What's wrong with my chances of finding the right girl?

[wingman013]

Hello,

I am a young adult who is seeking to find a girlfriend at the moment. I been having a lot of problems these past few years. I always been told from my friends and my family that they are surprised I haven't found a girlfriend for myself because I'm good-looking (not to sound cocky). I had two past relationships that weren't successful. The first one was almost 3 years but the long-distance ruined everything. And, the second one was short and I found out that she wasn't the right girl. They both were beautiful girls. But, after experiencing everything, I became more independent. I've started to focus on myself more by hitting the gym 4-5x a week, studying to get decent marks and finish University, and stopped going out clubbing and drinking excessively. In one way, when I used to go out, I was more social and outgoing where now when I stopped it all to focus on my career path and ensure to have a healthy life. The issue is here, whenever I tend to meet a girl, and start to make a approach, I'm never even successful at making a conversation or establishing a date. I thought it may be the wrong girls I pick, but I realized that this keeps happening in a pattern. For instance, I met a girl yesterday, and she was decent looking, and she was interesting in our talk, and seemed like to have a good time, and when I added her on Facebook and tried to talk she would just answer so I would stop. It's not just the first time, it tends to happen more frequently and it hurts my ego. So, I don't know what to do anymore, I used to have better luck in the past but now, I have no idea what I'm doing wrong and I have no idea why this is happening to me. Any suggestions?

[d0nnivain]

You need to improve your conversational skills. If you still have any humanities requirements to fulfill take a speech com class. Consider joining a group called Toast Masters which helps overcoming shyness.