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Allow me to explain.

I'm 6 feet tall, so I'm not worried about height. And I don't think anyone could call me fat.

But I'm very...meh physically I believe. I don't work out in the sense of lifting weights or doing push ups, I find that stuff to stressful (I suffer from quite a bit of anxiety)

I cut out junk food from my diet for the new year, I've still probably got a little bit of weight on from that but since I don't it anymore I'm confident I'll get that off in the next few months.

I do walk an hour a day. I walk around the house since it's winter, but I never run, only casually walk. I may take up running this spring, I'm not really sure.

So I've got some fairly scrawny arms. And a bit of stomach. And very little muscle (I don't work a job with physical labor or anything either)

So can I ask, how much does this matter to a woman? Specifically to a woman 18-mid 20's, but in general. Will women avoid a guy with no muscle, even if he's not fat and decently tall?

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Miss Peach

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I really don't care as long as there's chemistry. I've dated a former body builder, tall and thin, pudgy, etc.

 

I think as long as you're not obese and you take care of yourself most women would be OK. There are some who won't be but in general I don't think the majority of women judge guys physically the same way men judge women's bodies.

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More than they'll admit to.

 

There is "ok", where ....you're OK. It'll work. It'll be OK. You'll find someone.

 

And there is a state of being where you walk around and pick and choose what you want. And it's normal, happens all the time. No, it's not just your physique, but that is a part of it.

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Alamo657

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Physique is a bonus if you bring something else.

 

Women will look for the following things in that order when considering a guy as potential date :

 

- ability to entertain (where do you take her on date nights, how do you get her attention)

- your face must attract them

- chemistry

- personnal success (professional, or general balance of your character)

- sense of humor

- physique

 

Physique is the last thing a woman will look at in a man, but if you're too fat it can put them off despite everything else.

Muscles are cool. Great friends, a career and a good character are better in every aspect.

 

If your physique becomes the center of your partner's attraction, or the last straw by which the relationship holds, then it means you didn't bring much else to the relationship, or your girlfriend is shallow.

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I like some muscles. A fit body is a turn on for me. Although I am well beyond your age demographic, but a nice physique makes a difference, and I notice when its not there.

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Depends on the woman.

 

I am seven months (approx) pregnant and my husband looks like he's going to deliver ahead of me!

 

I still find him delectable.

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i care a lot. more about the overall healthy lifestyle than the physique though. as long as a guy is eating very healthy and exercising regularly as a regular part of his life, that works. he doesn't have to be uber-fit or muscular, but he has to be interested in fitness and health. i think it probably correlates a bit to the woman's lifestyle - a woman uninterested in health/fitness probably won't care as much as someone who leads a healthy lifestyle herself.

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I use this same answer as this question comes up all the time....

 

WHO CARES what they(women) like??

 

So what if some women said they like a guy who's packed and you hate working out...What are you gonna do, then? Be miserable working out to please them or find someone who doesn't care...??

 

Answer is obvious, no...?

 

I was born a true mesomorph...I have been lean/muscular, now I am pretty packed/muscular..I love weight training and whether or not women liked it was never a pre-requisite .I noticed no difference(maybe slightly more when I was lean) as far as interest...Also, many women find muscular guys a turnoff because they think they are all narcissists and they(women) don't want to feel like they are going to be judged if they don't have a rockin' body..Guys do the same...If they are with a woman with a great body, they may feel some sense of insecurity/inferiority...

 

Bottom line..Do what makes you happy/comfortable,,,,There are plenty of great women with guys that are out of shape/.skinny/whatever and they are very happy..

 

TFY

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I use this same answer as this question comes up all the time....

 

WHO CARES what they(women) like??

 

So what if some women said they like a guy who's packed and you hate working out...What are you gonna do, then? Be miserable working out to please them or find someone who doesn't care...??

 

Answer is obvious, no...?

 

I was born a true mesomorph...I have been lean/muscular, now I am pretty packed/muscular..I love weight training and whether or not women liked it was never a pre-requisite .I noticed no difference(maybe slightly more when I was lean) as far as interest...Also, many women find muscular guys a turnoff because they think they are all narcissists and they(women) don't want to feel like they are going to be judged if they don't have a rockin' body..Guys do the same...If they are with a woman with a great body, they may feel some sense of insecurity/inferiority...

 

Bottom line..Do what makes you happy/comfortable,,,,There are plenty of great women with guys that are out of shape/.skinny/whatever and they are very happy..

 

TFY

 

Agreed! I've been skinny (145lbs) super muscular (235 lbs, 8% BF), and everything in between. Neither state made much significant difference. Sure, some women like a really muscular look, but most do not. In terms of physical, facial features seem to matter the most. Good luck getting a consensus there. About all you can change is whether you are clean cut or rugged. You could also try a new hairstyle or glasses. But generally speaking, if your going to spend time try different "looks" to see which compliments your face the most and update your wardrobe. I get way more compliments on my shoes than I ever did for my buff chest. :p

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So can I ask, how much does this matter to a woman? Specifically to a woman 18-mid 20's, but in general. Will women avoid a guy with no muscle, even if he's not fat and decently tall?

 

When I was younger ala natural physique was just fine for me. I've refined my desires since mostly because I also have a physique to match. It's kind of hard to want a pudgy guy when I've got abs of steel myself....:laugh:

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When it comes to physical characteristics, I've heard women care the most about your height and "facial aesthetics" the most. Two things a guy change unfortunately....Having muscles doesn't help very much.

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In my experience they care in a general sense. They want something large they can hold into. Big and comforting, etc. But they aren't into it for the look, they're more interested for practical reasons. Whereas looking shredded up for it's own sake is a guy thing.

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It makes no difference to me. I've dated overweight guys, average guys, and my most recent ex was smaller than me and had a rockin' bod. I'm always more interested/attracted to personality, character and sexual prowess. A mediocre-looking man who is a kind person and great in bed/sensual is much more attractive than a man with a great physique who's shyte in bed and a jerk.

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Allow me to explain.

I'm 6 feet tall, so I'm not worried about height. And I don't think anyone could call me fat.

But I'm very...meh physically I believe. I don't work out in the sense of lifting weights or doing push ups, I find that stuff to stressful (I suffer from quite a bit of anxiety)

I cut out junk food from my diet for the new year, I've still probably got a little bit of weight on from that but since I don't it anymore I'm confident I'll get that off in the next few months.

I do walk an hour a day. I walk around the house since it's winter, but I never run, only casually walk. I may take up running this spring, I'm not really sure.

So I've got some fairly scrawny arms. And a bit of stomach. And very little muscle (I don't work a job with physical labor or anything either)

So can I ask, how much does this matter to a woman? Specifically to a woman 18-mid 20's, but in general. Will women avoid a guy with no muscle, even if he's not fat and decently tall?

 

Personally that physique would be a turn-off for me, yeah. I don't need hugely muscled guys and I can accept a little padding here and there (this is the real world after all), but IMO you should at least have some tone to your body. That means do those pushups, but it doesn't really have to mean anything more than that. Pushups aren't too much to ask if you're not getting the muscle tone some other way.

 

What you really want to avoid is the "I don't give a damn about anything, including myself" impression, which actually says more about your mindset - and kills the attraction there - than your body.

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Michelle ma Belle

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Listen, as I've said many times on here already, we all have a type or at the very least a preference when it comes to the physical bits of those we find attractive. Having said that, there are always exceptions to the rule particularly if you value more than JUST how someone looks on the outside.

 

I definitely have a physical type but I too have dated men that would never have registered on my radar had it not been for the fact that I got to know them and found them to be funny/charming/intellectually stimulating/engaging/communicative, etc. Those qualities can and have made a difference in terms of my attraction. And often times, those were some of the best experiences I had with men.

 

Personally, I need much more than just a pretty face and great body to capture and hold my attention. Nothing worse than dating a hot guy with zero personality and a head filled with nothing but crickets...B.O.R.I.N.G.

 

Sadly, being able to see beyond just the physical is, I think, more of a female trait than a male.

 

C'est la vie.

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What we can say, with confidence, is that having muscles will increase the pool of eligible women who are attracted to you.

 

 

Now tell us again, if having a large pool of eligible women to choose from is your goal, WHY exactly can't you just get a cheap set of hand weights, google "arm exercises" and do them during the hour you're walking anyway? *scratching my head*

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6'2 guy here.

 

I train 6 days a week since 2-3 years ago, since then I've received a lot more attention from women. But the women who I've dated starting from 2-3 years ago have said that they were attracted to me due to my confidence (which I didn't have when I was training,) the chemistry between us and my physique was a plus.

 

So it was mostly confidence/chemistry that they cared about.

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