Do you ever feel you are living the wrong life?

[davie]

Do you ever feel that you can do so much more with life?

Or life is just passing you buy?

I've been wanting to write this for some time and the reasonfor writing this now is that I've finally got some time off work plus my Birthday was just after Christmas which is veryclose to the New Year and with my Birthday and New Year being so close togetherit give me a chance to reflect over things that have happened in my life thusfar. I'm not exactly sure what responses I expect to get from this, I guess I'mhoping there will be someone out there in the same boat as me, who will maybehave a better explanation for how I'm feeling.

I'm certainly not depressed but I'm somewhat dissatisfiedwith the way my current life has been set out. Which leads me to my question, Do you ever feel you're somehow on the wrong path in life?

I sometimes feel tired of the life I'm living and can't helpbut think "is this all there is?"

 

 

In many ways I almost feel like I'm living a dream as thoughI keep expecting to wake up and have a different/better life. However, mycurrent life is not all that bad. I have a well paid job it's not a good job ora job that will build a career but it's a job none the less. I have some moneyin the bank, I'm healthy and I have a decent level of education so why am I not happy? In many ways I feelthat I can learn anything that I put my mind to, and I can do anything thoughI just don't seem to have, ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhI'm not sure.

I often keep tellingmyself that I want to do something amazing with my life but when anyone askswhat's this amazing thing you want to do. I reply, "I have no idea"

 

 

 

 

I have goals, for example, save up money get fit and a few other things but yet, I can shake thisfeeling I'm doing something inherently wrong with my life. It's as though thereis something in the back of my mind as I get up in the morning and go to work screamingat me that what I'm doing is wrong and I'm supposed to do something else butyet I have no idea what. Maybe I feel like this due to my Birthday and the New Year being so close which is like a wake up call for me as it's another year gone by.

 

 

I just turned 27 late last year and feel like I've woken up to my current life However I alos feel like I've missed the boat in terms of re-educating myself. Just last week, I was speaking to a family member who said "it must be great being so young and having your whole life ahead of you." While that may be true, I can't help but feel un-accomplished in my life. I see that all my friends on Facebook now have well paid and good jobs. However I'm not jealous of that, what I'm jealous of is that they have found happiness in jobs they love. I just feel like I'm another cog in my job endlessly turning but not truly living. Does anyone else feel the same or have a good explanation on how I can get out of this rut?

 

 

am I crazy for feeling like this?

Edited January 25, 2016 by davie
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[Buddhist]

Do you ever feel that you can do so much more with life?Or life is just passing you buy?

 

I just turned 27 late last year and feel like I've woken up to my current life I just feel like I'm another cog in my job endlessly turning but not truly living. Does anyone else feel the same or have a good explanation on how I can get out of this rut?

 

 

am I crazy for feeling like this?

 

You're not crazy. This is a completely normal rite of passage for someone your age. It's not all mid-life crisis you know.... Basically you're kissing your adolescence (most people don't really become full adults until the end of their 20's) goodbye and are now looking firmly at your future. Sure you've done okay but part of you wants to really live, not just plod through life with some meagre achievements and stepping on that oh so familiar treadmill of work, home, save, spend.

 

Congratulations, and use this period in your life wisely to step things up a notch and start living your dreams instead of the well worn path of career, mortgage etc. At the same age I threw in my IT career, moved to a hippy commune and became a self- employed artist. It was my dream and to hell with everything else. I would do the same again.

 

Know that the only mistake you can really make is failing to do anything and staying 'safe and secure' in a good job and take out bank loans to keep you locked into them forever. Take a risk.

[Satu]

Do you ever feel that you can do so much more with life?

 

No I never feel that way, because I live my life the way I want to live it.

 

You just sound very bored.

 

Take some risks.

 

Walk closer to the edge.

 

Make some changes.

[Justanaverageguy]

Very normal at your age. 28-30 is when most people reasses where they are in life, what they have achieved and normally comes with a tremendous sense of people wanting to find the true meaning\purpose in their life. Frequently this is the period of change. When people start/end long term relationships (stats show this is when most marriages fail) and or completely change careers.

 

Past cultures were well aware of this transition and marked it with special significance - many did not consider you to be an adult until you passed through it. If you look at astronomy (which was previously widely accepted and practiced in older cultures both east and west) they termed this period of a persons life the "return of saturn". Because it takes that long for saturn to perform 1 full orbit and return to where it was at your time of birth. Whether you believe in Astrology is irrelevant - the key point to note is they were well aware of the life changes that occur at this age and the mindset people enter during this period and thus marked it as very important. Do a quick google for "return of saturn" think you will find it is spookily accurate in describing what you are now feeling.

The Saturn Return - Description, Significance in Astrology

[GunslingerRoland]

I saw a tweet Christmas week from the local radio dj about how the week between Christmas and new years you have no idea what day of the week it is, and spend your time contemplating what you are doing with your life... sounds like he nailed it for your week. lol

 

 

Here are my thoughts, we are on the path we are on. There is no sense regretting where you are. What we can do is set meaningful and realistic goals for the future, even if they are high level and fuzzy. And then make sure with your actions you are moving towards those goals no matter how small the steps you take towards them are.

[Satu]

One other thing I'd like to mention:

 

Don't be afraid of spending money on things that make you happy.

 

Its nice to have some money in the bank, but after a certain point its meaningless; just dead money doing nothing.

[dichotomy]

1) Find other things outside of your current job where you can make a difference in the world or for others.

 

2) Find activities that challenge you to grow or expand or learn. Hobbies, sports, religion, non degree classes, travel, whatever.

 

3) Have kids. The love, the challenges, the rewards are unlike anything else.

 

4) Understand what you see on Facebook of other peoples lives is often bulls!t posted to make you believe their lives are wonderful and they are happy as can be.

Edited January 26, 2016 by dichotomy