Is she taking our rs seriously ?

[Tkervin]

Hi everyone,

 

Sorry for my bad English.

 

I am now in a state of confusion. I don't know if I am doing it right or wrong. At this stage, I am currently still with my LDR gf. We have been together for a year. LDR since 8-9months ago and still counting. She is in Korea and I am in Indonesia.

 

Here is the story. My gf have been busy lately with her part time work. It is very tiring for her since she is working in an Korean restaurant. She has to do alot of work such as cleaning serving and closing the store(sometimes). But most of her working time is from 10am to 5pm. She has been weak with her physical fitness, so she tends to get drained out easily.

 

Now the problem lies here. We have been having problems with our future on how are we going to get together and stuffs. And furthermore, she do have issues too with her family. Her family condition is quite bad. Her parents dont talk much anymore due to financial problems. She is worried about her mum to live alone. As she is Korean, she respect and care for her mum alot alot alot. More than you could think of. She is worried that if she comes out of Korea to work and be with me, her mum will be too lonely as her father doesnt really accompany her mum much.

 

Anyway she has been texting really little ever since she work. After her work, she doesnt reply my message or sometimes she doesnt even say hi at all (I don't say it too in the morning, because I was thinking she is working, so just waited for her to say good morning or sth similar) If I don't talk to her, she wouldnt even bother to leave a message. She will just go home and rest and have dinner and go to sleep. I don't know if she is stressed because of the problems around her ? But when I talk, she would reply, but it takes few hours before i get my reply. And everytime I ask her if she is busy, she just reply me that she is just lying on the bed resting. Sometimes I would ask her why it takes so long to reply a message, she said she is very stress and keep thinking about future.

 

Now another problem is that talking about her future. I asked her if she includes me in her future plans. She told me she did think of some results but have not made the decision yet. She replied that sometimes she did try to think about our future but sometimes she dont.

 

Few days back, we skyped. I suggested to her if she wanted to work out of Korea. She nodded. She said she wanted to go either Australia or Singapore for work but for temporary only. (FYI: Long ago, I told her that I am able to work in Singapore only, since it is quite difficult for me to get a job in other countries due to my visa and insufficient working experience. But in SingaporeI have friends who can provide me a job, where I can 100% secure a job there) She knew that I am only able to go Singapore for work, but not Australia. But why did she say she wanted to go Australia ? She did not think about us getting tgr ? Or am I overthinking here ?

 

Lastly, I just wanted to know what I should do right now ? Its been 1 month that we communicate really little. 1 day approximately I can get her replies are max. 4 times reply and she would either fall asleep or watching tv or lying on the bed. I am confused why she doesnt want to contact me ? She did say she doesnt want to lose me and love me very much. And the main thing is she told me she regrets with her behaviour towards me in this month. Seriously, I am not sure she is taking this seriously or not. What should I do ? Any suggestions ?