fireflywy Posted February 12, 2016 Share Posted February 12, 2016 (edited) Wow. So she's pregnant with the child of the man she left you for eh? And you are going to be comfortable having this guy pick up THEIR kid on the Holidays and having constant contact for the remainder of your life? You REALLY need to consider that. Time to cowboy up and say "Happy Trails" to her. Good luck. Edited February 12, 2016 by fireflywy Link to post Share on other sites
ajaysutton Posted February 15, 2016 Share Posted February 15, 2016 It would be an incredible story of love and redemption if you were able to get back together. That's a really tough place to be in, but I think it's very cool that you can love her still. Obviously, there's been more than a little breach of trust here. If you're serious about putting your relationship back together, I think that's very admirable, but I would encourage you to do it very, very slowly. If she wants to leave the guy she's currently with, I would say that's good. Let her get a place of her own and support herself and her children, then the two of you can work on putting a healthy relationship back together. My fear is that she's just going from situation to situation and is not able to support herself, and only wants to come back because of how difficult things are in the new setting. If it's the relationship she wants back, she'll understand the hurt she must have put you through and the difficult circumstance she's created with the infidelity and all of that, and will be willing to move slowly and do things in order. It's encouraging to me that there's still enough love in your heart for her that this is even a consideration for you. You're a pretty big man if you can do that, and I applaud you for being able to consider that. That's very cool. But I'd certainly move very, very slowly... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Whatoncewas Posted February 17, 2016 Author Share Posted February 17, 2016 Thanks Nyah. This hasn't been easy. I hav barely been able to sleep. I've started taking good care of myself though. Gong to the gym, eating well....sucks about the sleep thing though. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lostmyway82 Posted February 20, 2016 Share Posted February 20, 2016 I find it extremely disgusting and disturbing that she gets knock up by some random guy and come crawling back to you.:sick: And the thought of you even considering it is very nauseating. :sick: Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted February 20, 2016 Share Posted February 20, 2016 (edited) Yes, It is strange. I do not think of myself as a desperate person. I just really love my wife. I did not see this happening. Isn't it possible she learned her lesson and really s sorry and everything could be ok? Or am I desperate or codependent? No, your wife is not in love with you but is using you as her crutch when things go wrong. Please find your self respect and not let her treat you like a fool. Don't you want better for yourself? You will not find happiness with her. Edited February 21, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Edited for commentary. ~ V Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted February 20, 2016 Share Posted February 20, 2016 Thanks Nyah. This hasn't been easy. I hav barely been able to sleep. I've started taking good care of myself though. Gong to the gym, eating well....sucks about the sleep thing though. The initial month or so is bad because it takes that long to get through the initial hurdle of disconnection. You will doubt yourself but you must stay strong. After about a month, it will start getting better. Link to post Share on other sites
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