on I feel so down

[coolie80]

So I'm not new to dating and by far means an ugly guy or I never treat a woman badly or whatever but I'm kinda thinking the saying is true nice guys finish last.

 

So I met this girl on tinder she is American and I'm English she lives here in the UK. So we hit it off perfectly she was more keen than me texting me everyday and saying how attractive I was and all that and we have similar interests . So we met after 2 weeks and went to a bar, everything went perfect the conversation everything so she carries on texting me even more. 2 weeks passed we arranged a night out again.

 

I booked a hotel so I could have a proper drink this time as last time I drove. We went for a bottle of wine then went for a meal again perfect I thought I was going to cut the night early on a high but when I got back after being to the toilet she ordered a bottle of wine so I stayed.. we kissed and the passion was there by now I had lots to drink and was quite drunk I said come back to the hotel... nothing like i just wanted her for sex.. she said she would but she had her roomies house key and she was also out on a date so I said get her to meet us she text her and said ok... so we went to the casino until her friend came and we had a proper laugh.

 

As soon as her friend came I just knew her friend didn't like me I just got the vibe from her.. I tried to chat to her blah blah but she just didn't seem interested which pissed me off anyway... after about 30 mins we said our goodbye I got in a cab and went.

 

I text her the next day saying I was disappointed with myself for drinking so much because her friend seemed lovely I said and I didn't want her to get the wrong impression of me.. although I still didn't think nothing went wrong. Anyway she text me saying she had fun and I'm an amazing guy but she thinks it's better to stay friends

 

Now I'm lost I don't understand with me and her everything was going perfect I mean the kiss was electric. Iv text her since saying I don't understand and I'm not going to try to understand I said I could not stay friends because I find her to attractive and she is amazing although iv only et her twice we spoke for ages and we like the same music films drink etc... iv just said keep my number if you have a rethink but I am gutted I go out with lots of dates but this one I really really liked normally I'm not fussed if it goes wrong.

 

I think her friend may have had an influence on her and she's staying there this weekend maybe I should wait until she goes back to London tonight and is on her own maybe she may miss the chats we had ?

I know it's only been 2 dates over all 5 weeks of chatting but I thought it was gonna go somewhere ��

 

I know she had an ex who hurt her a lot but they split about 18 months ago and he moved back to America he was English and she paid for his visa and he left her. I feel like I'm not going to be given a fair chance with her.. when everything seemed to be there

Edited February 7, 2016 by coolie80

[AMJ]

I lived in Dublin for awhile when I was younger- people traveling abroad, or studying abroad, aren't really looking to get serious about dating anyone. She's having a good time and probably plans to return to the US at some point, right?

 

Also, it's really easy for guys who are nervous to get sloppy drunk on dates. Don't do that! Don't get drunk on dates.

[coolie80]

Yes I agree... I didn't get sloppy or tell her how much I liked her or anything like that.. I kinda just went with the flow of things as she did, and one thing just lead to another you know so it wasn't like i pushed for it. Tbh I feel absolute crap because i didnt want to get hurt or put myself in a position to get hurt and this was all going well I didn't push her and didn't pull her to much in to me it just went naturally. I mean even her just texting me in the morning and throughout the day I know I'm gonna miss that.. I'm not completely down and out but I just feel like I don't know what's really gone wrong I'm left baffled as she seemed so into me