Lostcase Posted February 16, 2016 Share Posted February 16, 2016 So ex has made contact after a year of no contact, he text to asked me a question, a question he could of answered himself by using Google. I was short & polite in my reply, he never asked once "how are you" in fact he chatted like nothing had went on between us even trying a wee jokey chat in the texts. That was over the course of the day and into the Nxt day then he stopped all texts contact gone again. I'm feeling confused as to his contact. Anybody else have this? X Link to post Share on other sites
Cloudcuckoo Posted February 16, 2016 Share Posted February 16, 2016 So ex has made contact after a year of no contact, he text to asked me a question, a question he could of answered himself by using Google. I was short & polite in my reply, he never asked once "how are you" in fact he chatted like nothing had went on between us even trying a wee jokey chat in the texts. That was over the course of the day and into the Nxt day then he stopped all texts contact gone again. I'm feeling confused as to his contact. Anybody else have this? X Testing the water to see if you're up for it..... I wouldn't even have bothered to go to the effort of a reply after a year frankly, but perhaps you needed .... I don't know actually.... why did you bother replying? Link to post Share on other sites
spanz1 Posted February 16, 2016 Share Posted February 16, 2016 it means he is thinking about you still. maybe had to do with valentine's day. send him a selfie. Link to post Share on other sites
Mrs. John Adams Posted February 16, 2016 Share Posted February 16, 2016 you should not have answered...and you should block him. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
privategal Posted February 16, 2016 Share Posted February 16, 2016 It has been said to you SO many times now to block him. Im not judging you as I know its hard when it ends and you long for contact but really do you now understand why its important? Because now you are full on thinking of him...wondering about this or that little joke and why he has dropped off again. You are now looking for the contact and wondering whats on his mind. So you see...you haven't healed and cannot now as you are starting over from square one now. You really arent even surprised are you? 5 or more "accidental" emails from him. That wasnt full no contact as it is and I believe you knew by holding out that he would eventually speak directly to you. Instead of showing you were strong and had moved forward you eagerly replied and kept it going. He wins. He's got your power now. He thought..ok..she didnt take the bait with the lines I threw out (breadcrumb lame attempts) so he threw out a lame generic email and BAM...So easy for him. But this @sshole didnt even have the compassion nor courtesy to address any pain you might have been in or the respect to ask "how are you"? This is all about H-I-M!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 16, 2016 Share Posted February 16, 2016 So ex has made contact after a year of no contact, he text to asked me a question, a question he could of answered himself by using Google. I was short & polite in my reply, he never asked once "how are you" in fact he chatted like nothing had went on between us even trying a wee jokey chat in the texts. That was over the course of the day and into the Nxt day then he stopped all texts contact gone again. I'm feeling confused as to his contact. Anybody else have this? X I wish you had ignored the text. Time to delete and block him, there's no point in having contact anymore. Chances are he was fishing to see a reaction, and he got you to reply to his text, now he's got a big ego feed, knows you'll always reply when he texts you. No more!! Ignore him! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lostcase Posted February 16, 2016 Author Share Posted February 16, 2016 It has been said to you SO many times now to block him. Im not judging you as I know its hard when it ends and you long for contact but really do you now understand why its important? Because now you are full on thinking of him...wondering about this or that little joke and why he has dropped off again. You are now looking for the contact and wondering whats on his mind. So you see...you haven't healed and cannot now as you are starting over from square one now. You really arent even surprised are you? 5 or more "accidental" emails from him. That wasnt full no contact as it is and I believe you knew by holding out that he would eventually speak directly to you. Instead of showing you were strong and had moved forward you eagerly replied and kept it going. He wins. He's got your power now. He thought..ok..she didnt take the bait with the lines I threw out (breadcrumb lame attempts) so he threw out a lame generic email and BAM...So easy for him. But this @sshole didnt even have the compassion nor courtesy to address any pain you might have been in or the respect to ask "how are you"? This is all about H-I-M!! You are so right it is hard but I guess I got curious. I'm more confused as to why he even bothered. I have now blocked him on everything!! Thank you all for your words X Link to post Share on other sites
privategal Posted February 16, 2016 Share Posted February 16, 2016 You are so right it is hard but I guess I got curious. I'm more confused as to why he even bothered. I have now blocked him on everything!! Thank you all for your words X Did you really block him now? So you waited until you got your own ego stroke with direct contact before blocking him? Makes no sense. How awesome it would have been if his tacky breadcrumb generic email had gone unanswered and he could then feel the blow to his huge ego...like ..wow...she really has moved on. She wasnt pining for me. What you did by blocking him after writing and chatting is basically like putting a kid in time out with toys and a lollipop. Frustrated you were doing so great then completely gave in for nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
ls7878 Posted February 18, 2016 Share Posted February 18, 2016 So ex has made contact after a year of no contact, he text to asked me a question, a question he could of answered himself by using Google. I was short & polite in my reply, he never asked once "how are you" in fact he chatted like nothing had went on between us even trying a wee jokey chat in the texts. That was over the course of the day and into the Nxt day then he stopped all texts contact gone again. I'm feeling confused as to his contact. Anybody else have this? X Sorry guys...I really do not get this mm...we cannot say he want sex because he was sending wrong emails(If I remember it right), right now asking questions..he was hanging there for so long time...so what exactly he want then....I really do not get this man...what he wants... Link to post Share on other sites
Summer3 Posted February 18, 2016 Share Posted February 18, 2016 Sorry guys...I really do not get this mm...we cannot say he want sex because he was sending wrong emails(If I remember it right), right now asking questions..he was hanging there for so long time...so what exactly he want then....I really do not get this man...what he wants... He might be bored and looking for an ego boost. He doesn't care about the OP's feelings. People are selfish. Link to post Share on other sites
privategal Posted February 18, 2016 Share Posted February 18, 2016 He got antsy because she was not reaching out and he got curious if she had completely moved on so he sent her a breadcrumg generic email with zero heart, emotion, thought or feelings just to gauge her interest and she took the bait. What a scumbag for breaking her heart then not allowing her to move on and heal while he focuses on his wife. This was a selfish act and extremely tactless and harmful to her moving on and fogetting him. Now all the analyzing, questions and windering about his intentions begins all over. So thoughtless of him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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