Travel Bug Posted June 8, 2005 Share Posted June 8, 2005 My H travels a lot with his job, both within the USA and overseas (mainly to Europe). Because of this, he never wants to go anywhere on vacation, and likes to hang around at home. He hates hotel rooms,and eating out while "on the road", so as a result, we rarely go away for a vacation, and hardly ever eat out. I'm finding this frustrating because I would love to travel to some of the places he has been. The last time we did travel (to Las Vegas), at my request, H constantly moaned about how bored he was: "there's nothing to do", "its just another hotel room", and the most hurtful comment: "how could you put me through this, its like being at work."The whole experience was spoiled by his negative attitude. Any other attempts to suggest vacation destinations have been met with "what do you want to go there for?" or "no way are we going............" Its the same with eating out. I suggest trying a restaurant, and the reaction is "what a waste of money" or "I eat enough takeout c**p on the road." Funnily enough, when friends ask us out, or his buddy is in town, he is always eager to go. So what do I do? Go on a vacation without him? I know he won't approve because he once criticized his Mom for doing just that. Please help! Link to post Share on other sites
UltimateZen Posted June 8, 2005 Share Posted June 8, 2005 Have you thought of travelling with him on his business trips? I take my wife every so often. It gives her a chance to travel and at the same time we are doing it together. Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted June 8, 2005 Share Posted June 8, 2005 Go on a vacation out in the woods.....he's sick and tired of the traveling and staying in hotels........get on a river and pitch a tent......you'll have fun. Link to post Share on other sites
binturong Posted June 8, 2005 Share Posted June 8, 2005 Yes, go without him. Why should you give up things you want to do because he has a poor attitude about them? I travel without my husband all the time. He refuses to get on an airplane. I told him that I wouldn't ask him to get on an airplane, but he couldn't expect me to not see the places I want to because of that. I mostly travel with my parents and siblings...we go on family vacations to Hawaii or the Virgin Islands. I've flown to Vegas for the weekend with girl friends. He has no problems with that, because when he wants to go on vacation with me, I do that too. We take road trips to national parks, we drive to cute little towns and stay for a few days. If your husband won't approve of you going without him, ask him what he expects of you? He thinks because he travels all the time and hates it, so you should? That's unreasonable. Another thing you could try is to see if you can get any of his friends to help plan a travel vacation. Maybe if it's you guys and another couple, he'll be more receptive to the idea. Link to post Share on other sites
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