Ex called me about a teddy bear

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So ladies and gents, not sure where to post this but I thought it was an interesting change of events, not sure what to make of it.

 

My ex and I have had some ups and downs in the 3 months we've been apart and have been in very limited contact- no telephone for months only e-mail and texts.

 

I miss her definitely and would like to try and work things out- I love the girl- there's no doubt about it.

 

So out of the blue she calls me to tell me about a teddy bear I gave her over christmas and how it's going to be in a play she's doing (we're both actors). That was why she called- to tell me about a teddy bear. A teddy bear.

 

Now I am certainly no rocket scientist, but since we're on good terms, just not incredibly vocal, is there something else behind this contact? We spoke and she brought up jokes from our past and we had a nice conversation. I told her to contact me later in the week if she wanted to, and that was it. I did not ask her to come back or make any gesture that would make her assume that.

 

Her play opens tomorrow night and I don't know if I'm going to go see it, but I did send her flowers to congratulate her - she has the lead and she's awesome and has been wanting this break forever.

 

Sooooooo....... think there's anything else behind this? Seems a little weird, I mean, I had no plans of calling her and telling her that I used the wok she gave me to make stir fry one night.

 

Anyhow, I guess this is a question that warrants a female perspective, but as usual Love Shackers, all imput is valid.

 

PS- just so I don't get flamed for this- yes I am living my life quite happily without her, but that doesn't change the fact that I want her back.

[ConfusedInOC]

Do me a favor. Next time you talk, don't leave her an open invitation to call you anytime.

 

And next time she calls or texts or emails you, don't always be available. Be busy, have a life and don't worry about when she is going to contact you.

 

MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY FIRST.....

[seagirl]

It sounds to me like she was looking for an excuse to call and she found two reasons, first if she got the lead in the play she might not want to sound like she was bragging so she used excuse number two and phoned about he teddy bear

 

Personally, I think she is still interested, women don't usually do things like that unless they mean something. That's why we are hard to figire out.

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Originally posted by ConfusedInOC

Do me a favor. Next time you talk, don't leave her an open invitation to call you anytime.

 

And next time she calls or texts or emails you, don't always be available. Be busy, have a life and don't worry about when she is going to contact you.

 

MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY FIRST.....

 

You are absolutely right, COC, no doubt about it. It wasn't a desperate thing, I just thought that it was right to say- you know like I'm not calling you so....

 

I am making myself happy first, there's no doubt about it. I continue to live with or without her. And I generally don't respond to her texts and emails until much later...but I do get what you're saying. I definitely don't worry about her contacting me- I have a show as well... and I don't pine after her. EVER. Yes I want her back, no I don't make it my motto.

 

I am happy. I always have been. Before her. After her. She is not my life, she is my love.

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Originally posted by seagirl

It sounds to me like she was looking for an excuse to call and she found two reasons, first if she got the lead in the play she might not want to sound like she was bragging so she used excuse number two and phoned about he teddy bear

 

Personally, I think she is still interested, women don't usually do things like that unless they mean something. That's why we are hard to figire out.

 

Thank you SG. I thought the same thing, but it's nice to hear a girl say it too... since you're the only ones that understand you...