kate311005 Posted June 9, 2005 Share Posted June 9, 2005 ok so, i am a very nosy person (i know looking at other peoples emails is wrong, but thats not the matter at hand here), and the other day my mum told me that she'd been emailing a man who she met years ago (when she was 26) and had a "passionate affair" with (altho this was before she was married to my dad). He lives in australia, and we are in england. i thought nothing of it, just thinking they'd be catching up and stuff, but lately, whenever i go into the room when shes on the computer, she always closes the window and tells me to go away, and she also told me that she'd changed the password on her email. this afternoon she accidentally left the computer window open on her emails, and i saw an email from this guy, called "private email". you'd think that i wouldnt have looked in it.. but i did.. which is the terrible thing, because im way to nosy for my own good. but me and my mum are always really open with each other, she used to let me on her email all the time to sort out ebay things etc etc. so anyway, i looked in the email, and realised there was a whole folder full of emails from this guy.. and they seemed like they were pretty much more than just "catching up". there was stuff about them meeting up, and having fantasies about each other. apparently hes coming over to england and wants to meet up with my mum for dinner, and from her replies (they were at the bottom of his emails) she seems up for meeting up with him, and she seems to be flirting with him a lot. i closed the window before long because i felt really guilty.. but still, it seems like more than just "catching up".. do you think she might be having, or about to start an emotional affair? it would really really hurt my dad so much.. and i dont know what to do.. i dont know if i should confront her, because then she'd know that i'd read her emails, especially just after she told me not to. what should i do? Link to post Share on other sites
Marshbear Posted June 10, 2005 Share Posted June 10, 2005 I would say she is very much into an emotional affair with this guy. If they are making plans to meet then it possibly could be headed to a physical affair. She feels guilty and that is why she changed her password and closes the window when you are near. What to do? It is a touchy problem. You are the daughter and I would not tell your dad when you don't have real proof ( although the emails are pretty incriminating ). If you have an aunt or some other relative I would talk to them on what you think you should do. If they want to talk to your mom then the responsibility is not on you. I would try to keep yourself out of it and let other adults handle this situation. Good Luck... Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts