Forevermore13 Posted January 31, 2016 Share Posted January 31, 2016 Long story... But a good story. Maybe four months ago, I connected with an American guy through work. Work went well, well enough that we spoke to eachother a lot by messages and then by Skype calls.l and have grown to know eachother quite well. There's a definite connection with this man, more so than anything I've experienced before... His job means he travels a lot, so in a few weeks, I'll get to meet him and spend some time with him, then will have to leave him go til later on in the year. Has anyone got experience with this? How did it go? I find myself replaying how I see he first meet happening over and over again. It's a little daunting, but so exciting! Link to post Share on other sites
TMichaels Posted January 31, 2016 Share Posted January 31, 2016 Refrain from fantasizing about your meeting and the eventual possibilities and treat this like any other date -- a chance to get to know someone better and evaluate whether you want to continue to see them or "they're not your cup of tea." If you don't, your rose-colored glasses will be so thick you won't be able to see things clearly and will end up wasting a lot of time and effort and possibly jepardize your status at work. Also, even though you think you know this guy after four months of chatting, you really don't. Don't stay together -- get separate accommodation. Let others know where you are/what you are doing and have an exit plan if things go south or you feel uncomfortable or in danger. Things could go perfectly fine, but it's not unheard in such scenarios that things don't go well. Dating others at work (even if they don't work in the same location) can also be problematic especially if one person decides to "blackmail" the other if he/she doesn't agree to have sex, do drugs, or engage in some other uncomfortable or illegal behavior. I know you probably think I'm crazy, but believe me, I'm not. Bottom line, take precautions as you would meeting anyone for the first time -- but even more so in this case as there's the possibility your meeting could have broader ramifications than just in your personal life. HTH, TMichaels 2 Link to post Share on other sites
anduina Posted February 1, 2016 Share Posted February 1, 2016 My boyfriend's in Europe and our first meet was incredible! The chemistry was smokin', even better in real life than it was online. As long as everyone has been straight forward, don't worry about it, only relax and enjoy each other. Link to post Share on other sites
cheekyme_18 Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 Hi, I have a similiar story but i met this person before he left to go back to asia. I am english and live in a houseshare. This person lived with me for a year before telling me a month before he was going to leave that he liked me, we got physical and spent most evenings together before he left, as his working visa expired... This is the first time i've done distance and we have spoken none stop since he left on the phone and through text, social media. I would like to see if this progresses into something more, but i dont know when i will see him again, which makes it harder as we have become real close. He may return in a year depending on if he can get another visa but that wont be until a year's time. How do i see his true feelings? Or ask that question before considering a deeper connection or even being serious. I cant stop thinking about this person, as he made me really special and i miss his presence so much. Reply to your post: I would just focus on your time together as that is the most precious thing before he leaves again and make judgement on how he is with you in the moment. Link to post Share on other sites
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