idk0913 Posted February 17, 2016 Posted February 17, 2016 Hey Loveshack, I'm back. If you recall the threads I started about a girl I was seeing for about a month - well that has completely died. It's a bummer because I really did like the girl, but there's just no way it was going to work. She gave the excuse of not being ready for commitment right now and I know a lot of people will say that means she's just not that into me, so it is what it is. Anyways, I haven't really been actively looking for new dates as it's only been 2 weeks or so since whatever that was ended, but I did come across something today. About three months ago, I met this really beautiful and cool girl. The thing is, I met her because she had met one of my best friends on Tinder and she was out with us one night. However, I got the vibe that she was kind of into me because whenever my buddy was at the bar buying drinks, she was engaging with me and she kept finding reasons to touch me. But I know she could also just be flirty. They never saw each other again after that and while I did think about her because she was so pretty and we did seem to get along quite well in the few hours we were together, I never thought to reach out to her for a number of reasons: 1) At that point I had only been single for barely four months or so and I felt like I needed more time by myself. 2) If she was into my friend, I didn't think she'd be into me because we're very different in terms of our personality and appearance. Then again they did only see each other once and it was something from Tinder. 3) And probably most notably, as I mentioned in this thread, I have always severely lacked confidence when it comes to approaching women I find attractive. And this girl is no exception. I just shrugged it off that there's no way she'd ever really consider me. However, I was on the phone with my buddy earlier today, the one who matched with her on Tinder, and he brought her up. He was like "hey man, why don't you see if you can get together with [blank]? I really don't care and I kind of think she was into you that night." I laughed and said no way dude, plus that'd be awkward. That's the only night I ever met her and even though we became friends on Facebook/Instagram and have liked each other's posts...we've never interacted since then. Well, after we got off the phone I continued to think about it and said, why not? What's the worst that can happen? So I logged onto Facebook and wrote her a message... It was very casual, I basically told her I had recently moved back home (as I technically hadn't when we met) and that I'm looking for new people to hang out with and she seemed cool, so if she ever wanted to hang out to let me know. I also gave her my number. To my surprise, she replied not even 5 minutes later. She said she'd definitely wants to hang out and that maybe we could do something this weekend and then concluded by saying "I'll text you and we'll figure it out (:" And being the overthinker I am, now I'm freaking out and my mind is running a million miles per hour. Does she want to just hang out as friends? Is she interested in seeing if there's something more? The message I sent her was extremely casual - I didn't try to insinuate a date or anything like that since we hardly know each other. The last thing I wanted to do was come across as a creep. Has anyone else ever been in a situation like this? I'm sure my best course of action will be to just feel it out and see how the night goes, but needless to say I'm nervous. Any insight is appreciated as always! Thanks guys and girls.
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