lyssieee Posted January 29, 2016 Share Posted January 29, 2016 My boyfriend and I met about 10 months ago, he lives in Arizona me in California. I met him in person only for a few minutes because we were with friends but we exchanged contact information, I'm 16, he's 18. I would talk a lot about meeting up again because we've now been dating for 9 months. I asked him if me talking about it scared him or anything and he said yes because he doesn't want me feeling bad about seeing him. That hurt me a little because i now feel like he doesn't want me the way I want him. He's very loving it's just that meeting up feels like the furthest thing from his mind and I almost feel as if I'm just there for convinence when he's lonely or whatever. I don't know how to possibly bring it up if it's not true then it's going to obviously cause a strain and he'll get upset if I'm thinking like that, but if it's true then I don't think I could keep a relationship with someone who feels like that. Some advice is greatly needed, thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 29, 2016 Share Posted January 29, 2016 Life was easier when an LDR for a 16 year old meant dating somebody at a different school, the next town over, not hundreds of miles away. My advice would be to end this because at your ages the distance is insurmountable. Date a local boy & have a more conventional romance. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted January 30, 2016 Share Posted January 30, 2016 Life was easier when an LDR for a 16 year old meant dating somebody at a different school, the next town over, not hundreds of miles away. My advice would be to end this because at your ages the distance is insurmountable. Date a local boy & have a more conventional romance. I agree with all of the above. A little tough love from someone twice your age, OP: you aren't dating if you've never gone on a date with him. Don't wait around for some guy who you've only met once for a few minutes. That's not what a boyfriend should be. Find someone else who is close enough to actually take you on dates and have fun with. Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted January 30, 2016 Share Posted January 30, 2016 Take the time and energy and emotional investment you are putting in to this pen pal and put it into meeting and getting to know flesh and blood boys in your area in real life. The time and energy you are putting into futile endeavor is keeping you off of the real life dating market. Link to post Share on other sites
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