elaine567 Posted February 18, 2016 Share Posted February 18, 2016 "Being yourself is great until it doesn't yield you the things you'd rather have in life." Agreed. A guy can sit in a dark basement eating ice cream, playing video games and watching porn all day, being "the guy he wants to be", which is great, good for him, but then he cannot also expect, some hot woman to fly down the stairs one day, turn on the light and make mad passionate love to him, nor can he expect some high flying executive to offer him the job of his dreams. The world doesn't tend to work that way. Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted February 18, 2016 Share Posted February 18, 2016 integrity and bendable character traits deserve accolades. Nothing wrong with aspiring....) Thanks OP for validating we are each projects in the works . Link to post Share on other sites
LookAtThisPOst Posted February 18, 2016 Share Posted February 18, 2016 Agreed. A guy can sit in a dark basement eating ice cream, playing video games and watching porn all day, being "the guy he wants to be", which is great, good for him, but then he cannot also expect, some hot woman to fly down the stairs one day, turn on the light and make mad passionate love to him, nor can he expect some high flying executive to offer him the job of his dreams. The world doesn't tend to work that way. Well, you're giving an extreme example of this guy being reclusive, but I'm sure the OP is representing the example of an already sociable, "single and looking" population of those who actually get out there and socialize and getting to know as well as asking out women. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
olivebranch Posted February 19, 2016 Share Posted February 19, 2016 For me its rapidly becoming the bold part. that , to me , is attractive. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted February 19, 2016 Share Posted February 19, 2016 I should also point out that the term "be the person you want to be" might be a little deceptive. While it sounds the same presented that way, "be the person you want to be can be interpreted: "work to be the person you aspire to be" or "don't compromise anything about yourself and just be the person you're comfortable being." And there's a big difference. Both scenarios are dependent on desire or want, but one is the desire to change, the other is the desire not to. Food for thought. Link to post Share on other sites
Melrapuo Posted February 19, 2016 Share Posted February 19, 2016 Your question suggests that I would hit on (or be seduced by) women that I didn't want to be with?? :confused: You must be a Democrat I'm saying there's a difference between women you just want to screw and women you actually want to be in a relationship with. And that's regardless of political standing. Link to post Share on other sites
Revolver Posted February 19, 2016 Share Posted February 19, 2016 Fake It till you make it Link to post Share on other sites
Author JuneJulySeptember Posted February 20, 2016 Author Share Posted February 20, 2016 After all, Pol pot and Mussolini were also being the person they wanted to be... And ... Those guys had no trouble getting women and were married multiple times. Musso in particular was a pimp who had many wives and trysts with his 'followers'. He had hundreds of women. What's your response to that? Lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Author JuneJulySeptember Posted February 20, 2016 Author Share Posted February 20, 2016 Being yourself is great until it doesn't yield you the things you'd rather have in life. Women like money? Work to be successful then, if you want a woman more than you like working at Foot Locker. Women like guys who are in shape? Work to get in shape then, if you want a woman more than you like sitting around watching Netflix. Progress is usually made when we push ourselves out of complacency, not settle in it. To a whatever the degree, most people have to adjust themselves to the world, not expect the world to adjust to them. To be honest with you, I think a lot of what we do in life is to 'get women' and to 'get money'. And to be honest with you, half of the time, most of us aren't quite sure why we're doing it. We just know we want the pretty girl and the high paying job with the big bucks. Life's a competition, or it can be. So, you can wake up at age 45 and say "I have a hot wife and a job that pays $150,000 a year. And my lifetime mate would have had nothing to do with me if I worked at Foot Locker. Yea, I've made it!" Have you though? Is that the meaning of life? Honestly though, this post wasn't meant to 'spark an argument'. It's just food for thought. Link to post Share on other sites
normal person Posted February 21, 2016 Share Posted February 21, 2016 (edited) To be honest with you, I think a lot of what we do in life is to 'get women' and to 'get money'. And to be honest with you, half of the time, most of us aren't quite sure why we're doing it. There's no need to preface that with "to be honest," no one's more well aware of this stuff than me. At it's most basic level, the whole goal if life on Earth is to reproduce and make sure your offspring live to reproductive age themselves. That's basically the biological translation of "get women and get money." We just know we want the pretty girl and the high paying job with the big bucks. Life's a competition, or it can be. Totally agree. So, you can wake up at age 45 and say "I have a hot wife and a job that pays $150,000 a year. And my lifetime mate would have had nothing to do with me if I worked at Foot Locker. Yea, I've made it!" Have you though? Is that the meaning of life? For some people it might be. For some people it might just be better than the alternative. I assume if people are going to unfulfilled, they'd rather be rich and unfulfilled than broke and unfulfilled. Where does real happiness come from? Having a fulfilling life? Most jobs, be they high paid or not, aren't particularly fulfilling. Fulfillment, I'd guess, comes from doing something you love and making a difference in the world with it. I don't think the majority of people ever achieve this. And the bigger issue is that many traditionally fulfilling jobs (outside of medicine and the sort) aren't at all conducive to acquiring money an resources, and therefore, women. But having a high paying job can often just be a way to security and resources, which will attract women and give your offspring a better chance to thrive. Now, let's be careful not to equate having a partner and kids to happiness, because I think they're totally different. We have a biological urge to procreate, that has nothing to do with happiness. Plenty of people are rich and miserable. Plenty have kids and are miserable. While I don't think it's a guarantee that partnering and having kids will make your life better, failing at all attempts to try will most likely make your life worse. So I think the issue is that "doing what you have to do to get what you want" may very well get you what you want, I think an equally important question is "will what you think you want actually make you happier in the end?" The happiest people will do fulfilling, productive work and have loving partnerships and families. I just think the circumstances of our society make it rare to get both. Just my thoughts, of course. Edited February 21, 2016 by normal person Link to post Share on other sites
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