elaine567 Posted February 9, 2016 Share Posted February 9, 2016 I haven't really had a talk to him yet about how he feels about this because we haven't been talking this week, I'm sure he's going ghost but because his hot and cold cycles with me I don't know what to think. I sent him a triple text (sorry lmao) to which i have no replies from. So i'm just going to let the dust settle, let his emotions settle and see if this is just another one of his cold cycles he goes through. Either way (i know this sounds like im plugging my ears and screaming "lalalala", so sorry) I plan on sending him a text that kinda says "Hey, its totally fine if you don't feel comfortable in this arrangement anymore, I understand. I just hope you remember the first thing we agreed on was to always communicate when feelings change. If you're looking for an easy way out, this is it. Just tell if you don't think this is right for you anymore, there's nothing wrong with that. Just don't be the ******* who leaves a girl wondering how you feel, and taking the cowards way out of ghosting" I guess my question is how can I ask him how he feels without sounding like im more of a level 9 clinger. (that triple text sent me over the edge haha) Note how often you bring feelings and how he feels into the narrative He is your FWB, he demoted you, or you demoted yourself to that role a while back, he is NOT a bf. HE probably "feels" nothing, it is you who is doing all the "feeling" here. Being in a FWB relationship with "feelings" is NOT how it should be, as one partner gets far too emotionally involved and the other is in it purely for the sex and can take it or leave it. The one with the "feelings" then invariably gets hurt. Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted February 9, 2016 Share Posted February 9, 2016 Start (or keep) dating other people. It'll take your mind off this guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Cappycorny Posted February 9, 2016 Share Posted February 9, 2016 At the end of the day, I want him to just tell me if he wants to continue or not, not go ghost on me. Chances are, I'm never going to see this dude again in my life so if I seem desperate it's a learning experience and one ****boy down. When we are alone, hes a sweet charming guy but when he goes through his "cold" cycles hes a total asshat. If he told me "I dont want to continue this" i'd thank him for being honest, be sad for maybe a week and move on. You want closure and I get that. You might have to except the fact it I'll never happen. Re focus on something else. Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted February 9, 2016 Share Posted February 9, 2016 I don't understand why people do this FWB to themselves when they are clearly out for more. As for your last paragraph, is it really this hard for you to keep your knickers on? Have some self respect. Oh this and this. He has no feelings for you and has moved on to fresher knickers... it really is that simple. Whats the point in talking to him about feelings when he has none for you any way and its clear what has happened? Link to post Share on other sites
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