leafguy Posted February 13, 2016 Share Posted February 13, 2016 So long story short, split with my gf of a few months about two weeks ago. Split on positive terms I guess (I didn't agree with it, but accepted it) as she is stupidly busy and I was the thing she decided to cut. Basically got the whole needing space and I can;t give you the time you deserve right before we were scheduled to go away. Think she got scared how fast it was going Her family contacted me to give her space and reach out in a few weeks. For some reason I did and we had a great convo this week that felt natural and light hearted. Not sure where to take it now...likely want to get her out for a coffee and just talk. Say my piece if anything else so to speak. Now the weird part. My best friend and his gf split (close with both and this is the third time they have done it). So turns out my best friend of 20 years has been living a secret life. Basically he finally came out and told me he cheated on her with a transgendered woman and that he was having those thoughts as well. That he felt trapped inside his current body so to speak. Simply put, I have no idea with how to deal with the latter and it is screwing my thought process on myself and my own break up. I had to tell his ex basically I didn't have the time or the will to help her (she is one of my best friends) as his friendship and mental state is the priority and my own life is as well. I feel horrible about it, but I think she understood that I would try to help her if I could. Any advice from anyone on where to start? My best friend is also seeking therapy, but Im not sure what to do on that front. Link to post Share on other sites
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