It took time but a little karma did happen.

[nineyearsgone79]

Hey Guys! Well it's been a while since I've written on here. Everyone was so helpful during my painful breakup in late 2009. Basically my bf of 9 years left me for his sister in law. He dumped me via a 3 sentence email with no explanation and never talked to me again.. just vanished off the earth. In his short letter he had said if I tired to reach out I would be ignored and I was via email and phone. I only learned about this sister in law relationship through internet hunting on instagram & twitter. It had looked like his sister set them up and she encouraged him to leave me in the way he did. Anyway.. it was hard to move on but I eventually did but once in a while would wonder how can people treat someone else like this with no regret or karma etc. Anyway just the other day out of boredom I looked up his sister and wammo she's now divorced from the guy who's sister is still dating my ex. Anyway.. his sisters NOW ex husband had apparently knocked up another woman and I guess left her. This new lady has a police record.. wow. As for my ex well he's still dating that girl .. and it's been 6 years of dating. I wonder when she'll realize her bf just likes to lead girls on. He led me on with promises for 9 years and then poof dumped me at age 30! Anyway.. I just wanted to say wow sometimes things happen for a reason. At the time I didn't see it.. I didn't understand it. I was completely broken. I'm so excited to be getting married and am enjoying the house me and my fiance purchased last year. He is a real man and not the boy my ex turned out to be. Anyway.. I just wanted to share and let those out there know.. although right now you might be feeling totally 100% in pain it will subside in time. .. And I think there is a bit of karma out there. How ironic is it that his sister who encouraged him to push me out of his life would get divorced 1 month before I got married. Weird.

Edited February 18, 2016 by nineyearsgone79

[salparadise]

He led me on with promises for 9 years and then poof dumped me at age 30! Anyway.. I just wanted to say wow sometimes things happen for a reason. At the time I didn't see it.

 

 

What about happenstance, randomness; does it exist at all or is it purely an illusion?

 

So you figure that the great deity in the sky was sitting on this one for six years and finally decided (also for a reason I presume) that it was time... and he (or she) said to himself or herself... boyfriend of sister of ex of nineyearsgone, I'm going to send something easy and fertile your way and when you hit it you're going to knock it outta da park... because nineyearsgone has been watching twitter and instagram for six years and today is her day, so hit it real good for her and spill none on the ground... and keep in mind that sometimes things happen for a reason, and nineyearsgone will be entitled to post that on LS, instagram and twitter.

 

Ah, yea Karma... what would we do without it? We're happy for ya.

Edited February 18, 2016 by salparadise

[nineyearsgone79]

Well little Sala.. Karma isn't about a deity if you had "the google." Karma means any action, work or deed;[1] it also refers to the spiritual principle of cause and effect where intent and actions of an individual (cause) influence the future of that individual (effect).[2] Good intent and good deed contribute to good karma and future happiness, while bad intent and bad deed contribute to bad karma and future suffering.

 

So your entire argument is sadly null and void. Anyway.. maybe you'll take a little time to do your research before disparaging my story and bringing "God" into your false argument.

 

All I know is 6 years ago he wrecked my life and she played a huge part. When I received the email I tried to call and she picked up the phone and said hello and then hung up on me when I said "hi." I remember thinking wow what if she was treated like that by her fiance. She wrote me just saying "move on" and that was 1 day after the breakup. She didn't have to chat but .. hang up.. cowardly loathsome family. I never did anything I was always there for him. He's extremely close with his sister and really liked her husband so I'm glad the guy turned into a pig. Now that's gotta be awkward that he's dating his sister still.. ahh family get togethers.. how uncomfortable.. DOH! I use to see pictures days after the breakup he posted of the 4 of them out at dinner and all looking so happy and carefree. Well now that girl gets to come home at night from her crappy fast food job and take care of her 5 year old daughter all alone. She's not living in their nice house together instead a tiny crappy old condo. Am I feeling a little satisfaction.. um yes. I'm also glad to see that my ex went nowhere with his career as a painter. I ended up meeting a successful banker who has a good head on his shoulders and is 100x the man that coward little boy was. So.. yah feeling good. It was just a wee cherry on the sundae of life.

 

You seema little grumpy. Who peed in your kool aid?

Edited February 18, 2016 by nineyearsgone79

[preraph]

I only call it karma in a joking way, but I had a validation last year from something from a long time ago. A bf's second wife, it was clear to everyone but him, was not right in the head. She hated all women and in a social situation, she spent most of her time literally head bent over onto one of his close friend's shoulders crying because she was jealous and possessive. Well, she ended up cheating with a guy back then who I was friends with and then when they barely knew each other, got married, and I was mad at him for it, too, and my last words to him were "Why would you marry that psycho?"

 

Even though the ex-bf (who I was then working with) had been really gullible when he married her, I still felt sorry for him. He's just so clueless and easily manipulated. She looked good on paper. Anyway, the ex-bf and I keep in touch 30-some years later and once in a blue moon go do something together and when we got together last year, he told me that 2nd wife had ended up in prison for committing fraud on people, including the guy who married her and her own son. At the time the ex found out about her cheating and divorced her, I'd told him I never liked her. And he'd said, Well, why didn't you say something? He said, "Some of my other friends said the same thing. Why didn't anyone say anything?" And I said, "Well, I'm not the one to be doing it since I dated you and was working with you."

 

Anyway, I didn't find it so much karma as validation that I was right about her and that his judgment is not the greatest -- and the reason I care about that is because of some ups and downs between he and I that I wanted to believe weren't purposely hurtful.

[ilovemefirst]

Karma eventually catches up to the ones who hurt others..my ex treated me terribly..he was an alcoholic and he would verbally abuse me. I couldnt take it any longer, so i ended things. He started dating this other girl, who had a drug problem...well ..she treated him the same way he treated me....and he msged me a year later to say karma bit him badly..i kinda felt bad for him..but i was glad that he learnt this lesson.