twilijt Posted June 9, 2005 Share Posted June 9, 2005 Here's my situation: I had a LDR with a girl last year that was good until we finally met. She seemed like a really good girl and was someone I thought was really sweet. We got pretty far (third base) on our first night together and she seemed to freak out afterwards. The next two days she was stone cold and I had to break up because she said we needed to date other people. Two days later I went home but we never spoke during that time. I think she was waiting for me to call but I was so pissed off that I couldn't stand to even think about her. Two weeks later I get this letter from her that was really confusing. Basicallyl she said that she needed to be with someone from her own religion. She also said how genuine I was, but she said I would thank her for not wanting to go further with the relationship. She said she really missed talking to me and was hoping I wouldn't be mad ata her. She was also divorced and probably had issues with this still, that's what I think. She also claimed to be sincere and didn't mean to hurt me, but that she felt honored that someone I knew wanted to set her up with me. Her family totally loved me too. I was realy upset after reading this, so I wrote her back but didn't call. Why would I thank her if I'm the one who broke up? What is she thinking here? Why couldn't she just call me instead of writing a stupid letter? It's been a year and I still think about her from time to time. I really thought she was different. Should I call her? Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 10, 2005 Share Posted June 10, 2005 Religious differences can be pretty hard to get past - although this may or may not be the real reason. Sounds like she liked you and so went further than she intended... and re-evaluated this in the cold light of day. Contact her if you want a friend. Or if you're willing to convert to her religion Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 10, 2005 Share Posted June 10, 2005 Originally posted by twilijt Should I call her? why would you call her TWILIJT? you never even had a relationship with her! Link to post Share on other sites
willduggan Posted June 10, 2005 Share Posted June 10, 2005 i dont think you should call her, a year with no contact? maybe email her just saying hey, its gonna be very hard to get any kind of relationship out of something thats been done for so long.... goodluck with whatever you choose. im sure you WANT to call her, and its your call but... remember people here have been through it all..just keep your brain in the game ok? Link to post Share on other sites
twilijt Posted June 10, 2005 Share Posted June 10, 2005 Thanks for all of your comments. I just wanted to make sure I was thinking okay. I've been with other girls since that time, but I still think about it on certain occasions. When I broke up with her it was something I wasn't even plannning to do, but I couldn't ignore the way she treated me (I guess I just had enough). I know people who know her and my name still gets mentioned from time to time. I'm just wondering why she's like this even after that stupid letter. She even said she doesn't regret the experience because she got to meet someone like me. That kind of stuff really pisses me off. Oh well. No more LDR for me. Thanks for your advice. This board is awesome. Link to post Share on other sites
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