May.koenig Posted February 4, 2016 Share Posted February 4, 2016 I honestly had no idea where to post this. Anyway, I cheated on my ex with this guy and things ended badly with the guy I cheated with but... not so much with my ex? Idk, but now the other guy is trying to talk to me. It's been like a month and he sent me a message on FB (before anyone asks, yes I deleted him but... I guess I forgot to block him >.<). Should I just a.)continue to ignore it, b.)Listen to it then go back to ignoring it or c.)Listen to it and respond. I feel like I should probably just continue to ignore it and forget about it, but I'm a very curious person and it might eat at me if I don't listen to it. ... should I just ignore it? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 4, 2016 Share Posted February 4, 2016 What do you want to do? There are no right or wrongs here. You already committed the wrong (cheated) and are dealing with the consequences (your BU). If you want to see / talk to the OM, do so. If you don't continue to ignore him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author May.koenig Posted February 5, 2016 Author Share Posted February 5, 2016 I don't know what I want to do. I want to read it, but I don't and I want to ignore him. But my real, main question was why is he trying to talk to me? What reason could there really be? It's not like it ended on the best terms. Link to post Share on other sites
strawberryshortstack Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 I don't know what I want to do. I want to read it, but I don't and I want to ignore him. But my real, main question was why is he trying to talk to me? What reason could there really be? It's not like it ended on the best terms. The only reason to find out is to READ the message. None of us knows exactly what's going through his head. Link to post Share on other sites
Author May.koenig Posted February 5, 2016 Author Share Posted February 5, 2016 So... I caved and watched what turned out to be a video message. In it, he was basically acting friendly as if nothing had ever happened. I'm just very confused now. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 But my real, main question was why is he trying to talk to me? Because he hit it once, and wants to hit it again. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author May.koenig Posted February 5, 2016 Author Share Posted February 5, 2016 Because he hit it once, and wants to hit it again. Well... not exactly, but you're probably right. Maybe this time he'll try to actually have sex with me (I mean, it won't make it to that point, not even close, but he might try). Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 So you don' sound like you want to get with him, either for sex or for a relationship. Why are you even considering talking to him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author May.koenig Posted February 5, 2016 Author Share Posted February 5, 2016 It threw me off guard that he'd want to talk to me. I was ready to "defend" myself if he was just going to be mean again. I honestly didn't think of him maybe wanting to act friendly to try it again, though you'd think I might have since I though so much about how I'd answer. Link to post Share on other sites
Just a Guy Posted February 6, 2016 Share Posted February 6, 2016 (edited) How did you connect with him the first time? Why did you have a falling out immediately after the deed? If he wants to be friendly why do you want to block him or avoid him? I think from the way you are writing that you are still quite immature and the excitement of the unknown is giving you chills down your spine. Ostensibly, you do not want contact with him but deep down somewhere you are wondering'What if'. First get yourself thinking clearly then think about what you want to do. Edited February 6, 2016 by Just a Guy Link to post Share on other sites
Author May.koenig Posted February 9, 2016 Author Share Posted February 9, 2016 We had a "falling out" because I told him I felt bad about what I did to my ex and he started yelling at me saying... something, I don't really remember, and I was already feeling depressed so what would be the point of ever talking to him again? Also, he's randomly being friendly, if he wanted to be friendly, he wouldn't have not talked to me for... exactly a month just to say like "Heeyyy, what's up? How ya been? I've been great!" stuff like that. There is no excitement, there are no chills, there are no thoughts of "what if". Link to post Share on other sites
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