with a "dragon" or a "beast" instead of a lovely girl). There's even the word "dragonslayer" (literal translation) which is used to ridicule men who always go for the large girls. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 I don't know any men that respect other men for not being able to get a girl that's smaller than them. Maybe it's a cultural thing but where I live it's desirable to have a girlfriend/wife that is smaller and having one that is taller is often ridiculed (for being with a "dragon" or a "beast" instead of a lovely girl). There's even the word "dragonslayer" (literal translation) which is used to ridicule men who always go for the large girls. Your friends must be batting for the other side if they don't think tall girls are pretty. Or jealous. That would be my guess. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
mike_89 Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 Your friends must be batting for the other side if they don't think tall girls are pretty. Or jealous. That would be my guess. Or guys who are shorter than the woman they're seeing are seen as a lesser man, not just by my friends, but by all guys in the community I live in. You honestly think it's just my friends that came up with the word "dragonslayer", use it, and that other people know what it means? Mind you, I'm talking about relative lengths here. A guy that's 7 feet tall won't be ridiculed for being with a girl that's 6'3 but a guy that is 6'2 will. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 Or guys who are shorter than the woman they're seeing are seen as a lesser man, not just by my friends, but by all guys in the community I live in. You honestly think it's just my friends that came up with the word "dragonslayer", use it, and that other people know what it means? Mind you, I'm talking about relative lengths here. A guy that's 7 feet tall won't be ridiculed for being with a girl that's 6'3 but a guy that is 6'2 will. So you are speaking for ALL the men in your community? Wow, it must be great to know so much about every single one. Men know it's hard to land a taller girl. It's actually much easier to get a shorter one. Therefore those that can't do it are jealous because men are competitive. Not rocket science. By the way, it pays to read the OP. The poster is 5'6", the women we are talking about are 5'8" - 5'9". If your friends think that's too tall and have such singular tastes (first time in human history where ALL men fancied the same type of women) they are homosexual. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 I haven't dated anyone smaller (hard pressed as I am s shortie myself) but have dated at same height and in heals I was taller. Didn't really notice to be honest. It was like saying the grass is green... So what? Didn't stop me wearing heals. Didn't make them say no to me wearing heals... Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 I have seen enough short men married long term to taller women. So I would not let height be a deal breaker. Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 The female and the male?? Is this a zoology class? I was thinking that generally mares aren't concerned w/the height of stallions. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 I dated a woman both a little taller and a little older than I was, and it wasn't an issue at all. But the fact that she was crazy turned out to be something of an obstacle. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
losangelena Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 I don't know any men that respect other men for not being able to get a girl that's smaller than them. Maybe it's a cultural thing but where I live it's desirable to have a girlfriend/wife that is smaller and having one that is taller is often ridiculed (for being with a "dragon" or a "beast" instead of a lovely girl). There's even the word "dragonslayer" (literal translation) which is used to ridicule men who always go for the large girls. Err, just because it happens doesn't make it right. In the final analysis, what a woman or man look like relative to each other in a relationship, shouldn't matter (shouldn't matter full-stop, really). What's important is that they love and respect each other. I don't know where you live, but those who care about such things have no business casting judgement. How small-minded. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
S_A Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 Last night my GF's friend went out with a guy off of bumble. She said there won't be a second date because he is short. It matters to some people. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 I don't know any men that respect other men for not being able to get a girl that's smaller than them. Maybe it's a cultural thing but where I live it's desirable to have a girlfriend/wife that is smaller and having one that is taller is often ridiculed (for being with a "dragon" or a "beast" instead of a lovely girl). There's even the word "dragonslayer" (literal translation) which is used to ridicule men who always go for the large girls. She didn't say large girl and neither did the OP. They said "taller". Lots of men do admire short men who are able to get a taller woman, especially if she is pretty. Link to post Share on other sites
losangelena Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 Last night my GF's friend went out with a guy off of bumble. She said there won't be a second date because he is short. It matters to some people. I don't mean for the two IN the relationship—of course attraction matters —I mean it shouldn't matter to anyone else. Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted April 11, 2016 Share Posted April 11, 2016 I`m 5.11, so i don`t think i`m short. I once went out with a girl who was 6.3 I quite enjoyed gazing up, adoringly. She didn`t have an issue with it. On drunken occasions she would throw me over her shoulders and carry me home. 8 Link to post Share on other sites
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