whats the point of living, if you cant be happy anymore?

[benjamin1000]

1. If you can never again be equal to girls anymore, which have regular sex since youth, had a few thousand times sex and orgasms

2. If you can never be equal to others, because you didnt have fun in youth, was not going on vacations, out with friends, parties, drinking, drugs, which is sign of big person these days

 

Whats the point of going to new job, working hard, start new life if you cant be equal to others anyway and therefor not happy anymore. Others will be always above me, because they had fun in youth:(

[d0nnivain]

You have posted this before under a different name.

 

 

What you do is get into therapy.

 

 

Youthful adventures or lack there of are not the measure of your relative worth. You are not beneath others because you didn't have a mis-spent youth.

[Buddhist]

1. If you can never again be equal to girls anymore, which have regular sex since youth, had a few thousand times sex and orgasms

2. If you can never be equal to others, because you didnt have fun in youth, was not going on vacations, out with friends, parties, drinking, drugs, which is sign of big person these days

 

Whats the point of going to new job, working hard, start new life if you cant be equal to others anyway and therefor not happy anymore. Others will be always above me, because they had fun in youth:(

 

If you can never learn to stop comparing yourself to others then yes indeed you will never be happy. Even if you were equal in the ways you describe there will always be people with more. What you are suffering from is envy, it will eat you up inside. And guess what, it won't feel any better a decade from now when you're still wallowing in it.

 

You don't live life to be equal with others or comparing your experience with others. You live life for yourself. You've lost sight of that and think it's all about what you haven't got. There are only two choices for you.

 

1. Continue on with this mindset and experience continual disappointment in your life until you finally leave the planet decades from now.

 

2. Give up your wallowing in envy, address it and resolve to find something in life with meaning for you. Live the following decades you have left feeling a lot better than you do right now.

 

Take a moment to ponder these choices and remember, it won't matter to anyone else at all which one you make. The only person it will make a difference to is you.

[dichotomy]

Life -your life - maybe its not about you or your happiness. Maybe its about something else.

 

Just a thought.

[bathtub-row]

Wow. If your whole life is dictated by what you DIDN'T do when you were young, then you're your own worst enemy. Since you can't possibly change the past, then you have completely set yourself up for failure; in a situation that's uncontrollable for you.

 

Do you not see the flaw in that kind of thinking? Do you honestly think that every young person does everything thing they want to do? That it's a measure of your value today?

 

You ALWAYS have the power to change your life at any point in time. And you ALWAYS have the power to change your viewpoint and attitude, even if nothing else changes.

 

Have you ever seen the movie Peaceful Warrior? A couple of quotes from that movie are:

 

"There are no ordinary moments."

 

"If you don't get what you want, you suffer; if you get what you don't want, you suffer; even when you get exactly what you want, you still suffer because you can't hold onto it."

 

This is about attitude and how you choose to see things. It's also about changing your life if that's what you want to do. If you want to do the things you didn't do, then find a way to do them. And stop thinking everyone is somehow better than you and that they're all deliriously happy and you're the only person with problems. I have a friend who's in a wheelchair and she has a more fulfilling life than most people I know. Do you know why that is? Because she appreciates every little thing she can do, because she's open to people, because her outlook on life has nothing to do with what she can't do, it's about what she can do.

 

So, are you bedridden with a terminal illness? Are you in a wheelchair? What's stopping you from taking a second job and saving up for a wonderful vacation, even if it's for a few days? In short, what is holding you back from turning your life around right now?

[benjamin1000]

I dont see a flaw, if you are a realist. If you look on the things from the view of numbers and statistic. I call this a realist. If its positive or negative for you, doesnt matter, what matters is that you look the truth in the eye.

 

There are many arcticles over the internet which proove how much sex partners girls had in youth, how promiscuous youth is. If you had all this in youth it means you will have much more to tell from life and be advanced, developed at 30.

 

Young women 'have more sexual partners' than men - Telegraph

[bathtub-row]

I dont see a flaw, if you are a realist. If you look on the things from the view of numbers and statistic. I call this a realist. If its positive or negative for you, doesnt matter, what matters is that you look the truth in the eye.

 

There are many arcticles over the internet which proove how much sex partners girls had in youth, how promiscuous youth is. If you had all this in youth it means you will have much more to tell from life and be advanced, developed at 30.

 

Young women 'have more sexual partners' than men - Telegraph

 

It could also be called clinical.

 

Look, most women aren't into having a lot of different sexual partners. I'm 57 and have been with a total of 7 different guys. And this isn't because I'm unattractive. It has been my observation that women who have had a lot of sexual partners are just as screwed up as anyone else. Usually, more so.

 

Anyway, are you a guy or girl? I assumed you were a guy because of your name. If you're a guy, I don't understand what statistics on girls and sex have to do with you.

[benjamin1000]

You come from different generation. Todays norms are different. I could show you one article, but is in german, so its useless... I have proof right there what todays young people do and i can never reach them anymore, because time is over In past a girl who had 3-4 sex partners until 15 was called slut, today this is cool. 14 year old kids have group sex. Girls have sex for money so they can buy some things they want. Its totally normal today.

 

Yes i am a guy. Why would i care what guys do? I want girls and i need to be on their level to have them and i cant anymore...

[Satu]

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Whats the point of going to new job, working hard, start new life if you cant be equal to others anyway and therefor not happy anymore. Others will be always above me, because they had fun in youth:(

 

You're not better.

 

You're not worse.

 

You're not special in any way.

 

You're just one amongst billions of human beings.

 

Other people are just people.

 

It's not a competition.

 

 

 

 

Take care.

[bathtub-row]

Amazingly enough, you can find proof to support anything you want to support. It doesn't matter if I'm from a different generation or not. Doing group sex and having multiple sex partners before you turn 15 is just a plain bad idea.

 

This seems to be all about sex for you. I'm still trying to figure out why you're dwelling on your past so much. As I said before, you can't win that game. You've painted yourself into a corner.

 

So, when I was in my 30's, I had a great sex life. I was basically in my prime - driven and unstoppable. What on earth makes you think that being in your 30's means your sex life is dead? Don't you understand that women love mature men, that the older men get, the better they get? But you're not even close to being considered older. You really are in your prime! I'm just really at a loss to understand why you have chosen to focus on such negativity and on things you can't do anything about. It's like you're just looking for a reason to end your life.

[Mumbles]

Change your job. Become a porn star Those guys rack up 2-3-4000 co-workers over their careers - easily enough to steady up your sought after statistics

 

If you don't like that idea, there are other ways to rack up vast numbers of partners in a relatively quick way. You can then sit back, look at your stats, compare them with others and see how you now feel.

 

My guess is that you will feel the same, but you never know, and at least it will keep you alive and busy for 5 years or so

[benjamin1000]

Amazingly enough, you can find proof to support anything you want to support. It doesn't matter if I'm from a different generation or not. Doing group sex and having multiple sex partners before you turn 15 is just a plain bad idea.

 

This seems to be all about sex for you. I'm still trying to figure out why you're dwelling on your past so much. As I said before, you can't win that game. You've painted yourself into a corner.

 

So, when I was in my 30's, I had a great sex life. I was basically in my prime - driven and unstoppable. What on earth makes you think that being in your 30's means your sex life is dead? Don't you understand that women love mature men, that the older men get, the better they get? But you're not even close to being considered older. You really are in your prime! I'm just really at a loss to understand why you have chosen to focus on such negativity and on things you can't do anything about. It's like you're just looking for a reason to end your life.

 

I dont mean its dead, but its useless, if you didnt have sex in your youth also. Do you think a person who made high school at 40 has done the same as the one who did it at 18, was the same successfull and showed skill? No. The second person won. Its the same with sex, who did have it at 16-24 regulary. They showed they were big persons, because doing the best thing on earth was normal for them in young years. At 30-40 everybody can do this. But if you do it in the young years, you are winner for life. If not, you are marked forever and those people can always say to you, they had more from life, because they had regular sex since youth.

[Mumbles]

A rather interesting british/american philosopher once said "The meaning of life is to be alive"

 

Just that - don't brush it off, have a think.

 

 

I dont mean its dead, but its useless, if you didnt have sex in your youth also. Do you think a person who made high school at 40 has done the same as the one who did it at 18, was the same successfull and showed skill? No. The second person won.

 

I know you are using this as an example, but I have to chime in as its still incorrect in my view.

 

I have an uncle who never went past primary school and never learned to read or write, he's now in his seventies and has been a multi millionaire for decades, for most of his middle adult life actually....

 

My point being that doing certain things at certain times of your life is no guarantee of anything... not really.

 

 

Its the same with sex, who did have it at 16-24 regulary. They showed they were big persons, because doing the best thing on earth was normal for them in young years. At 30-40 everybody can do this. But if you do it in the young years, you are winner for life.

 

But the thing is, who's doing the judging here? Who makes the determination of whether you win or lose? Life isn't a game mate, its real.

 

Whilst I did have my fair share of sexual experiences in my 20's through 30's I spent most of that time wishing I had more than I got. Now, in my late 40's I'm more sexually active than I've ever been and if the tally was numbers of partners and numbers of per instance encounters I'd put my age-peers to shame ... and by a big big margin.

 

But what does it all mean? Nothing that I can understand. If you're happy with what you are doing then keep on doing it, if you are not then make changes.

 

If not, you are marked forever and those people can always say to you, they had more from life, because they had regular sex since youth.

 

If its that important to you, go out there and get yours starting right now!

 

Rack up those notches on your bedpost and go talk about it with your mates at the pub. Remember, its common for 'pub talk' around these matters to double, triple or even more the real numbers. So, if your mate tells you that he's slept with 60 different women you could pretty safely cut that back to 20 or 30 in reality (unless you know for absolute certainty that he's a straight up guy).

[benjamin1000]

One girl just posted this on facebook. I think this says it all:

 

https://scontent-fra3-1.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-prn2/v/t1.0-9/946014_170497539812495_1397599170_n.jpg?oh=7f174045b938fbf184d81e20c1e7778e&oe=57288080

 

This prooves you can never be equal to those girls, if you didnt have this in youth Pictures like this would not exists and cute girls would not post it over internet if it would not be true and norm to do this at young age. Its always the young girls who post it, not older ones

[GorillaTheater]

One girl just posted this on facebook. I think this says it all:

 

https://scontent-fra3-1.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-prn2/v/t1.0-9/946014_170497539812495_1397599170_n.jpg?oh=7f174045b938fbf184d81e20c1e7778e&oe=57288080

 

This prooves you can never be equal to those girls, if you didnt have this in youth Pictures like this would not exists and cute girls would not post it over internet if it would not be true and norm to do this at young age. Its always the young girls who post it, not older ones

 

 

You're feeling down because of some stupid meme?

 

 

I think you need a new yardstick to measure your life by.

[d0nnivain]

The meme is not even true. It may look like they are having more fun but it's an act. They are longing for acceptance just like everyone else.

 

 

You need to stop living in the past & focus on there here & now. What are you doing today to bring joy into your life?

 

 

I don't know how to ski. But in middle age if I wanted to learn I could probably become competent. Will I ever win an Olympic medal? No. In that sense you are sort of right; certain things you have to have a life time commitment & start young. But you are absolutely wrong that you have to start having sex as a teen in order to be a good lover as an adult. In fact most young people only learn the wrong way & then have to undo a lifetime of bad habits to get it right as an adult.

[bathtub-row]

If sex is natural, then why do you need to practice so much?

 

Sex came very naturally to me and I had a very high sex drive. Experience or not, I was dang good at it. Still am.

 

But I really have to wonder what world you live in where you measure so much by trashy girls. Look I'm not a religious person and I have a 25-yr old son who wouldn't date any of those girls you're taking about. I don't care what generation a person comes from, in the normal world, having multiple sex partners before you're 15 and posting crap on the Internet is just plain trashy. These are the kind of girls who will cheat on you the second they get bored.

 

Seriously, I just don't know what you're thinking. I'd suggest that you raise your standards where women are concerned.

[benjamin1000]

Those are normal cute girls that go to college.

 

And i am not talking about that, that you need to have sex to be good at it. Its not about quality of sex. Its about doing it, get the numbers. Doesnt matter if good or bad sex, what mattes is that you do it. Girls do it to get experience, to get numbers too. So they can say they enjoyed youth and were not behind others.

 

Why you think in every movie of today is sex. It shows you must have it to have fullfilled life.

[GorillaTheater]

Its not about quality of sex. Its about doing it, get the numbers. Doesnt matter if good or bad sex, what mattes is that you do it. Girls do it to get experience, to get numbers too. So they can say they enjoyed youth and were not behind others.

 

Why you think in every movie of today is sex. It shows you must have it to have fullfilled life.

 

 

If "movies" (and probably lousy movies at that) are your yardstick, you definitely need a new way to measure your life.

 

 

My number is five. Five. I was married at 21, worked my ass off through college and post-grad (and had my first kid in the middle of the latter). I didn't have time or the inclination to be the party animal who was banging a new chick every weekend. I didn't consider myself to be a failure at the time and especially don't now.

 

 

Pro tip: NOBODY cares how many chicks you've banged. Nobody. Don't measure your life by something so inconsequential.

[benjamin1000]

Yes, nobody cares. But no girl who enjoys sex would want past like mine, without no sex. This says all about my worth.

[GorillaTheater]

Yes, nobody cares. But no girl who enjoys sex would want past like mine, without no sex. This says all about my worth.

 

 

Or they might enjoy popping your cherry. Or maybe you shouldn't care too much about what they think. Or maybe it's none of their business how many partners you've had. Or maybe they'd never think to ask you about that in the first place.

 

 

See how that works?

[amaysngrace]

You need to whack off and learn to love yourself.

 

This way if anybody ever tells you to "go fck yourself" you can be like "okay" and not take it personally.

 

You have terrible self esteem but maybe with your manhood in your hand and seeing how awesomely powerful that thing is you will start to feel better about yourself.

[bathtub-row]

Well, I know I'm old and dumb but I can tell you for a fact that I don't - and never did - date man-whores. Few things can turn me off faster than a man who's just out to rack up the numbers. My very modern, engineer son doesn't live this type of lifestyle either, nor do the classy women he dates.

 

Now, unless the movies you're referring to are porno movies, I think you need to watch them again. You may realize that the theme of most movies is finding the right person and demonstrating the difference between sex and lovemaking. Yes, they enjoy sex in movies but they're not having sex every two seconds, with anybody and everybody. Again, unless you're referring to the latest Golden Globe porn flick, then I haven't seen evidence of what you're talking about.

 

You seem to have a very skewed view of life and sex. I'm not sure where you grew up but I hope that you will try to grasp the idea that you just may be on the wrong path altogether with your thinking. No matter what these cute college girls are doing, you should already have developed a strong moral compass of your own.

Edited February 3, 2016 by bathtub-row

[benjamin1000]

IMDb: My All Time Favorite Films About Sex - a list by diego_cuevs21

 

And the new movie The Diary Of A Teenage Girl.

 

Point is, you must have a time like this in your youth to get to the next level and develope. All cute girls had it (most of them). I am not talking all the years, but a few months, maybe years. The society has evolved, these are norms today.

 

And dont tell me girls like this dont exists. I spoke with many of them over the internet, all had regular sex since high school. How am i the same big person as those girls, if for them sex is something totally normal and for me just science fiction.

 

I am watching now pictures from girls at parties in clubs and i am crying...thinking about how much sexy they must had until now and i can never be on their level again, because the time is over

[amaysngrace]

How old are you?