whats the point of living, if you cant be happy anymore?

[benjamin1000]

29, but this doesnt matter...what matter is facts and numbers others had from 15 to 25..

[amaysngrace]

Why are you dwelling on something you can't change?

 

Why not do something today that can make a better tomorrow for yourself?

 

What you are doing seems like a whole lot of wasted energy to me.

 

Goals!

[Buddhist]

IMDb: My All Time Favorite Films About Sex - a list by diego_cuevs21

 

And the new movie The Diary Of A Teenage Girl.

 

Point is, you must have a time like this in your youth to get to the next level and develope. All cute girls had it (most of them). I am not talking all the years, but a few months, maybe years. The society has evolved, these are norms today.

 

And dont tell me girls like this dont exists. I spoke with many of them over the internet, all had regular sex since high school. How am i the same big person as those girls, if for them sex is something totally normal and for me just science fiction.

 

I am watching now pictures from girls at parties in clubs and i am crying...thinking about how much sexy they must had until now and i can never be on their level again, because the time is over

 

So you're wanting to go back in time and become a teenaged girl?

 

My big question is what's a 29yr old man doing obsessing about the sex lives of teenaged girls?

[bathtub-row]

Not joking at all but I guess that's what prostitutes are for.

 

I don't know what to tell you. I really can't even begin to wrap my mind around your way of thinking. And I'm certain that this isn't a generational thing. You somehow want to measure up to slutty behavior and think that this makes you grow as a person. The only thing I can suggest is that you see a therapist. You're completely blind to how useless, flawed, and destructive this way of thinking is. Unless you can see it, you're not going to get past it.

[Mumbles]

29, but this doesnt matter...what matter is facts and numbers others had from 15 to 25..

 

I must be missing something really important in your original post. Is it simply a lament of early youth now past? Just this?

 

Or is it partly that but also a perceived 'need' to correct the issue before your youth is gone?

 

You've said a few posts above that its all about the numbers ... a snippet "Its about doing it, get the numbers."

 

Firstly, the answer to your specific worded lament - go get yours -right now-, seriously, you've got a year before you're thirty - if your post is about correcting your perception of how many women you've slept with, go fix it.

 

With almost no effort whatsoever, in the next twelve months, you could, easily, chalk up 104 new faces onto your scorecard. Two per week.

 

This will blow out of the water almost everyone you know or could know including the teenage/early twenties girls you are using as an example.

 

Even the girl or guy at the pub having a brag about what a stud (or slut) they are won't come close to these numbers in the cold-hard-reality-of-day.

 

But, and this is important, don't measure your numbers, as a man, against young women, whether they be todays young girls or yesteryears. Women 'bloom' in their mid teens to mid twenties and attract a -huge- amount of attention from men because of it (thats biology for you). At the same age most men have almost nothing to offer and simply won't and can't rack up the same sort of numbers (again, assuming this is even important!).

 

Most of the partners the girls you are envious of will have are going to be 5-10 years older than them (or even more).

 

If you play your cards right, and its important you learn to play the game if the OP is sincerely important to you, then you are about to hit your prime years ... late twenties to late thirties.

[benjamin1000]

It doesnt matter if i have sex with 100 women in next year or whatever. What mattered was if i would have sex in youth years. Then it decides if you are capable person. Its not about numbers all together. Its about having regular sex since 16-18 until 30.

 

Who comes to finish first in a race is a winner. Its the same with doing all the sex stuff. Those girls did it at early age, i didnt. They won, so i cant have them now. The race is long over. They won, they will always have more from life, because of stuff they did then, in years when it was important.

 

And thats why young people do it, because its important to do it in those years. They dont wait until 30, 40.

 

Even if i would get now a super hot 18-20 year old girl, i could not have sex with her, because she does it at young age at me and i didnt have this at young age.

[amaysngrace]

There's more to life than sex. Being well-adjusted comes to mind.

 

What if you were in a wheel chair? Do you think you'd be all pissy and moany about not having sex?

 

Count your blessings man.

[bathtub-row]

I don't think there's anything any of us can say to you to help because your thinking is completely off the mark and you seem determined to hang onto it. Even if it kills you or continues to make your life miserable, you're going to cling to this way of thinking.

 

All I can say is that you're dead wrong. Completely. I hope you find peace.

[benjamin1000]

There's more to life than sex. Being well-adjusted comes to mind.

 

Its easy to say that to people who dont know what is youth without sex, love, kissing. The things that for others are normal and have it all the time. Especially cute girls. Its like saying to somebody who was starving until his 30 that food is not important.

[benjamin1000]

I don't think there's anything any of us can say to you to help because your thinking is completely off the mark and you seem determined to hang onto it. Even if it kills you or continues to make your life miserable, you're going to cling to this way of thinking.

 

All I can say is that you're dead wrong. Completely. I hope you find peace.

 

If i would be wrong, majority of all cute girls would not have regular sex since 16-18. This says all about my worth.

[dichotomy]

 

 

 

 

 

P.S.

 

I have dealt with sadness and depression over losses with love, sex and women - and other losses you could not imagine. I get it, but sometimes you do have to just laugh. Life is absurd at times.

Edited February 3, 2016 by dichotomy

[amaysngrace]

Its like saying to somebody who was starving until his 30 that food is not important.

 

Food is a basic necessity. Sex is not.

 

Are you in counseling? You probably should be since your obsession with teenage sex is leading you to other irrational thinking.

 

Good luck in getting past your past of nothing happening.

[benjamin1000]

Sex is also basic necessity, but for the soul. Thats why all normal people have it regulary.

[d0nnivain]

Its like saying to somebody who was starving until his 30 that food is not important.

 

No we're saying it doesn't matter that you didn't get food way back then. It matters that there is food now but you refuse to eat it because you are unreasonably pissed because you didn't get food then.

[benjamin1000]

If you are objective and realistic person you understand that if you were starving for 30 years, you didnt have much from life and others had much more from life and have so won the game of life.

 

Its the same with sex.

[Grewd]

If you are objective and realistic person you understand that if you were starving for 30 years, you didnt have much from life and others had much more from life and have so won the game of life.

 

Its the same with sex.

Seriously dude, you won't get anything from complaining like you do. I could sit around looking at how my life was oh so awful and do like you do. Believe me when I say I had it pretty bad through my entire youth and up until the age of 23. I felt exactly the way you do, everyone else had so much more and I had nothing. You could end it at that or question yourself, how come they had so much more? What did they do that you didn't? What can you learn from them? Could what they do work for you as well? Are you just simply wrong? Maybe that's too hard to admit?

 

So what stopped me at 23? I stopped myself, I wasn't getting my needs in life fulfilled. What did I do about it? Well, nobody else was going to do it for me so I went ahead and did it myself. Yeah I'm one of the guys you envy, but I wasn't always a winner. I turned from a loser into a winner, I play the game and I learned to play it well. Anyone can learn to live, there's extremely few excuses you can throw at me that I can't break into a billion pieces.

 

Your thinking makes me angry, it's a damn lie that everyone's youth was so wonderful. It wasn't, I don't know a single guy who can truthfully say he loved youth.

 

Some people go get their food, others starve right in front of it thinking someone else will get it for them. There's billions of women out there, some of which will have sex with anyone. If you're really this desperate I'd like to think you'd have plenty of motivation finding one of them.

 

It's your own responsibility to find happiness in life, if you think you can't be happy then you can't. If you think you can be happy in life then you can, it's commonly referred to as hope of which you currently express having none of. How the hell are anyone else supposed to "fix" that for you, it's entirely up to you. You decide, can you are can you not be happy? Are you willing to stake your life on it? If not then what hope keeps you alive still? Do you see where I'm going with this?

Edited February 4, 2016 by Grewd

[bathtub-row]

If you are objective and realistic person you understand that if you were starving for 30 years, you didnt have much from life and others had much more from life and have so won the game of life.

 

Its the same with sex.

 

I wouldn't try using that line of reasoning with the holicaust survivors. If they had wallowed in their miseries, they would've never gotten on with living their lives once they got out.

 

I find it interesting that you have an argument for every level of this discussion but you absolutely will not entertain any other way of thinking. Do you do that with everything? It shows a very high level of stubbornness and immaturity, to your own detriment.

Edited February 4, 2016 by bathtub-row

[Grewd]

It doesnt matter if i have sex with 100 women in next year or whatever. What mattered was if i would have sex in youth years. Then it decides if you are capable person. Its not about numbers all together. Its about having regular sex since 16-18 until 30.

 

Who comes to finish first in a race is a winner. Its the same with doing all the sex stuff. Those girls did it at early age, i didnt. They won, so i cant have them now. The race is long over. They won, they will always have more from life, because of stuff they did then, in years when it was important.

 

And thats why young people do it, because its important to do it in those years. They dont wait until 30, 40.

 

Even if i would get now a super hot 18-20 year old girl, i could not have sex with her, because she does it at young age at me and i didnt have this at young age.

Let's try a different approach than my previous response.

 

You're right, you're absolutely right. You're a complete waste and a loser. Your youth is lost forever, you're doomed to forever live in misery. You're just screwed, because of your past you're screwed.

 

Now what? You've got your validation, there's no hope for you. What are you going to do? I dare you to tell me.

 

Are you just going to end it? Is that the solution? What does that achieve?! It achieves absolutely nothing, it just furthers you being a loser, a quitter and doomed.

 

This is all just pure bullsh*t, but you're right you can't change the past. What you can do is to not let the past repeat itself, you can't "catch" up in life time spent doing these things. You can begin now though, it's too late I can hear you say? NO, I will hear no such excuse. It's never too late, not until your body slams into the coffin and gets buried under the dirt.

 

Your life up to this point, this exact point has been a huge disappointment to yourself. WHY DO YOU NOT CHANGE IT??!! Just change it! The changes you make now affects how your future goes, if you do not change then your future will be the same as your past. If you don't change you can KNOW you'll continue to be a loser as you continue to do what you did to be a loser, if you change you enter into the unknown and in the unknown you stand a greater chance than in certain doom.

 

If your life is so unimaginably f*cked then what have you got to lose taking some risks? Seriously, get out of here and go live, you have everything to gain!

 

Btw, you even lose at getting help, you're not accepting any.

Edited February 4, 2016 by Grewd

[Mumbles]

Its about having regular sex since 16-18 until 30.

 

Ahh, so, you're feeling a lack of experience and, now a bit older you are embarrassed perhaps and wish for the nativity of youth and the no-judgement exploring that often goes with that?

 

I think I get it now.

 

Don't worry dude. As I previously said, get your numbers up. Go visit 2 escorts a week for the next three months then come back here and let us know how you feel.

 

Escorts don't give a stuff how experienced you are and won't tell your mates. At the same time, once you've calmed down a bit and don't freak the girls out as much, they will teach you everything you wished you learned in your years 16-20 and a _lot_ more.

 

No bull, go do it, thank me later - and don't forget to report back on how your outlook on life and living has changed.

[Noproblem]

Everyone has his own story and journey

no body is the same..

 

There is no point of everything in the end.. stop comparing your lives to others and just keep on moving forward...

[bigbaby]

I have no idea what's going on.

[WaitingForBardot]

I think the OP should stop worrying. I mean the whole universe is going to be heat dead in less than 2 trillion years (by current estimates), so what's the point?

[Captivating]

1. If you can never again be equal to girls anymore, which have regular sex since youth, had a few thousand times sex and orgasms

2. If you can never be equal to others, because you didnt have fun in youth, was not going on vacations, out with friends, parties, drinking, drugs, which is sign of big person these days

 

Whats the point of going to new job, working hard, start new life if you cant be equal to others anyway and therefor not happy anymore. Others will be always above me, because they had fun in youth:(

 

Hey Ben,

 

How are you?

 

Listen, it is great that you are not falling into following the main stream, by being peer-pressured like most of the young people do.

If I were you, I would be VERY proud of myself.

Always do whatever you are comfortable with. I think it is good to wait with certain experiences until you are ready anyways and until the right opportunity presents itself.

So, please don't think less of yourself because of this

It is OK to think differently, always be true to yourself!

 

Grab a pen and paper and start describing yourself writing it down. From tomorrow only put POSITIVE affirmations on the same paper everyday for a month !!! Look at yourself in the mirror and say a positive affirmation regarding yourself every morning and every evening.

There will be a mental shift at some point.....self love is crucial for your well being.

I watched a documentary on Netflix, " HUNGRY FOR CHANGE" , I would highly recommend this for you to watch.

It is mainly about health and nutrition, but it also reflects on the emotional part of our lives having major effect on us, everything is inner connected.

 

Occupy yourself with things you are interested in, (cooking, reading, photography etc.) set small goals, achieve them, it will boost your confidence, start to feel happier everyday, it attracts people, friends and everything start to fall into the right place, you will see.

 

There are many great documentaries on Netflix that maybe you could watch, I bet you will like them. These could be great conversation topics.

 

"Food matters", "Forks over knives" , "How we got to now" , "inequality for all" etc

 

Let me know what you think, Ben! ttyl

[benjamin1000]

I am watching this now (i dont know if the link is allowed here):

GIFs that makes you wanna eat pussy

 

There is not a single women here i would not like to have. Here you see how beautiful women are. That there is nothing more beautiful on world then sex and enjoying it. All other things are less important and less beautiful in life. Those beautiful women have it so easy in life with their perfect look. They have so much more from life.

 

Saying positive affirmations would be only lying to myself if i am not equal in basic thing in life. Enjoying sex and human body, like others do. If i didnt have this in years where you proof that you are capable person.

 

I watched all those documentaries already. I watch also over 4500 movies in last 15 years. I dont see how hobbies or documentaries change facts how i cant be equal to girls which have regular sex since youth. Enjoy all the big things i can only see on screen (the ones from my link).

Edited February 5, 2016 by benjamin1000

[Captivating]

I am watching this now (i dont know if the link is allowed here):

GIFs that makes you wanna eat pussy

 

There is not a single women here i would not like to have. Here you see how beautiful women are. That there is nothing more beautiful on world then sex and enjoying it. All other things are less important and less beautiful in life. Those beautiful women have it so easy in life with their perfect look. They have so much more from life.

 

Saying positive affirmations would be only lying to myself if i am not equal in basic thing in life. Enjoying sex and human body, like others do. If i didnt have this in years where you proof that you are capable person.

 

I watched all those documentaries already. I watch also over 4500 movies in last 15 years. I dont see how hobbies or documentaries change facts how i cant be equal to girls which have regular sex since youth. Enjoy all the big things i can only see on screen (the ones from my link).

 

Ben,

 

I don't really understand what your problem is.

Sex is not everything. If you like sex so much, get out there and do it!

What holds you back ????

How do you know that "those beautiful women have it easy in life" ??

Maybe they get a man easier, that is one segment of life.

Everybody has problems in their lives. All kinds. They might be sick and tired of being seen as a sexual object over time and want to be appreciated as a person as well.

There are a lot of beautiful girls having self esteem problems stemming from this.

Exploring sex from early on in life has its' on dangers. STD, pregnancy.

I honestly think that people who "have been around the block" have issues, having frequently changing different sex partners doesn't equate great life.

 

Having an exclusive loving relationship with one person that you are truly connecting with, sex is way better.

More is not necessarily better.

 

I suggested the documentaries that maybe widen your perspective, there are other things to life than sex. ALSO, these might be good conversation topics when you are talking to girls, trying to hook up.

 

What is the hold up Ben?? If you want to "get some", go and get some!

You talk like that your time has passed to have sex, it hasn't.