LookAtThisPOst Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 I didn't know how to put the headline, but I've noticed quite a few men in the Meetup groups that after having met some women at these events, would try to angle at getting a woman to attend another event that he would be attending. I've seen women do this too, as this is not uncommon and seen it in general ,quite frequently. They would say something like, "Hey, there's a hiking Meetup this weekend, you thinking about going?" or something is said in that nature instead of directly asking her out and coming off too forward. This also establishes a familiarization through group activities, that way you kind of get to know the person before you make a decision on whether you should ask them out or not. I recall a woman that one guy thought he dodged a bullet because he thought she was cute and such. Well, there was this weekend trip that a camping group went on and she was part of this event. Turns out you get to know someone A LOT if you're spending long periods of time together. LOL She turned out to be one bossy **tch to most everyone in the group. lol That's just an example and he was like, "Wow, good thing I got to know her." Thoughts on this? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 Spending time with people in various settings seems like a good idea. The vulnerability associated with asking somebody on a date can be scary on both sides. The asker risks rejection & the invitee may feel pressure in a formal date setting. So this business about sort of announcing where someone will be & kind of asking the other person if they intend to show up is a non-invasive way of judging interest. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 In the business world, it would be called networking. It seems like a pretty good way to get everyone more involved, not just those in whom one may be interested. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 I agree with the above, it's a good way to get to know someone and get to know whether you would actually want to date them. Plus it means all is relaxed with no pressure or expectations on either side so they are literally just getting to know one another. Link to post Share on other sites
JuneJulySeptember Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 One of my friends met his wife in a meetup group. There's another couple in that meetup group that I've met who are dating and will probably get married too. Meetup groups are actually good if you are looking for girls who might be a bit more open to meeting guys. Cute girls and social butterfly girls use meetup groups too but more as a social supplement than to actually meet someone. Unfortunately they are best for 20s and 30s people. The 30/40 and 40+ meetup groups have a totally different, more homogeneous dynamic and there's some weird/redneck characters that attend. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted February 2, 2016 Author Share Posted February 2, 2016 One of my friends met his wife in a meetup group. There's another couple in that meetup group that I've met who are dating and will probably get married too. Meetup groups are actually good if you are looking for girls who might be a bit more open to meeting guys. Cute girls and social butterfly girls use meetup groups too but more as a social supplement than to actually meet someone. Unfortunately they are best for 20s and 30s people. The 30/40 and 40+ meetup groups have a totally different, more homogeneous dynamic and there's some weird/redneck characters that attend. Yeah, we actually have 20's and 30's "named" Meetup groups. The ones I'm in are kind of homogeneous anyhow as it doesn't carry an age label. I noticed a lot of baby boomer aged people in the outdoor events, but with some of us 30/40-somethings joining in. I was cutting up (jokes) a good bunch with this rather pretty, but down to Earth Ecuadorian woman and another that actually traveled from the boonies where I live to the Meetup in the big city as well. Thing is, a lot of people that come, are "one-shot" wonders, and don't stick. They are just tire kicking Meetups. I'm kind of hoping to find that "Cheers" feeling again since the Meetups of 2008. What happens is, people couple up and leave the groups, lol. Link to post Share on other sites
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