Consolidated Discussion: Height in Dating

[NuevoYorko]

True, it's just I'd hope to meet someone that's just neutral on height in general. I don't want to be with someone who's going to tell me they normally dated tall guys or prefer them.

Great! Then you shouldn't. Don't worry so much about it. If she likes you enough to go out with you more than once and spend her time with you, she's probably not pining over the fact that you're not very tall.

[Jammer25]

You must be in some place like NYC or Los Angeles for you to be average height at 5'10". 5'10" isn't short at all. With shoes on you'll be almost right at 6 foot.

 

Yeah, I'm in a metro area. I definitely feel of average height most days, relative to the male population here.

 

I also dress decently most days, I revamped my wardrobe when I got a corporate job. So with dressier shoes I am indeed closer to 6'

 

Which reminds me, if you keep yourself presentable style-wise and stay fit, it just makes height that much less of a factor.

[Sunkissedpatio]

 

Which reminds me, if you keep yourself presentable style-wise and stay fit, it just makes height that much less of a factor.

 

This is SO true, I notice how a man is dressed, his face and hair far more than his height.

[NJ123]

This is SO true, I notice how a man is dressed, his face and hair far more than his height.

 

But I doubt you'd want to go out with a guy that's shorter than you though. If you noticed a guy that's 5'5" where he dressed nice, had a great face & great hair but was inches shorter than you, would you honestly give him the time of day?

[Sunkissedpatio]

But I doubt you'd want to go out with a guy that's shorter than you though. If you noticed a guy that's 5'5" where he dressed nice, had a great face & great hair but was inches shorter than you, would you honestly give him the time of day?

 

When I was in my 20's I had the biggest crush and actually fell for one of my best friends (a guy) and he was 5'6". He had the best personality, super self-confident, was absolutely hilarious, I mean this guy could make me and our group of friends cry laughing every time we were together. He dressed so well and smelled so good all the time. To make matters worse for him he started to show signs of balding in his mid 20's so he would just shave his head bald. But still managed to look so good and super-stylin' and always had so many chicks after him. He was just a cool dude all-around. You'd forget he was only 5'6

 

We were friends for years, we had relationships at different non-matching times, and at one point when we were both free and single the attraction had been there for so long and the flirting but not going through with it we had to see what was there. We did get together for a bit but decided we were just much better off as friends, since we had been friends for so long and I suspect he had a bigger issue with the height difference than I did (though we never discussed it). I was 3 inches taller than him.

 

You'd be surprised how many men aren't confident enough to date a woman taller than them. It goes both ways.

[Miss Spider]

Never mind!!!

Edited October 14, 2016 by Cookiesandough

[Moves Like Jagger]

Do some of you guys know that there are countries and continents where most guys are short? You guys make it sound like that most women are tall, athletic woman who want to date a guy who will make her feel feminine. My former supervisor was really tall. I remember her at a restaurant looking at some 6-foot guys and complaining that the guys were too short for her. I could understand because she is tall herself. News flash: Not all women are built like Hope Solo.

[ChickiePops]

No, it's not the same at all. Nature selects for breasts because of the increased likelihood of survival of well fed babies. In the ancestral environment the reproductive capacity of all females was utilized; female capacity is the species' capacity. However, it's the opposite for men. One individual man can sire literally thousands of progeny in a lifetime if granted assess by enough females. Females are discriminating.

 

 

 

There are multiple factors that determined human height over time. Some early human were only about three feet tall, and some that were closer to what we are today. Protein in the diet is important in the expression of the genetic potential for height. Both environmental factors and sexual selection influence the genetics. If a shorter, stockier body helps a person to stay warmer, then colder climates over time will encourage shorter, stockier people.

 

evolutionary-battle-sexes-height

 

average-height-of-humans-over-time

 

I could site random articles too. But..I don't feel like it. you are entitled to your opinion and I'm entitled to mine.

[elaine567]

You must be in some place like NYC or Los Angeles for you to be average height at 5'10". 5'10" isn't short at all. With shoes on you'll be almost right at 6 foot.

 

The average height for men in the US seems to be 5'9.5-5'10 from the studies so 5'10 IS average.

Edited October 14, 2016 by elaine567

[NJ123]

When I was in my 20's I had the biggest crush and actually fell for one of my best friends (a guy) and he was 5'6". He had the best personality, super self-confident, was absolutely hilarious, I mean this guy could make me and our group of friends cry laughing every time we were together. He dressed so well and smelled so good all the time. To make matters worse for him he started to show signs of balding in his mid 20's so he would just shave his head bald. But still managed to look so good and super-stylin' and always had so many chicks after him. He was just a cool dude all-around. You'd forget he was only 5'6

 

We were friends for years, we had relationships at different non-matching times, and at one point when we were both free and single the attraction had been there for so long and the flirting but not going through with it we had to see what was there. We did get together for a bit but decided we were just much better off as friends, since we had been friends for so long and I suspect he had a bigger issue with the height difference than I did (though we never discussed it). I was 3 inches taller than him.

 

You'd be surprised how many men aren't confident enough to date a woman taller than them. It goes both ways.

 

To be fair, they're not confident enough because of women usually wanting the guy to be taller then them. So of course a shorter guy is going to be thinking about whether she's even okay with it. That's why so many shorter guys don't ask out women taller then them because they think the woman wouldn't want them. I think if a lot more women were open to dating guys shorter than them, then there wouldn't be so many issues about it on either side any longer.

 

And as I said this is something I've noticed time & again. That whenever a woman states she dated some guy that was short, the vast majority of the time those women wind up with some guy thats tall for a husband or current boyfriend. I'm not sure if it's something women just say to make guys feel more confident within themselves where they think just because they gave a shorter guy a chance that everything is fine. But they still wind up with their desired guy anyway which is a tall guy. Just something I've picked up on that I wonder about.

[NJ123]

Do some of you guys know that there are countries and continents where most guys are short? You guys make it sound like that most women are tall, athletic woman who want to date a guy who will make her feel feminine. My former supervisor was really tall. I remember her at a restaurant looking at some 6-foot guys and complaining that the guys were too short for her. I could understand because she is tall herself. News flash: Not all women are built like Hope Solo.

 

Yeah, but in America it's completely different. A lot of women are really picky about height in the U.S. And the average height here is 5'9". So anything below that is considered short here.

[EveAFlame]

I'm taller than the average man? Gotta say, as a woman, that makes me feel even more self-conscious about my height!

[AnnieRose]

I'm 5'10 and my guy is 5'6. I understand some women can be shallow about this or insecure but not all of us!

 

Don't think you have to rule out women taller than you. Some of us don't care about height and focus on things that are important!

[Shining One]

As with any other attribute that causes someone to be statistically less desirable, the solution is to add more numbers. If being short means only 1/100 women will give you a chance, ask out 100 women. There are always more women.

[ChickiePops]

Sorry guys but a man who complains that he can't get women solely because of his height is just unwilling to face his actual flaws.

[NJ123]

Sorry guys but a man who complains that he can't get women solely because of his height is just unwilling to face his actual flaws.

 

It's not that shorter guys can't get women, they just have a way harder time of finding someone due to having less options.

[Fishfingersareyummy]

Sorry guys but a man who complains that he can't get women solely because of his height is just unwilling to face his actual flaws.

 

True but height does play against short men, so it would be wrong to dismiss height as being irrelevant. I attract women and I am 5'5, but would I attract more women if I was six or seven inches taller? I think so.

[AnnieRose]

Sorry guys but a man who complains that he can't get women solely because of his height is just unwilling to face his actual flaws.

 

I have to disagree. My guy is 5'6 like I said, and confident, but we met in real life. We've talked about dating and he would tell me how online he was virtually invisible but would do well in real life. I guess it depends where short guys are having trouble.

 

Online, deffo not on them. In person, that's different.

[Fishfingersareyummy]

It's not that shorter guys can't get women, they just have a way harder time of finding someone due to having less options.

 

That's not a bad thing because it means I have to wade through less women to find a good woman. My taller friends have had a torrid time with some women in the past and I am pleased I didn't have to go through what some of those guys went through. My experiences with women have been largely positive.

[NJ123]

That's not a bad thing because it means I have to wade through less women to find a good woman. My taller friends have had a torrid time with some women in the past and I am pleased I didn't have to go through what some of those guys went through. My experiences with women have been largely positive.

 

I guess it depends on how you look at it. The more options one has, has the opportunity to probably find someone they're compatible with quicker than one has with less options.

[Fishfingersareyummy]

I guess it depends on how you look at it. The more options one has, has the opportunity to probably find someone they're compatible with quicker than one has with less options.

 

True but then they also have more drama to deal with. There are pros and cons with both sides of the coin.

 

Short men who complain about their height endlessly are only giving off an insecure vibe to women that they are concerned negatively by their height and nobody really wants to be surrounded with negativity.

[NJ123]

True but then they also have more drama to deal with. There are pros and cons with both sides of the coin.

 

Short men who complain about their height endlessly are only giving off an insecure vibe to women that they are concerned negatively by their height and nobody really wants to be surrounded with negativity.

 

I get what you're saying, the only thing is the fact that most women don't want guys shorter than them to begin with so they wouldn't want to get to know them on a deeper level to begin with. And I honestly don't think shorter guys complain about their height out in public or anything, but if they are than I don't blame women for not wanting those particular guys. I think most go online on forums to vent about things that they dislike, but don't bring it up out in the real world.

[Fishfingersareyummy]

I get what you're saying, the only thing is the fact that most women don't want guys shorter than them to begin with so they wouldn't want to get to know them on a deeper level to begin with. And I honestly don't think shorter guys complain about their height out in public or anything, but if they are than I don't blame women for not wanting those particular guys. I think most go online on forums to vent about things that they dislike, but don't bring it up out in the real world.

 

I've attracted women who are taller than me. It's not uncommon for me to attract women who are two to three inches taller than me. A lot of women prefer taller men and a lot of women only date taller men but there are short women, average height women and tall women who will date short men.

 

You just have to work with what you've got. Everybody is attractive to somebody and if I can attract women then anyone can because I am not oil painting.

[ChickiePops]

True but height does play against short men, so it would be wrong to dismiss height as being irrelevant. I attract women and I am 5'5, but would I attract more women if I was six or seven inches taller? I think so.

 

Of course height plays a role..but as has been proven many, many times over in this thread, short men CAN attract women.

 

I said short men that blame their inability to get a girl SOLELY on their height are full of it.

[NJ123]

Of course height plays a role..but as has been proven many, many times over in this thread, short men CAN attract women.

 

I said short men that blame their inability to get a girl SOLELY on their height are full of it.

 

No one is saying they can't attract women, the issue is that they have way less options because of their height which obviously means that in general shorter guys have a harder time finding someone. Basically, when do you ever hear any tall guys complaining about not having many options because they're too tall? Rarely, with the exception of if they're maybe 6'5" & above.