"Why I'll never get married again" - Article

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This was actually an online article published by a friends sister, there are some points and a lot of it very thought provoking. The sister apparently took to the Christian way of living, and obviously had chosen a different path of living, as she's married, but supports and respects her sister's viewpoints by posting it up on her social media page.

 

Why I'll Never Get Married Again - Motto

 

Although, I grew up with a family backing the "Til Death Do You Part" marriage mindset, some of what is in this article may take someone who held marriage as something I REALLY wanted in the past, and perhaps still...now...to somehow rationalize co-habitating or just dating, but living in separate domiciles. I mean, I didn't want to cave on tradition, but it seems that since we're a product of our own environment, even us old-fashioned types might decide to go that direction.

 

This woman is probably like 40-ish, has an adult grown child and has been married for 11 years and now divorced. The idea of marriage again...is quite pointless in her ice since we are living longer, and marriage is more of a "one-shot" deal for some people. (She was married at the age of 30).

 

The #1. She doesn't want children, she had a full grown adult daughter, so there's no need to continue reproducing. Makes sense.

 

#2 - The idea of marriage is outdated, esp. when there's 2 independent earners.

 

There was something that stuck out, that she's a "realist", and she loves the idea of the romantic aspect of marriage, by demonstrating one's "ultimate love" to each other by tying the knot, but....people change, evolve, etc.sometimes to the point you don't recognize them anymore.

 

As that if the end of marriage OR even relationships are quite inevitable.

 

The two of us offered something important and unique that we both needed and found in one another, but we change, we evolve and we learn more about who we are. It’s almost silly to think that we can be everything to each other forever.

 

Then there's this one -- Turns out, I’m pretty darn happy with both, but when a relationship starts to deteriorate, I get very unhappy. When I’m single, I might occasionally yearn for companionship, but my happiness levels are off the charts.

 

So it's like her happiness is based on, let's say if she is in the companionship with someone, on how long the relationships lasts? That there IS an inevitability of a relationship deterioration?

 

I am now thinking, "Well, I got myself a girlfriend, we like each other, but I would imagine that relationships have at least a 3 to 5 year expiration date, so I better enjoy this while it lasts!"

 

Then the break up happens , like after 5 years and say, "Well, we had a good run, as nothing lasts forever!"

 

Thoughts? Though, if I were her sister, I would not support her by putting it on my page, being I choose a different path that counters my siblings.

Edited February 11, 2016 by LookAtThisPOst