cheekyme_18 Posted February 3, 2016 Share Posted February 3, 2016 Hi, I have recently met a new person in my life who has now left to go back to asia. I am english and live in a houseshare. This person lived with me for a year before telling me a month before he was going to leave that he liked me, we got physical and spent most evenings together before he left, as his working visa expired... This is the first time i've done distance and we have spoken none stop since he left on the phone and through text, social media. I would like to see if this progresses into something more, but i dont know when i will see him again, which makes it harder as we have become real close. He may return in a year depending on if he can get another visa but that wont be until a year's time. How do i see his true feelings? Or ask that question before considering a deeper connection or even being serious. I cant stop thinking about this person, as he made me really special and i miss his presence so much. Link to post Share on other sites
Gosh Posted February 4, 2016 Share Posted February 4, 2016 Welcome aboard! I am on the same boat. I can advise you , patience. It will be hard but you need to give it time. Before asking him questions, ask them to yourself. Do you know your feelings towards him? Also, be prepared for the answers. Stay strong and be true to yourself and the relationship; is it a defined relationship?Not that it has to be. We havent defined ours yet and it's been almost 6 months, but that's due to our current state of work/money, we are both unstable. So being your first LDR, buckle up, it's going to be a tough yet rewarding and exiting ride! Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 How do i see his true feelings? Hard to tell. He could be sincere or using you as his chance to get back into the country. You need to find out. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TeddyBeer Posted February 9, 2016 Share Posted February 9, 2016 Welcome aboard! I am on the same boat. I can advise you , patience. It will be hard but you need to give it time. Before asking him questions, ask them to yourself. Do you know your feelings towards him? Also, be prepared for the answers. Stay strong and be true to yourself and the relationship; is it a defined relationship?Not that it has to be. We havent defined ours yet and it's been almost 6 months, but that's due to our current state of work/money, we are both unstable. So being your first LDR, buckle up, it's going to be a tough yet rewarding and exiting ride! Yes, this is wisdom. Only you can know if this is right for you. Myself I have ****ed it up at first; I knew my LDR long before I actually met him, although I went to his country knowing him and not meeting him. I was just scared to meet him. I met him the second year I came there and let me tell you I was so disappointed in myself that I didn't have the courage to go for him from the first time I was there. Don't let doubt hold you back.. if you don't go for it you will always wonder 'what if'. For me it still turned out great, but I still wonder where we would be at if I would have just met him that first time. How about you go visit him in his country? A ticket isn't that expensive, a side job can earn enough.. Link to post Share on other sites
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