Do I make a move?

[Josh_7798]

Hey guys, and firstly thanks for reading this.

 

So I'm in a bit of a dilemma right now, I'm in my final year at college (I'm in the UK) meaning that I'll be heading to University soon, which in my case will be 200 or so miles away from where I live.

 

There's a girl who I like a fair bit and I've gotten know over the course of these past 4/5 months and I'm unsure whether I should make a move on her. She's definitely single, as she sometimes talks to me about relationships, seen as I came out of a pretty bad one a few months ago but I've recovered well from it to the point where I could actually think about dating.

 

I'm not entirely sure if she likes me, but I went to a party with her and we were literally glued together for most of the night, and there were a few hints that maybe she does like me. I'm just not sure if I should try anything with her, because as well as her maybe not liking me, I'll be moving away for a few years come September, meaning any relationship I get into now maybe not last past September.

 

I know most of you will say that it's up to me to decide, but I could just use a bit of advice because I just really don't know what to do.

[bigbaby]

September is quite a ways off and any new relationship isn't all that likely to last that long anyway. I see how it could create a complication later on but if it was me, I would probably just go for it. Even if it doesn't last or ends over the distance, you might have a lot of fun and some great memories. It would be different if you'd be moving next month rather than in seven months.

 

 

So my vote is ask her out.

[tasev1]

I could be wrong, but here is how I would take it:

 

I would say go for it, but don't just blurt it out to her verbally (unless she is the type of person to take that well, or you know where her exact mindset is with you). Make it known by taking her out, by slowly introducing physical contact, by changing the way you speak to her. Make it known to her through your actions and reactions what you like. If she is responding well, then great.

[mrgrum]

Hi Josh,

 

I think you should go for it, I had the same experience in college - I didn't pursue it and always wish I had, we ended up just being good friends and we still are good friends 10 years later. (I still have feelings for her)

 

If she doesn't like you, yeah, it could be awkward if you take the same classes but that will pass. If she does and something develops who knows where you will be in September- do you know what uni she is going to? Personally, with hindsight - I wish I had gone for it myself!

 

Good luck