TunnelEyes Posted February 3, 2016 Share Posted February 3, 2016 Have you ever given a relationship another shot and its worked? Contemplating getting back with my ex after being split for 2 months as we both miss each other. Or at least trying to date and get to know each other again. But all I hear is negativity and I don't want to feel like the only outcome of this is more sadness and failure. Any happy endings out there? Or close? Link to post Share on other sites
DrMario Posted February 3, 2016 Share Posted February 3, 2016 In my experience I have had successful second chances with people and the relationship was always better because of it, of course I am no longer with these people anymore so I can't say it worked out completely to my benefit, but I enjoyed my extended stay for what it was worth and the relationships that ended never ended for the same reasons again, I spent 2 months + apart from the mother of my child at one point for a series of issues, when we got back together we lasted another year and a half and it was great but we hit a brick wall in our future and couldn't really go on from there, other than that there was my first relationship, we was broken up for almost 2 months and we managed to squeeze another year out of it after reconciling, we only ended because she wanted to go to university and our relationship would have become long distance after that, I would tell you to simply enjoy what time you can get out of seeing each other since you have both missed one another, if it doesn't work out, you can say that you tried if you nothing else. Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted February 3, 2016 Share Posted February 3, 2016 I've never gone back to a relationship, even if I wanted to. I'm of the mindset that if it broke it broke for a reason. That's not to say I'm not open to rebuilding a friendship (which is what I almost always do) but to start all over again after one heartbreak with the same person is just not worth it to me. As far as your case, I guess it would depend on WHY you broke up in the first place and how long you were together before breaking up. I've known many people who break up for a short or even long periods only to reconcile with success but they aren't the norm. My only recommendation is to tread carefully. The only way it has a chance of surviving the second time around is if you both learned something from the first break-up otherwise you're just wasting your time and heading straight for another heartbreak. Good luck. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cailinsona Posted February 3, 2016 Share Posted February 3, 2016 Works for some. My parents, my sister and I all had second chance relationships (27 years happily married, 12 years happily married and I'm getting married in six months time!). Ask yourself if you would regret not having another try and if you can live with the consequences if it doesn't work out? Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 3, 2016 Share Posted February 3, 2016 My college roommate made it work but her & her husband embody almost everything that rarely works. They originally got together in 7th grade. They broke up in college because he wanted to spread his wings. Two years after college he came crawling back & she made him work for it. She wouldn't date him initially & kept him at arm's length in the friend zone for about 6 months plus. She even made him move to her state for grad school before she would even consider getting back together. They have been married for 25 years & have two great kids. Link to post Share on other sites
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